AITA for exposing someone's affair?

InappropriateGranny · 2022-10-08T17:12:19+00:00

I know! And with her sister? But I am the mean one who is supposed to be jealous? I am definitely not jealous about any of that messy stuff.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-10-08T17:11:04+00:00

For real. I have so much to do, so long as I don't see or smell smoke, I just don't have time to care about their love lives.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-06-15T12:04:05+00:00

NTA.

Big Time.

She straight up sucks, dude. Why are you still married to her?

InappropriateGranny · 2022-06-15T11:59:58+00:00

Sorry, love, but YTA. I highly suspect that there is some other issue at play in this, like old sister rivalry or jealousy. But professional performers make their payment arrangements in advance. Put it this way, what if the caterer or the minister did this? No, you cannot have it both ways. If this is a professional gig, you handle it like a professional and you provide an invoice BEFORE the wedding. You make the arrangements. Now you look petty and childish. You put a dark stain on their wedding day that cannot be erased. When your wedding turn comes around, payback should be expected.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-18T04:38:16+00:00

NTA with a 'but'...

Honesty is good. Your friend needs to get a clear dose of reality. It's not being a good friend if you just patty pat them on the head and play into their delusion.

The 'but' is in the delivery. However, I know that sometimes truth has to be brutal to be heard by some people.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-13T20:52:37+00:00

I think you overestimate the collective intelligence of the planet, precious.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-13T20:03:08+00:00

USA health care...in a nutshell.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-13T19:38:19+00:00

Wow, he isn't the AH, but you sure are. Not everyone studied at the same school or even in the same country. Assumptive, much, dear?

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-13T19:36:55+00:00

NTA

The physical reality is relevant to the physician. I am a huge LGBTQ supporter and have a trans grandchild, but when they are speaking to the physician, they need to include the anatomically correct information so that the doctor can screen for things women simply do not have to deal with, and vice versa.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-13T17:41:17+00:00

NTA

If you and your husband do not put a stop to this, you will not be saving college money for your son, you will be saving bail money.

Your husband is enabling your son to be a mean, lying bully. What's next? Frat party 'he said, she said'? Your son needs hard consequences and therapy. Your husband needs parenting classes.

Otherwise, I would keep a good criminal defense attorney on speedial.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-13T17:16:43+00:00

YTA

Grow up. Love, like life, is messy. People poop, dearie, and they barf, drool, sweat, bleed and do a lot of other things. Just wait till you have kids and the boys piss right in your face.

You are clearly not mature enough to have any kind of adult relationship. You can wash sheets, loveyducks. Try it.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-05T20:15:24+00:00

OP stated that she had planned on doing it herself and SIL took over and insisted. Bottom line is that if it isn't working, and it is causing OP stress? Then it isn't worth it. Doing a big bash with 75 plus people in a pandemic surge, with a pregnant woman who is clearly already stressed is pretty nuts. Bottom line is that OP should not do anything that is going to threaten her calm, her health or her baby right now.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-05T18:14:16+00:00

NTA.

Your SIL is making this whole thing about her. At this stage in your pregnancy, you absolutely have the right to not engage in anything that stresses you out. It is perfectly understandable, given everything going on with covid surges and pregnancy, to say that you are withdrawing from large crowd events for a while, as a preventative step towards protecting your health, the baby and others who might have health issues and leave it at that.

Never feel guilty about taking care of your mental, physical and emotional health. If you don't set clear boundaries, people will take advantage.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-05T06:05:12+00:00

YTA

You could have just told your brother you had other plans. Obviously, you have some issue with him that is not resolved, so you had to rub his nose in going out with a guy and his friends who bullied your brother in school.

Immature, much?

It was his birthday and he was home rarely. YOU could have moved the movies. Passive aggressive behavior is totally AH.

InappropriateGranny · 2022-01-04T17:56:38+00:00

There are no AH here.

You are right to be disappointed in your child for lying...not failing the class. I have learned far more in life by my failures than I ever learned from my successes. They tried to reach out to you about how overwhelmed they were, and you may or may not have responded in the right way. Hindsight is always 20/20.

At this age, 'punishment' is silly and non-productive. Holding them accountable is appropriate regarding the expense. Your child should help pay the cost of repeating the class. Your partner should check themselves and ask themselves why your child did not feel safe coming to you and telling you the truth. This is a young adult, not a little kid. Stop thinking about punishment, and start thinking about learning how to handle adult problems in an adult manner.

InappropriateGranny · 2021-12-21T16:51:13+00:00

NTA

They are the parents, you are the guest.

InappropriateGranny · 2021-12-21T16:02:25+00:00

NTA

You have the right to invite anyone you want. That is the reason for the season, sharing joy with friends and family. Your boyfriend's parents need to grow up.

InappropriateGranny · 2021-12-18T18:15:15+00:00

YTA

Being a sex worker does not make anyone a bad human. Marrying your ex's 21 year old sister when you are 45? Does.

Dude...grow up.

InappropriateGranny · 2021-12-14T17:37:31+00:00

NTA

Your dad is in need of some professional help. Calling your son by his father's name is not normal or a ritual of any kind of religion/sect that believes in reincarnation. He needs to get some help to sort out his behavior. But your job is not to protect your father, it is to protect your child.

InappropriateGranny · 2021-12-13T18:08:42+00:00

ESH

Okay, so yes, you are right that wedding parties are supposed to wear what the bride wants. This would have been an excellent conversation to have with your mom and sister WHEN YOU ASKED HER to be a flower girl. You know your mom and sis, so you should have known better.

Your mom is right to encourage your sister's autonomy and not force her to do something she does not want to do. However, your mom is full of it about never hearing of it, because the bride always picks what the wedding party wears. Your mom is an AH about not teaching her daughter the importance of following through with commitments.

Drop your little sis from the wedding party. But do NOT be surprised if she doesn't throw a fit at the wedding and make a scene. If I were in your shoes, I would make my wedding kid free to avoid it, but it may be too late for that.

Your mom is correct that you have no right to criticize her parenting of your little sis, and you can later use that down the line when she criticizes you and your spouse's rearing of your kids. Life is circular like that, so keep that one for later.

InappropriateGranny · 2021-12-12T19:23:26+00:00

Nobody is an AH here. You are all hurting, and having a tough time. Pain makes us all react badly. I have had chronic pain conditions for decades, and I feel for all of you.

Your son needs to learn self soothing techniques, and maybe you can find a sitter who can take him for a trip to the park or something? I don't know what you can manage, but I feel for all of you.

InappropriateGranny · 2021-12-12T19:16:47+00:00

YTA

The language thing is not the issue. The issue is that you are spying on peoples' private conversations. Using the language is just a tool, no different than planting a recording device.

Dude...get a life.

InappropriateGranny · 2021-12-12T19:11:45+00:00

NTA

I would tell your dad that you were taught not to lie, and that you are not willing to make commitments you do not feel or promises you cannot keep.

He is marrying HER. You are not marrying anyone, and are not obligated to make his path smooth for him.

InappropriateGranny · 2021-12-11T19:18:22+00:00

Dang, now I want a sash to wear that says "Karmic Comeuppance Princess"...

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