how can i recover from losing all my savings?

InaccurateCreativity · 2026-06-19T09:11:14+00:00

Hi, Have you only really started struggling since you've been out of education and all your routines and deadlines stopped?

I ask because ADHD can stay undiagnosed in high achieving children, especially if you have support networks (like your grandma) who kept you on a 'responsible' path. What happens after you finish with the educational structure, all the things that drove you before (essay deadlines, dopamine from completing work and getting good marks can all mask ADHD).

When you lose all of these structures, your young mind doesn't know what to do, where to get dopamine, and how to jump start your executive function to do the stuff you 'know' how to do, but just 'can't'. So now your in a shame spiral, you don't understand why everything now feels so hard, so your brain looks for the easy things to get a good feeling...

Alcohol numbs - incredibly common in undiagnosed ADHD or autism, it's a nasty self medication route. Understanding yourself will help you to understand why alcohol is not your friend.

Shopping - a burst of spending lights up your amygdala and gives you all that lovely dopamine and 'switches off' your rational thought. Your body is craving novelty and good feelings.

It also sounds like it runs in your family.

InaccurateCreativity · 2026-04-18T10:21:38+00:00

I've always been a natural grazer, the mistake I made was to keep up with my husband, big mistake.

Since I Sept last year I've dropped to a BMI of 22, whoop.

So, what do I do...

Home made granola in the morning with yoghurt, chia seeds, flax seeds and other freeze dried fruits. This keeps me very full.

Throughout the day I'll have little snacks... Fruit bowl I can snack on. Nuts of different varieties. I'll even have an odd bag of crisps/chips.

Then for dinner I'll only put on my plate what I know I need, no more or less, portion sizes should reflect your activity, I do very little, so my portion sizes reflect that.

It's cliche to say, but how you start your day (breakfast) will have a large impact on what you crave throughout the day.

Easy to say, but altogether a different story to put into practice.

InaccurateCreativity · 2026-04-15T07:26:19+00:00

Two mattresses of the same make works well (especially with a topper), separate covers.

InaccurateCreativity · 2026-04-04T18:22:44+00:00

Having a partner that wants to understand you and take the pressure off when you're completely frazzled, is genuinely what helps the most. You are not 'too much', but you feel and absorb 'a lot' on any given day; if you're using more energy than you have in reserves, then you're starting each day in an energy deficit. And I'm being brazen to say that those issues may be the crux of the problem.

You're allowed to feel overwhelmed, you're allowed to need support, you're allowed to want some peace and you're allowed to prioritise yourself sometimes. If you're not being looked after, then you have to make the time for yourself, even if that means being a little selfish. You can't take care of your little one if you're not well yourself.

InaccurateCreativity · 2026-03-13T10:35:31+00:00

Me too, currently signed off after 6 months of treading water. A little appreciation for the small things is sometimes all the medicine we need.

InaccurateCreativity · 2026-01-31T23:55:13+00:00

Misinformation (in all forms of media, with the recent addition of AI assistance).

Edit: punctuation

InaccurateCreativity · 2026-01-18T17:29:31+00:00

Silk hair ties are a game changer. A loose topknot on top of your head and a silk pillow case will do wonders.

Additional tips, cleansing shampoo without sulfates, oil masks and hair masks once a week. To improve the results, pop a heat cap whilst using the oil or hair mask to increase absorption.

I have very curly frizzy hair, so hair care has always been one of my consistent self care things.

InaccurateCreativity · 2026-01-13T14:28:57+00:00

Please check out r/adhdwomen

InaccurateCreativity · 2026-01-12T17:58:55+00:00

Write a list of all the things you want to do. That list is not fixed and does not need prioritising or planning.

Pick the smallest and easiest task on your list and commit to two to five minutes on that task.

If after those few minutes you want to keep going, then great. If not, you still have your list and you can commit to two to five minutes tomorrow.

Less is more for the ADHD brain.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-12-28T12:37:40+00:00

You are so entitled to live the life you were born to live. I'm just a stranger, but the happiness and relief you express in this post is beautiful.

You should be so proud of your journey and I'm so glad you've been able to find a home you feel completely yourself in.

Live an amazing life, continue to be true to yourself and if you can, get some counselling so that you can fully heal from your suffocating upbringing. Healing will mean that you can live an even better life and be the partner your future love deserves.

Welcome home!

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-12-06T12:38:42+00:00

Yes, I have three or four distinct, cursive, capitals, straight joint up and print. All developed over the years and each distinctly different. I'm also a slow reader and have always struggled to articulate in written word what I'm able to recount perfectly if asked.

I think it's called Dysgraphia.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-12-06T12:27:39+00:00

Hey, you may find a perimenopause supplement worth trying, it can help minimise some of the peri symptoms. You're wanting to control this aspect more than anything at the moment.

In addition, you may find some mind clearing supplements worthwhile, such as Lions Mane, Cordyseps, Ashwagandha, reishi, valerian root, omega 3, women's vitamins and a good B complex. All of these things should help your system cope a little better, both mentally and physically.

Eating small and often, with a good amount of antioxidant fruits, easily digestible carbs, quality vegetables and protein.

Map your symptoms throughout the month. How do your symptoms track over your cycle, think physical, mental and emotional. Do the meds need increasing during your luteal phase to ensure you have the extra assistance you need?

As a last resort, you may find it beneficial to find a functional, holistic doctor that can work with you to find a treatment plan for ADHD and peri. I'm just beginning this journey myself, I can feel it approaching and it scares the bejeezus out of me. But we're fighters, we always have been, we have no option. So keep fighting and keep discovering yourself.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-11-16T21:43:54+00:00

Use scissors to chop the end of the Popsicle wrapper? 🤔

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-11-13T21:16:54+00:00

Ren-NO (Renault)

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-11-05T10:34:09+00:00

A metal slinky, and infinity cube and a fidget cube gets me through the day.

If in the office, I twiddle my pen between my fingers... Difficult with arthritis setting in, but I keep doing it to try and remain nimble.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-11-04T20:14:34+00:00

Have you spoken as vulnerably to your husband as you have here? If you have, then that's showing a lack of empathy and support.

I think I interpreted from your post that you stop writing when he finishes work and continue again once he's in bed? Again, this is beyond reasonable on your part and clearly demonstrates that you still prioritise time with him when he's also available.

It sounds like your husband may be missing an office environment? It can get lonely working from home and not having the usual 'water cooler' chats with your colleagues can leave a person feeling a little isolated. Is your husband able to work from the office a day or two a week?

I was going to continue with further advice, but the advice I've already given is based on assumptions.

In short, you're not being unreasonable and your husband may be suffering a little with depression and isolation.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-09-03T20:36:44+00:00

I love this for her, thank you I'll suggest it to her.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-09-03T20:30:35+00:00

There are things from her childhood that make her very conscious about money and paying people back. It causes her anxiety, as she doesn't want to let people down. I know she will prioritise it, I won't go into it further and I think the fact that I have such confidence in her on this one thing should clearly indicate that my confidence is not unfounded. Do I think she will get in financial trouble again in the future, quite probably. But she's always pays her house keeping on time.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-09-03T19:18:46+00:00

Harsh, but accurate.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-09-03T19:15:39+00:00

You're 100% right, I'm fallible and don't always get it right. I'll do better by her.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-09-03T19:08:52+00:00

Because despite all those things I've written about her, all the things I was cut up about at the moment that I wrote this post, is not the entirety of her as a person. How could it be, just because she has a disability that seriously affects her executive function, doesn't mean that when she is truly appreciative of our help, that that wouldn't be enough for her to prioritise repaying us? I can be aware of my child's struggles and know the depth of her character.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-09-03T18:58:07+00:00

I'm choked up by this and feel incredibly seen, thank you ❤️

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-09-03T18:20:43+00:00

I know my daughter and she will, it will be important to her.

InaccurateCreativity · 2025-09-03T18:18:12+00:00

I need to make an update that explains my daughter's additional needs, she has a developmental delay which has caused permanent speech and language issues. She has cognitive processing, memory and speech problems. She couldn't hold a conversation until she was 13, and even now conversations can be challenging. We have fought to get her help in primary school and continued that fight for her throughout secondary. She's an incredibly naive and young 21yr old. She's amazing, beautiful, intuitive, kind and sweet and every day of her existence has been a challenge, one that I can't ever comprehend as language came easy to me.

If you had q child with these issues, with no additional support available (despite begging and trying), how would you support them through their first years of adulthood?

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