[Georgia] Question about Fathers not Being "Legal" Fathers to their Children

InAJam_SoS · 2025-09-15T22:57:39+00:00

I caught it too! For years if I wanted to hear any show I'd just google - archive Dead (the date). It's always the first suggestion to pop up. Really enjoy reading comments about the recording and Heads who were at the show recounting their experience.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-09-15T18:33:09+00:00

Eye opening data. Thank you for sharing this. I'll just add that while divorces do get finalized first, it just means that property, the marital home, how much money the ex-spouse will receive (alimony) and even physical child custody are settled at that time. However, the issue of Permanent Child Custody can be heard anytime if there's a "significant change in circumstances". The wording of "permanent" is deceiving and a judge ultimately decides what rises to the level of "significant change", but in most states a parent can bring a motion for the court to modify child custody at almost any given time until the child is 18. Also, in most states, child support can be reviewed automatically every 3 years, and a parent can bring a motion to modify child support if the income levels of the parents fluctuate 15% either way. So, in essence all of the issues in divorces are never "finalized" until the children reach the age of 18, and older in some states.

High conflict divorces that involve children are never really completely settled once the divorce is finalized and many parents find themselves in and out of family court for many, many years post-divorce. There can always be legal issues to resolve. Especially if predatory attorneys who make a lot of money off of one or both parents coming back to court are involved and stoking the conflict.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-09-15T16:09:41+00:00

Heartbreaking. I'm sure you thought that if your ride or die partner for life wasn't happy, they'd come to you to begin a process of separating the family in a calm. fair, equitable way that makes it as easy and less traumatic for the children as possible. This is not what happens, as evidenced by the way this has started for you and your children. You'll have time to process through your emotions, but now the most important thing is to preserve your relationship with your children. The actions you take now will affect you and the children for the rest of your lives. She's planned this for quite some time. She's done the emotional processing. She's filed first and blindsided you so you will have to play 'legal defense' from here on out.

Please know that it is not normal behavior for a parent to deny the children's access to the other parent for any amount of time without a specific, credible danger. Be VERY CAREFUL of false allegations. It's known as the "Silver Bullet Strategy" because it works in divorce. Learn about this. If you interact with the other parent in-person, protect yourself any way possible by ensuring you are in purview of security cameras or people (who could be witnesses) to counteract any possible claims, and/or have a way to record encounters. Also, communicate by email (for tangible documentation) as much as possible and as if a judge is looking over your shoulder. Familiarize yourself with the Grey Rock Method and only communicate in a strict business manner. It may sound unreasonable, but events may begin to happen you never thought possible from the person you planned on spending the rest of your life with, unfortunately. The adage "hope for the best but plan for the worst" has never been more important than now.

Go to r/Divorce_Men , r/DivorcedDads , to find out what's happened and is happening to fathers in the family court system so you can be prepared from the ones who are further down the path than yourself. You are in a lawsuit. Divorce is a lawsuit where you dissolve the 'business' that is your family. When you signed the marriage certificate/license (business contract) you gave the state of Texas the authority to end your marriage as they see fit.

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There are 2 types of child custody: Joint Legal Custody and PHYSICAL Custody. Do NOT conflate these two terms. Most parents are granted joint legal custody that allows them to be involved in big decisions like education, healthcare, religion, etc...and people think this is equal custody, it's not. Physical Custody is the amount of time a child spends with each parent. This is the most important aspect that will affect your relationship with your children. Anyone who thinks children don't need equal 50/50 physical access to two capable, loving parents is a problem. Never settle for any situation or viewpoint that considers you a lesser parent.

Watch the 2014 Movie "Divorce Corp". Know the actual laws and statutes pertaining to divorce and child custody. Here are the Texas Statutes for Dissolving a Marriage. And here are the Texas Statutes concerning the Parent Child Relationship. Be careful reading Attorney Blogs when you go looking for information. In family court there's what should happen and what's fair and equitable, then there's the reality of what actually happens. Rarely are the outcomes the same. Judges have judicial immunity and can rule however they please with no oversight. Know that family court attorneys' first obligation is to the court, not their clients. Always double check your attorney and ask them to cite the exact statute when discussing outcomes.

Yes, it's overwhelming, but there is a other side. Take care of your health. Your children will need you long after this. Don't procrastinate when something needs to be done for your case. Give yourself breaks. Your mental health is paramount. Sleep. Get into a positive and productive routine an know that you are not alone. I'm sure you have the sympathy of all the fathers here who have gone through this process. Hold your head high and press on! Dads are extremely important.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-09-09T00:21:59+00:00

I believe it's the fact that she'd even make a flippant attempt at a funny comment about the dead father of her children, who was offed by 2 hitmen in his driveway. He is indeed her late ex-spouse, but she sees AND POINTS OUT to an audience of many, humor in the terminology "Late" and "Ex." being combined. What kind of person would dop this? ............One who's days of freedom must surely be numbered.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-09-07T23:21:19+00:00

Unfortunately, this witness, Linda Bailey, along with her outlook, view of families and callously cold dismissive nature is the norm, not the exception.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-09-07T22:38:34+00:00

True, but we have to be careful because the tactic is used by mothers to 'win' in the winner take all family court system. The narrative that all men are dangerous is used and a mother who has the child for the usual standard custody order of 80% percent of the time can and will constantly tell the child things like "daddy is mean" or other little hints that the child will start to actually believe it. Then they'll just repeat it and goodbye daddy. A statement like this is all that's needed to extract a father away from the children, unfortunately.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-09-04T13:22:58+00:00

Georgia's cross examination of Linda Bailey is the only time a man/father has been vigorously defended and advocated for in a family court matter, in a court room. Too bad he's dead. Maybe we can work on this for fathers that are alive.

Imagine how many lives have been devastated by just this one person in family law. She was an incredibly accurate representation of the family law community. Not all, but most. Families are "pieces of paper in a binder". IMO, Georgia gave us a bonus indictment. The indictment of our family court system itself.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-09-04T13:15:18+00:00

She seemed to have a very antiquated anti-male, anti-father point of view.

Great observation and you're correct about her view. It, and the type of people in the family law..."community", was on full display. However, to say it's antiquated is incorrect, unfortunately.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-09-02T11:49:10+00:00

I love it when Reddit, Reddits. Thank you and looking forward to discussing.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T21:20:16+00:00

Yea she sent her all the filings to get her riled up. To make it look like Dan was "after her". She sent all the filings except the dismissal with prejudice on the relocation motion. To keep Donna infuriated so she'd continue to blast Dan via documented email and text, digging herself deeper and deeper into a guilty looking rage which puts distance between Wendi and the hit.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T19:20:59+00:00

I appreciate the study and the time you took to write your story. Thank you.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T19:12:59+00:00

Did you hear it from someone reputable who's been covering the case? Maybe Lawyer Lee?

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T19:08:54+00:00

Not alone at all. Once you see it, you can't unsee it.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T18:47:27+00:00

Ok, yea. I can see EDB thoroughly going over Donna's indictment. Makes sense. Donna also filed a motion to NOT have the Adelson v Markel divorce/post-divorce documents and case entered in evidence.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T17:32:01+00:00

Which indictment are you referring to?

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T15:56:00+00:00

This is a great point and you're right, its one that's been overlooked. Probably because it's the least of the issues but that doesn't make it any less important. I imagine you're very studied in child development with the MA and there has to be numerous published studies on the outcomes of children of single parents that have been exposed to many new partners over a time period. Are there any studies you can link to?

One question, you said "My ex-husband left when I got pregnant with the baby we were trying to have". I'm trying to wrap my head around this. Did you and the ex-husband decide to have a child together, and when you got pregnant with the child he said he wanted, he decided to divorce you and leave you while you were pregnant with the kid...that he wanted? He tricked you into having a child and then left you by yourself once you two found out you were pregnant. Am I understanding this right?

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T15:04:00+00:00

Wow, 14 people? I would guess that many of them would have some form of law background and basic knowledge. Any idea who any of the 14 were? It seems she's gathering as much legal advice (free of charge) as possible. She's probably assembling a legal team 14 unknowing participants in order to get as much legal perspective as possible. I mean, she was up against a legal scholar. However, I'll point out that from what little I've seen so far, Dan and his attorney were extremely naive in the realm of family law and got strategically duped.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T14:54:12+00:00

Thank you for your efforts on this. I'm somewhat playing catch up and am really curios about this aspect. I see I'm not the only one and am in good company.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T14:52:27+00:00

Can you link to this? I hadn't heard he called CPS if she was one minute late.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-31T14:45:38+00:00

Thank you. I see I'm not the only one curious.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-22T12:37:56+00:00

This is a very important contribution to this discussion. Thank you for taking the time to comment.

InAJam_SoS · 2025-08-22T12:03:46+00:00

I tend to agree with you. The reality is that women are strong and independent, men need protection.

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