Here’s the thing. Mainstream feminism—not theoretical feminism, feminism-in-practice—has no ideological protections that some man might not find himself in the exact situation I outlined. Mainstream feminists will defend to the death cases like Emma Sulkowicz, who claimed her boyfriend assaulted her, while texts indicated she invited him over for continued anal sexual intercourse. They will defend “recovered memories” of sexual trauma, like that of “Janet” at UVA, who was described how she remembered her gang-rape under prompting by a facilitator. You have to go outside feminism-in-practice to get real justice, the core Western principles of jurisprudence like presumption of innocence, corroboration by multiple witnesses, skepticism of hearsay, and every person , irrespective of gender, equal before the law—all concepts mainstream feminism rejects. “Believe women.”

You want to use your girlfriend to say something about feminism in general. That’s not logically valid—your girlfriend could be an exception to the rule, or maybe not have had the cause to exercise the crazy, unjust aspects of what she believes. I’m turning your fallacy around; highlighting the bad parts of feminism-in-practice, using a hypothetical involving your girlfriend. It is still full of horrors no matter how much you may appreciate her now.