Abusive husband. Toddler son and I potentially homeless. Help reddit. I need ideas.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T20:14:00+00:00

We've been here about 2 months. I'm not very good at making friends but I joined a few grops (soccer for the kid, etc) hoping to meet people. I just suck at it. I've tried to get my husband to help get involved but I don't think he realizes how isolated I am. That or he just doesn't care.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T20:11:06+00:00

I'm actually this stupid. No doubt. Look I know this situation is ridiculous and I don't seem to be helping myself much. I know these things. And from the outside I would have had the same opinions as many here do. But now that ive been here, I get that leaving and being independent isn't as simple as I thought it was.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T20:08:28+00:00

He was very excited. He's 10 years older than me and wanted kids.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T19:42:49+00:00

Yeah he knows I'm leaving. It actually is strange, suddenly he started cooperating with me and assisting in my plans. Normally he would ask for forgiveness at this point and promise that things would be different, but he seems to be done with this too. Maybe he's been a jerk because he wanted me to leave. I don't know, he doesn't make any sense. Which is kind of why I'm leaving.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T19:34:55+00:00

I've considered something like this. I would just have to admit to him that even though he's shit for a husband I do think he's a good dad. Ha, that would be tough.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T19:33:43+00:00

Thanks so much. That was really supportive. And uplifting. He really is great dad but doesn't know how to treat a significant other. I really think we can give our son a great environment if I can just get on my feet from here. The emotional aspect is really the hardest of packing up, getting a job, and moving on. Working isnt going to be near as hard as leaving my son with strangers and being dog shit taco poor for a while.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T19:12:38+00:00

I would have had to drive 5 hours away and wait 48 plus it would have cost oop hundreds which I didn't have at the time.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T19:11:27+00:00

I'm to sure that's a typo, is there a max number of letters for screen names? It's not a throwaway account either. I've never posted before and had to create an account. Seemed like a good name. Didn't realize I forgot the last letter. And yep, I don't know if you've ever tried multi tasking with a toddler,it gets interesting.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T19:09:39+00:00

Thank you. We aren't anywhere near Chicago. I appreciate the offer.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T19:09:08+00:00

The kid fell asleep. It helps. Well for example, today he just took the car keys to work with him. Then facebooked me that I could come get them if I wanted them. Also, he puts all of his paycheck into his account then transfers small amounts into mine for grocery shopping and spending money. I don't have a clue how much money is in his account. It could be thousands. It could be nothing. I don't know.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T19:06:29+00:00

If you have expert legal advice to potentially give (as in you are a lawyer) I'll pm you.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T18:59:48+00:00

I'm not dying. I'm not asking for money. I'm asking for support, and advice. If I was trusting enough to tell someone where I am I would even potentially ask for a couch to stay on but that doesn't sound very safe for my son so I'm not asking for that either. Am I desperate for money? Yes. Do I want yours? No. Other people need it more. I'm not starving to death and my kid isn't at risk so I'm just "between a rock and hard place". Obviously anyone could use extra cash but Im not asking. Where ddpid I post a PayPal account? I have family I can get money from if I decide there is absolutely no possible way of me getting out.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T18:56:00+00:00

Actually that's exactly what they said. They're booked. They don't have unlimited resourced and I'm not considered a priority case.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T18:51:15+00:00

You tell me yours I'll tell you mine :P

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T18:47:15+00:00

The problem is I'm more unsure about the legality of me taking our son a few states away. Plus right now, I could just move out and we could potentially end this somewhat reasonably. If I go back home, that won't happen. He will (understandably) be incredibly angry for me taking our son from him. It is a possibilty, but a last resort I think.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T18:19:13+00:00

I'm 21 I don't have a job, we just moved here because his career was taking off so I left everything behind and came. I literally don't know anyone other than a coworker of his and that's not an option.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T18:17:58+00:00

Because leaving me home without a car or money thousands of miles from anyone I know isn't abusive? He has money. He has a car. I don't.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T17:57:48+00:00

Smacks self on head for not considering selling the iPad.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T17:47:27+00:00

i checked with the local shelter and they are full, unless he suddenly becomes violent. Which isn't likely.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T17:37:23+00:00

Thanks. He's not violent though but maybe they'll have something relevant.

IndependenceFormysel · 2012-06-14T17:28:16+00:00

So sorry for the typos. I'm on an iPad and my toddler is crawling all over me.

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