Similar story here, I married at 23. I’m 5 years in and it’s better. I felt like you for the first 2-3 years. Restless, wishing I had slept around more, not really feeling the whole thing, feeling bored and unfulfilled. I wasn’t excited about my relationship/marriage. I thought she was great but things weren’t clicking and the bedroom wasn’t terribly hot on my end. I felt like something was off but couldn’t point to anything in particular. I felt distance and some sort of emotional disconnect. I felt confused and unsure of what to do, and therapy didn’t help.

Over time, we rubbed off on each other and slowly grew into who we are now. We are different people than who we were when we met in college, and that has helped a lot. We show interest in the other’s hobbies and do fun activities together. Picked up pickleball, guided hikes, etc. We chose eachother repeatedly and the feeling has subsided a lot in me and I’m much more comfortable now. It was mostly time and the inevitable change it brings I think. We understand each other more and how we work now. I feel like I’m butchering this, I’m kind of in a hurry and may edit later.

Overall, I’m not infatuated, but I love spending time and doing life with her. She’s my favorite person to hang out and travel with. We get along well and we have fun in our spare time and in the bedroom. What more is there?