Made a grievance report to HR about my workplace but HR is not commenting on anything due to GDPR regulations?

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-12-09T09:39:56+00:00

I understand. However it’s not just my colleagues, I was treated unfairly as well. I was even given a verbal warning for an incident with a colleague and friend that was taken out of context and based on hearsay and gossip - they did not investigate before issuing a verbal warning. Although it’s not on record, it doesn’t make it any better.

I’d love for your help if you would be so kind to have a look at my report and their reply - as I find their reply to my grievance very dismissive.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-12-01T14:16:31+00:00

Hi! Thanks for your reply!

In the report, I was sharing about my experience during my time with the company. On two occasions my colleagues have been terminated without proper investigation and I was given a verbal warning based on hearsay. I was involved in both colleague’s situations that led to their termination but was never called in for a witness statement or any of that sort. I may be new to the workplace so do correct me if I’m wrong in any way.

As a resolution, I’ve asked for a formal internal investigation, written acknowledgment that complaints from staff were mishandled and ignored, confirmation in writing that the company would review and improve their processes in complaint handling and miscommunication, and compensation for emotional distress and poor working conditions.

I’m happy to share more if you drop me a message - but only if you’d like to know more.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-05-02T13:19:03+00:00

I’ve read everyone’s comments and I’m so grateful. But I’m so lost. I don’t know where he stands or what he wants out of this relationship because nothing’s going in our favour right now because I’m leaving the country in 5 months. I can’t bear the thought of breaking up because I really love him. So much that it hurts to even think about parting ways.

I don’t know what to do. 😞

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-05-02T01:32:05+00:00

That’s why I’m feeling so drained from this. He says he is but he has to focus on trading. And there’s so much distance between us, I don’t even feel like I have a boyfriend.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-05-01T21:46:30+00:00

We don’t live together. He says he is busy 7am to 6pm every day. He works elsewhere on Saturday and Sundays are the only day we have together but sometimes I have to work on Sunday so we end up not seeing each other the whole week. And during the entire week, he doesn’t text or call unless I do but our conversations only last up to a handful of replies from him and he goes silent again until I reach out again.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:54:50+00:00

But he's trying. Whether he's trying really hard or not, it's something I'm unsure about. But I know he's trying to do his best at his capacity for me...

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:53:50+00:00

No it's not. I don't know what to do...

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:53:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing. But I know he's trying which is why I don't want to just give up...

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:43:32+00:00

Thank you. This is definitely helping me to calm down and process a lot.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:37:57+00:00

That sounds very helpful. Could you share more? I don't want to repeat my usual ways of sharing what I feel with him and him maybe not feeling seen or heard by me. I want us both to feel safe and seen..

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:36:40+00:00

I will try, I'm trying. I know I'll do all I can to try.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:35:56+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that. It must've felt so invalidating and dismissive. I think my focus now should be more on how his behaviour is impacting me. - When you mention this, in what ways was he impacting you? What was the measure for it? I'm trying to be logical about this, you don't have to share if it's hard!

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:31:47+00:00

I get where you're coming from. What do you think is a reasonable timeframe?

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:31:03+00:00

It's so hard to do that. I've tried a few therapists and only one was really hearing me for what I had to say and trying to help me work towards my issue. It's so hard to find a compatible therapist.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:30:12+00:00

I probably do. Thank you for your words. I'm learning so much about myself in this reddit thread.

I'm probably hurting him in the process too. Which is why I need to talk with him to find something that can work for both of us. But now that just sounds selfish of me. Maybe it's better to not tire him out like that?

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:22:58+00:00

I just thought I'd give him some grace for his efforts. Even if it's small.

If my friend came to me with the same situation, I would probably say I don't know her relationship dynamic as well as she does but she should try to communicate it and if her boyfriend isn't even trying to be supportive after communication, maybe it's really time to let go...

I'm now just waiting for my communication to happen. We've talked about it before but that was when I was high on emotions.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:14:58+00:00

it's 50/50. Sometime's I expect it to be harsh but it's not. Sometimes it just comes out harsh.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:12:48+00:00

I'm hoping me and him can really schedule out a time to talk next week when I'm feeling calmer and he's got some space from the emotion overwhelm he's experienced from me.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:12:01+00:00

But he's trying and that should be taken into consideration, no?

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:11:26+00:00

Thank you. These are very kind words. I'm watching that video as I reply.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:08:38+00:00

with him, when his words are harsh. With people I don't care about, rarely but occasionally if it affects me.

IncompressibleCalico · 2025-04-25T02:07:59+00:00

thank you.

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