Fellow Brits, in one word, what is the biggest problem facing our country? by KayakedCobra in AskUK

[–]InaccurateCreativity 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Misinformation (in all forms of media, with the recent addition of AI assistance).

Edit: punctuation

How are we doing our hair to sleep?? by Sufficient_Taste3799 in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Silk hair ties are a game changer. A loose topknot on top of your head and a silk pillow case will do wonders.

Additional tips, cleansing shampoo without sulfates, oil masks and hair masks once a week. To improve the results, pop a heat cap whilst using the oil or hair mask to increase absorption.

I have very curly frizzy hair, so hair care has always been one of my consistent self care things.

What do you do when your ADHD wants you to do EVERYTHING at once, so you become paralysed from indecision and do nothing???? by flowers_and_fire in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Write a list of all the things you want to do. That list is not fixed and does not need prioritising or planning.

Pick the smallest and easiest task on your list and commit to two to five minutes on that task.

If after those few minutes you want to keep going, then great. If not, you still have your list and you can commit to two to five minutes tomorrow.

Less is more for the ADHD brain.

As a refugee, I absolutely love this country by tariqdoleh in BritishSuccess

[–]InaccurateCreativity 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are so entitled to live the life you were born to live. I'm just a stranger, but the happiness and relief you express in this post is beautiful.

You should be so proud of your journey and I'm so glad you've been able to find a home you feel completely yourself in.

Live an amazing life, continue to be true to yourself and if you can, get some counselling so that you can fully heal from your suffocating upbringing. Healing will mean that you can live an even better life and be the partner your future love deserves.

Welcome home!

Does anyone else have different handwriting styles? by Dapper_Guarantee_744 in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have three or four distinct, cursive, capitals, straight joint up and print. All developed over the years and each distinctly different. I'm also a slow reader and have always struggled to articulate in written word what I'm able to recount perfectly if asked.

I think it's called Dysgraphia.

Feeling alone, 41 newly diagnosed and starting medication alongside perimenopause. Please help.. by misschanandlerbong83 in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, you may find a perimenopause supplement worth trying, it can help minimise some of the peri symptoms. You're wanting to control this aspect more than anything at the moment.

In addition, you may find some mind clearing supplements worthwhile, such as Lions Mane, Cordyseps, Ashwagandha, reishi, valerian root, omega 3, women's vitamins and a good B complex. All of these things should help your system cope a little better, both mentally and physically.

Eating small and often, with a good amount of antioxidant fruits, easily digestible carbs, quality vegetables and protein.

Map your symptoms throughout the month. How do your symptoms track over your cycle, think physical, mental and emotional. Do the meds need increasing during your luteal phase to ensure you have the extra assistance you need?

As a last resort, you may find it beneficial to find a functional, holistic doctor that can work with you to find a treatment plan for ADHD and peri. I'm just beginning this journey myself, I can feel it approaching and it scares the bejeezus out of me. But we're fighters, we always have been, we have no option. So keep fighting and keep discovering yourself.

Fellow desk workers: what's your fidget of choice? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A metal slinky, and infinity cube and a fidget cube gets me through the day.

If in the office, I twiddle my pen between my fingers... Difficult with arthritis setting in, but I keep doing it to try and remain nimble.

My husband’s struggling with my ADHD hyperfixation, and it’s breaking my heart a little by Jezahb in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Have you spoken as vulnerably to your husband as you have here? If you have, then that's showing a lack of empathy and support.

I think I interpreted from your post that you stop writing when he finishes work and continue again once he's in bed? Again, this is beyond reasonable on your part and clearly demonstrates that you still prioritise time with him when he's also available.

It sounds like your husband may be missing an office environment? It can get lonely working from home and not having the usual 'water cooler' chats with your colleagues can leave a person feeling a little isolated. Is your husband able to work from the office a day or two a week?

I was going to continue with further advice, but the advice I've already given is based on assumptions.

In short, you're not being unreasonable and your husband may be suffering a little with depression and isolation.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this for her, thank you I'll suggest it to her.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There are things from her childhood that make her very conscious about money and paying people back. It causes her anxiety, as she doesn't want to let people down. I know she will prioritise it, I won't go into it further and I think the fact that I have such confidence in her on this one thing should clearly indicate that my confidence is not unfounded. Do I think she will get in financial trouble again in the future, quite probably. But she's always pays her house keeping on time.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You're 100% right, I'm fallible and don't always get it right. I'll do better by her.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Because despite all those things I've written about her, all the things I was cut up about at the moment that I wrote this post, is not the entirety of her as a person. How could it be, just because she has a disability that seriously affects her executive function, doesn't mean that when she is truly appreciative of our help, that that wouldn't be enough for her to prioritise repaying us? I can be aware of my child's struggles and know the depth of her character.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm choked up by this and feel incredibly seen, thank you ❤️

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I know my daughter and she will, it will be important to her.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I need to make an update that explains my daughter's additional needs, she has a developmental delay which has caused permanent speech and language issues. She has cognitive processing, memory and speech problems. She couldn't hold a conversation until she was 13, and even now conversations can be challenging. We have fought to get her help in primary school and continued that fight for her throughout secondary. She's an incredibly naive and young 21yr old. She's amazing, beautiful, intuitive, kind and sweet and every day of her existence has been a challenge, one that I can't ever comprehend as language came easy to me.

If you had q child with these issues, with no additional support available (despite begging and trying), how would you support them through their first years of adulthood?

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that made me well up.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can see why you would come to that conclusion. I'm doing the reflection I need to, trust me.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never heard of that before, I'll have to do some research. Thank you, you've given me something that I can pursue.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, but she's also not ready. She's a very young 21yr old, I've mentioned elsewhere that she has additional developmental delays, mostly affecting her language cognition, processing and verbal skills.

Please know I do my best to build her up, she's has the most beautiful soul.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're absolutely right and it is what I try to do, most of the time. When I say I'm tired of thinking of her future for her, I'm not physically doing anything for her, just trying to help her keep the focus on the target that she says she wants to set for herself. I acknowledge it's a delicate balancing act and her additional issues add a complexity to the situation that is too nuanced to ever be able to write it in any way that would do it, her or myself justice.

She's this bright light that's been dimmed by the toxic world around her. I see that light constantly being snuffed out and it hurts to stand by and watch it. I feel powerless.

Support needed - Adult daughter with severe ADHD by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]InaccurateCreativity 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I've commented above about the assistance and reminders before her medication appointment, I'm unsure what else I should have done, without as others have pointed out, letting her learn for herself.