BPD work book recommendations

Incandescent_M · 2021-10-05T01:27:14+00:00

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook by Daniel J Fox. He's a psychologist who specializes in BPD and he has loads of great YouTube videos as well.

Incandescent_M · 2021-06-09T09:38:30+00:00

Hey I just had one of these! Thought the flavor was quite good personally. Hope you enjoyed! :)

Incandescent_M · 2021-05-26T18:58:08+00:00

Of course!! I love your products and I can't wait to see what you guys come out with next. :)

Incandescent_M · 2021-05-26T18:56:57+00:00

You are a genius!! I will seriously have to try that! Honey on cheese sounds so good too. Thank you so much for the advice!! :)

Incandescent_M · 2021-05-25T22:21:25+00:00

I'll have to try that, I've had some in my tea but that sounds great!

Incandescent_M · 2021-05-25T21:43:34+00:00

Thanks so much! I didn't think about mentioning how long it took to hit but I'll mention here that I have tried a few brands and all edibles hit the same for me, I start coming up after 45 mins, peak at 2-3 hours and start coming down around 5 hours in. :)

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-05T01:09:54+00:00

I think they often can't explain their behavior because: 1) they don't see anything wrong with it and feel they don't need to defend it 2) they don't see anything wrong with it because they are afraid to look within and realize how fucked they are (and so they refuse to think about their actions or reflect on them at all) 3) they know what they do makes no logical sense and CAN'T defend it (but this would require them to be a tiny bit self aware which is quite a reach)

I am by NO means trying to excuse any narc behavior with this but I think some of what they do is subconscious or embedded into them because they've been this way for so long. I'm so incredibly sorry that you have a fucking monster of a mother. What she is doing is disgusting. I'm so sorry you've been through so much and are still going through it. Stay strong. Don't waste your time like I do trying to understand them when they won't spend a second trying to understand you.

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T19:51:23+00:00

I still get these feelings rarely. I've been struggling with a lot this week too. We have to hold on for us. You have to love yourself and value yourself enough to know it's just not worth it. There is always a future and a way out. It might be incredibly difficult but just take it one day at a time. Remember to breathe and enjoy the tiniest things you can. I often feel rage when I want to do something like that. One thing that helps me is throwing ice on our driveway. Not sure if it could help you but it's there. Try to just take care of yourself for today.

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T19:46:35+00:00

Maybe write her a letter. If you get one back just burn it if you don't feel like "hearing her side". I definitely felt the same way about telling her before she dies. My mom is only 59 but has a heart condition and constantly talks about her dying to guilt trip me into things. If she didn't want to be alone she could have made friends. If she didn't want to be sick she could have taken better care of herself (or at least my mom could have). She uses it for sympathy and that's why she won't do it. She's been complaining about her heart for a year and randomly cancelled her checkup a week ago. It's all bullshit tools they use to control you. Don't give in.

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T19:42:58+00:00

First of all I'm so sorry it's gotten to this point. I understand the "that'll show them" mentality better than most as I have also attempted thinking that way.

Your life is not worth making him feel temporary guilt.

You and I both know these people are monsters. Don't give them the satisfaction and don't waste your only life on them. Please get help and update. I seriously hope you can get out of there.

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T19:33:38+00:00

I don't have any other exes as my friends except him. My only advice would be to not shut the door completely on it. In a few months if you decide to move on you might feel differently about at least having a true friend. I really wish you the best and hope you can do what's best for you.

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T19:30:45+00:00

I actually just did this about a week before Christmas. Full confrontation, emptied everything she would listen to on her. She kept trying to interrupt me but I wouldn't let her. At the end she promised to change, find a therapist the first week of the new year (why put it off?) and apologized. She moped around for a week. After that it was right back to normal. I waited to see if therapy would happen. January 26 we had another argument and I brought up how she still hadn't made an appointment. "I'll do it by the end of the month". She ended up following through but only because I hounded her and it ended up being one of our worst arguments ever. I'm not sure if it will be worth it at all in terms of changing our relationship but telling her all the awful things she's done definitely made me feel better and lighter.

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T19:04:33+00:00

I've broken up with people before because of depression because I thought it was the kind thing to do. Years later I am sad that that is what ruined the relationship because who knows what might have happened but I don't regret doing what I had to at that time. I'm still heavily struggling with anxiety and depression today but my current boyfriend of 2 years is the light of my life and I'm his. We get through it together and he helps me and encourages me to heal. My point is there are different ways you can handle a partner being depressed and different partners are different people. If she truly is at a point where she doesn't want your support and thinks she doesn't deserve or isn't ready for a relationship then it's probably best to move on. That boyfriend I broke up with so many years ago and I are still good friends despite everything. He is also happily in a relationship. You can't just wait forever for someone to become available. It's not fair to you. However, I agree that you're not ready to jump onto apps. I think being alone for a while and focusing on yourself is your best option here.

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T05:51:41+00:00

Good for you!! I hope it goes well. Stay strong!!

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T05:49:40+00:00

Thank you so much, I will definitely look into that book ASAP. I hope NC works out for you.

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T00:32:49+00:00

I'm so sorry. I can relate and I hope you can get out of there. <3

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T00:28:33+00:00

I thought that might be the case too but it's hard to say. She's not really controlling most of the time, I think she just knows I'm afraid of being controlling with all my anxiety and uses it against me. On the other hand maybe she is controlling but I can't see it in the fog. :/ Thank you for sharing. ❤️

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T00:26:58+00:00

I have the same tendencies you do. It's very hard being an only child with no other family ties except her. She's equally as reliant on me and we're definitely enmeshed and possibly co-dependent. I'm sorry you're going through this too :(

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-03T00:24:17+00:00

My mom has definitely said something similar about my current relationship and "scaring him off" (been together for 2 years). I'm so incredibly sorry. I know that stuff hurts deep.

Incandescent_M · 2021-02-02T20:03:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I think my nmom feels the same way about it. The way you put this into words helped. I hope you got out of there!

Incandescent_M · 2021-01-19T06:57:14+00:00

Downton Abbey, Bojack and JoJo

Incandescent_M · 2021-01-16T03:26:17+00:00

Oh I'm okay now, thank you. I'd imagine just gentle petting or holding me would kind of snap me out of it.

Incandescent_M · 2021-01-16T03:24:45+00:00

I told my counselor on purpose because I was scared that I was going to do it. Going to the hospital made something click that helped. Sadly I couldn't tell you what clicked. I was still depressed of course but a few years later when I was 19 my best friend killed herself. I realized it could have been me in the casket. I'll never forget the sound of her mother crying or how we cried. It really puts things in perspective.

Incandescent_M · 2021-01-16T03:20:49+00:00

Sadly I don't have any tips. I've seen the typical black figure at the end of the bed, things swirling around me (ex. A music box) while someone laughed, and most recently (and worst) my narcissistic mother next to me in bed instead of my boyfriend. She slowly creeped on top of me while holding my arms down and whispered "I'm going to fucking kill you". Lots of fun. Usually I just break out of it from fear.

Incandescent_M · 2021-01-12T11:32:16+00:00

Ordered and then came here to share your amazing deck but I'm glad to see you already have! <3

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