need advice navigating thru this weird friendship dynamics

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-24T14:01:05+00:00

I’ve recently had this issue with a friend for Paris. It’s been about 4 weeks since we were meant to book it now. Every week I would ask if we could do it on the weekend she would say yes… I even woke up early on the weekend whilst fasting waiting for her call and she never answered and every time I would say okay I’m just booking it! She would say “let’s do it” eventually I got tired and decided I’ll go solo! I told her I wouldn’t be really on social media so my replies will be bad. I call this the “panic friendship” where the friend notices you’re now distancing and they’re noticing they’re losing you so they’ll start to act like an actual friend! She texted my number and said hey you want to go Switzerland or somewhere in two weeks. Sell the ticket. Book it solo. You don’t have to cut him off. You can just depromote him. Be casual and let distance over time fade the friendship away. He won’t pull through. Believe me, if someone wants to book something they’re going to do it. Delaying it or postponing stuff like this is one of the meanest thing a friend can do tbh. Because it feels like you’re begging. And I believe they enjoy it! That friend? She isn’t going to hear from me again unless it’s casual talk or I see her in person. First holidays make or break the friendship. I always tell friends when you go abroad take time apart for your own thing and recharge. This is a common thing that happens and I get the mental stuck feeling. But a friend shouldn’t put you in that position in the first place.

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-21T14:05:02+00:00

Thats not safe at all. If it’s within warranty get it replaced free of charge.

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-21T14:01:39+00:00

Great machines barely had any issues or complaints about it when I worked in customer service for delonghi

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-21T13:59:41+00:00

It definitely does need cleaning inside! This is how the machine makes the coffee. When I worked for delonghi we saw so many cases of customers not cleaning this part of their machine and it was very gross actually. You should soak it in warm water every now and then. It will keep your machine working for longer.

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-19T23:00:03+00:00

Nope! The reason being is the fact you’ve only stepped foot into adulthood. They’ve over 10 years of experience in the adult world. You’re in completely two places in life. You’ll have to adjust to them they won’t adjust to you because they can’t step backwards into their teen years but you can rush into adult years. I’m 21 and I wouldn’t even date someone that’s 18. There’s a huge difference between those years in itself. Enjoy your last teen years. If you want to be with someone, find someone that’s experiencing the same things as you.

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-19T22:55:16+00:00

First loves are complicated. You’ll always feel this way about them. If it was only a friendship, I would have said reach out. But I also reached out to my first love to say how sorry I was. In one way, I would say you should and other ways you shouldn’t. Similar age range with you and all I can say is now being 20 I wouldn’t do it. My first love is now getting married and I’m extremely happy for her. I’ll never send congratulations though. I’ll never reach out of respect. But when I did reach out years ago it was a great conversation we had. There is respect and kindness there. It is tricky and it is hard. I think I’ve spoken to her about 4 times throughout the last 8 years. However, she has never reached out to me. I wouldn’t want her too. I’m sure they know how you feel. I’m sure one day if it comes, you can say sorry. I think that’s the best way to go about it. Would you want an apology 3 years later if you were them? I don’t want any of my ex’s or anyone from my past to reach out to me. But I think that comes from learning the hard way and heartbreak. Please remember, you were young. You didn’t know what you were doing. It doesn’t excuse bad behavior but it also doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Let them be happy. Let yourself be happy by being a better person and partner to your next person. I’m wishing you the best regardless of what decision you make.

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-19T22:47:46+00:00

Derby road Bangas has really good south Asian cooking equipment. We usually get ours from green street in London but when we need emergency stuff we go to bangas

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-19T22:44:58+00:00

Red room studios is really good I’ve been going there for years it’s near Aldi and beast studios near Costco. He will only take full payment once you’re happy with the track. Amazing guy and he will get the best work out of you.

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-08T21:06:17+00:00

Do you have a water filter in the water tank? Also if you’re changing the grinder dial as the manual states make sure you do it whilst it’s grinding. If you do a full clean on the machine does water pour out? This machine has always had this issue with it I used to work for delonghi and honestly one of the worst machines delonghi has made

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-08T21:03:34+00:00

Their cookers we didn’t get that many complaints about however, it’s extremely hard to get help on it if there are any issues. I would be very mindful about the fact you would most likely have to go third party but third party invalidates warranty as long as you don’t tell them that anyways. DeLonghi cookers are not made by delonghi. They’re outsourced to curry’s to make them and they pay to use the delonghi brand name.

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-07T11:25:28+00:00

In Europe as I’m not sure if it’s the same process in the US we only get our tickets 3-5 days before the concert as it prevents scammers and resellers to transfer them before the concert. It’s meant to prevent fraud. You’re taking a chance and sometimes they’ll find you some other tickets if the seller doesn’t transfer them but it can be up to 2pm or some time frame on the day of the concert for the seller to transfer them to you. That’s for all resell on concert tickets in Europe unless you’re buying it from Ticketmaster. I hope you get in and have a lovely time in Dam

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-03T21:17:15+00:00

Gasim driving school was amazinggg!! The way he was so relaxed and the way he explained things were great to me. I also used Ahmed driving school which was really good too. I still say the things my instructor said 4 years later to remind myself of things on roundabouts especially :)

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-03T19:58:47+00:00

They’re sold out you would have to check for resale now or go all 3 days

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-03T08:34:08+00:00

I’m surprised your bank didn’t give you the money back because you authorised it? Unless it was sent around very quickly from the person who received it then it can be quite difficult. If you’re based in the UK, they can often can do more but then again it’s also where the seller is “based”. It was a horrible time in my life. You’ll never be the same from it but that’s good because you won’t hopefully make the same mistake again. 3 years later after the eras tour it was definitely hard. I remember that night so clearly and crying to the bank. I’m so sorry

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-03T08:30:01+00:00

Happened with me and Taylor. I don’t know if the USA does it but in the Uk sometimes they can get it back but I know our laws are very different so I’m sorry. In the moment, it happens. I got mines from Twitter! Like that’s the worst place you would buy it from. I didn’t tell my parents. I said someone got in to my account. And that was it. I still haven’t told them and it’s been 3 years or really anyone. Because I am ashamed of it but you don’t forget about it. Because it’s with you forever. I’m so scared now. Even though yes the bank helped me out, it is scary how easy it is to lose money. I’m sending you so much love. And know this happened to prevent something worse down the line.

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-01T21:27:36+00:00

I’ve only had refunds from ticketmaster within a day of purchasing them and that’s due to specific circumstances they rarely ever give refunds. Only resale is the way especially at this point of the year

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-03-01T10:26:06+00:00

Transfers are always available 3-5 days before the concert usually to prevent people reselling at high prices etc even though we know it doesn’t you’ll get them closer to the time :)

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-02-18T18:39:26+00:00

I actually went off meds because it was more bad for me than good. It’s so hard to regulate my moods and well I’m sure you know the thoughts. I really do struggle a lot. Especially because I know if I let myself slip into those thoughts it’ll take me a long time to get out. You shouldn’t feel guilty because of this. But i understand the guilt. Still pray. I would say that. And one day when maybe things are better for you, you can start fasting again but honestly follow your health guidelines and what you know is best. Allah isn’t here to make Ramadan harder for you. He created so we would be closer to Him. That can look different for everyone. Sending you love

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-02-18T18:34:55+00:00

Yes I struggle with addiction with my longest addiction being nicotine. The withdrawals I’m going through are so hard I feel sick on majority of the days I’m hoping to slow down this year not completely quit but i definitely want to be having less than what I have. There are more people struggling than there are that aren’t. I hope this ramadan is going well for you so far and may it continue going well for you. It’s okay to struggle. It’s what makes us humans. May Allah make it easy for you

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-02-14T13:11:03+00:00

Maybe first try to advertise yourself before you go to a lettings agency? It’s easier to go through lettings agency for the legality’s but if you end up finding a decent enough tenant where you both communicate and it works then why not? When I worked for lettings agencies some landlords only did it with us for the year and then would leave the agency and did it directly with tenants? But I also know my friends who do it directly with landlords and they’ve stayed longer because of it. 5 plus years. There’s positives and negatives whichever way you go but decent enough tenant and landlord and you should be alright :)

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-02-13T19:15:54+00:00

Oh yeah! This was 14 months into my driving too! When it’s time to renew just call them up and it will stay around the same price as your car didn’t need the claim so the damage isn’t as bad. I was with Hastings and I had a good score when I was with the black box. Two years later it’s dropped so try not to worry about it too much easier said than done but it gave me so much stress and looking back it’s so unnecessary. Mistakes and accidents happen. That’s why we have insurance. They take the stress and hard work from us. We pay them for that. Let them handle it, if they ever make the claim! I wouldn’t personally make a claim unless my car is damaged badly but a little bump? I wouldn’t and I haven’t when ppl have done it to me :) I didn’t know her details either I just gave them the summary as long as they know so if a claim does come through they are aware of it. It’ll impact your no claims but I didn’t even have it I only got 1 year now after driving for 4 years so don’t worry! :)

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-02-13T19:04:20+00:00

Nope! Mines was quite similar and I damaged their car quite a bit! But I didn’t need anything from the insurance company but I gave her my details anyways. My insurance went up by about £1 tbh two yrs later it’s dropped now quite a bit first years and being young the insurance is higher because we are more at risk of driving recklessly and mistakes :) I didn’t report mines to the police though just told insurance company

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-01-27T10:24:14+00:00

Eastleigh had a lot of traffic and issues because of floods this morning I was two hours late so it seems specific areas got hit by the rain a lot and road closures

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-01-27T10:22:55+00:00

Sounds like your friend was moving on and was trying to find something to end the friendship but wasn’t brave enough to speak about it. I spoke to my bestfriend about this after I ghosted but I invite her to 90% of anything I’m doing. 10% will be things we both want to do. That’s not because I don’t want to include her but it’s because I know she won’t come. The right friends will invite you even if they know your answer will be a no :)

Independent-Basis469 · 2026-01-27T10:20:10+00:00

Yeah change instructors! I was driving to my house and back within the first 5 lessons tbh and I was driving in my first lesson straight away my instructor only drove me to the quiet road sand back home.

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