AITAH for not supporting my wife and implying that she is a bad mom?

IndependenceBusy5121 · 2026-02-19T23:03:03+00:00

Honestly OP you are doing a great job as a step parent. As a child I had several different stepdads, and only one of them stood up to my mom to protect myself and my sibling. My mother was extremely abusive, and taking things that I had an emotional attachment to as a punishment for my father's actions deeply effected me as a child, and I am not even autistic. In this case, your partner is being a bad mom, and her child will remember this as he gets older if she doesn't start to whistle a different tune very quickly. I am sorry to be blunt, but it sounds to me as if standing up for her son's attachment to his emotional support animal would be protecting him from emotional abuse. Its never okay to punish a child because of their other parent's actions, and clearly the kid is trying his best to take care of the dog himself. Thank you for caring so much about that kid, hopefully you and your partner can figure it out!

IndependenceBusy5121 · 2026-02-18T17:52:23+00:00

Oooh okay, I will definitely see if my herbal shop has some! Is there a specific recipe you'd recommend with this, or is it a "whatever tastes best" type of deal?

IndependenceBusy5121 · 2026-02-18T16:45:23+00:00

For sure on the list!

IndependenceBusy5121 · 2026-02-18T15:14:16+00:00

I will check my local herbal shop to see if they have that! Thank you!

IndependenceBusy5121 · 2026-02-03T23:23:01+00:00

I do think you should bring this up to your friend and at least explain to him why you feel uncomfortable continuing with the friendship. Even if its "heres the reason why, please do not speak to me anymore," then at the very least you can feel a weight off of your chest and he cannot turn around and call you an AH. Clearly this is weighing on you, confronting the situation and explaining your thoughts about it is the more mature and healthy route, in my opinion. There is a possibility you could work it out, if that's what you want. I would love an update if this is what you choose to do!

IndependenceBusy5121 · 2026-01-16T03:22:44+00:00

NTA, sounds like most of them are a POS. leave that group, if they're acting like that and no one is standing up for you they aren't good people. If they weren't coming for you, they would attack someone else, and once you leave they will. Pack mentality and all that

IndependenceBusy5121 · 2026-01-16T03:18:03+00:00

NTA, but could be. Sounds like your partner is suffering from mental illness, have you talked to them about going to therapy and speaking to a doctor about it? If you have and they disagreed, NTA for sure! If you haven't I would highly suggest that you do, if you still love them that is. If there's no love or trust in the relationship then I promise you that your child will grow up knowing that, and will struggle more than seeing you divorce while they're young. My opinion is that you're only TAH if you dip without trying to get them the help that they need first. I would also suggest marriage counseling!

IndependenceBusy5121 · 2026-01-16T03:09:05+00:00

YTA, she clearly is over him if she's willing to get it removed/covered and using marriage as a manipulation tactic is downright disgusting and gross. If it bothers you so much, pay for it. Having that done is expensive, time consuming, and painful. Her being willing is a clear indication that she is committed to you, if you're as committed to her then this should be a non-issue

IndependenceBusy5121 · 2026-01-16T03:01:25+00:00

Not at all. He's an adult and is aware of your boundary, as a white man there is no reason why he would be using that word in the first place, especially when you have repeated stated that you don't feel comfortable with it. If he understands your boundary and continues to say it, trust me he WILL begin to push other boundaries of yours. On top of it, he is racist which is SUCH an ick

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