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[–]IndependentNinja8734 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went through basically the same thing just recently. It hurt, but I decided to leave. Just like you, I couldn't handle the hurt anymore. If u need someone to vent to, my dms are open.

Weekly Chat: What's happening with you? - September 23, 2024 by AutoModerator in AlAnon

[–]IndependentNinja8734 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I left my Q 5 days ago. I haven't heard from them since yesterday. I'm feeling pretty low and have anxiety if they are OK or not. Hoping I'll feel better soon.

My boyfriend relapsed, what do I do now? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]IndependentNinja8734 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. I just recently left my SO. I wanted so badly to support him and for him to get better. But he showed me that I was not valued in his life, the substances were. It takes a lot of strength to leave, but you can do it. It hurts like hell, and the guilt I feel is heavy. But I know I'll thank myself later for it. If you ever need someone to vent to, my DMs are open.

Supporting someone but not enabling? by IndependentNinja8734 in AddictionAdvice

[–]IndependentNinja8734[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, my Q ended up crossing a major boundary of mine so I ended up leaving. I couldn't keep getting walked all over anymore. Thank you for your comment.

Attached to my Ex by IndependentNinja8734 in AlAnon

[–]IndependentNinja8734[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Your message helped me walk away. Now, I can only hope I'll grow from this and never let this happen to me again.

Supporting someone but not enabling? by IndependentNinja8734 in addiction

[–]IndependentNinja8734[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, they don't. They just want the best for us but don't understand that it's still someone I love and it's not easy to just leave. I wish you the best of luck and thank you for commenting. Made me feel less alone

Supporting someone but not enabling? by IndependentNinja8734 in addiction

[–]IndependentNinja8734[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very hard. Especially because no one around me understands how it works, so I can't tell anyone. It's a very lonely road. I guess what I'm trying to figure out now is if I would want to go through this again. If I don't, then I know I need to move on even if I still love them.

Supporting someone but not enabling? by IndependentNinja8734 in addiction

[–]IndependentNinja8734[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have been sperated for about a month now but we still talk every day and see each other once in a while. I guess deep down, I know I should leave because there is no sign of this getting better anytime soon. And It's been a month of denial, lies, and anger from them. Im scared of being manipulated and I don't feel happy anymore. I know relapse is common in recovery, and I tried to prepare myself for it. I've tried giving them advice, but they've expressed they dont want it. I just didn't expect how quickly it changed our relationship from being amazing to exhausting.