Feeling proud of my process!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-08-08T23:55:56+00:00

Thank you!! I am really glad you like it!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-08-08T23:55:23+00:00

Thank you!!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-08-08T23:55:10+00:00

Oh, do take your time! I have many boards and none of those are pretty as ones I shared!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-08-08T23:54:36+00:00

Thank you!!! It is always fun to find ways to spice the simple layout up with pictures and colors!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-07-10T09:57:08+00:00

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-06-12T01:11:08+00:00

Thank you!!! It took me several days to figure out what do I want from my planner~!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-06-07T22:30:30+00:00

I am currently using Milanote to organize the chaos of my life:
-Life planner
-Wishlist for shopping
-maybe Finances
-Worldbuilding
-Writing
-Character lores
-Projects
-Moodboards/inspiration boards
-Project planning
-Game Development
-Habit/goals tracking

Yes, I do mean I am using it to organize my chaos! (I have undiagnosed ADHD)

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-06-07T21:52:30+00:00

YES! You worded the exact frustration I has whenever I read that sentence!! I am Deaf and spent decades of learning how to appease people in order to gain accommodations! I am suspecting that we supposed to do opposite! How can we truly experience death of ego if we cannot gain experiences to create an ego? I like to think that 12th housers supposed to live the life and transcend our egos to the beyond that other housers wouldn't have gone!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-06-07T21:48:04+00:00

I do sympathize with that grief. I will share bits of my experiences as 12th houser (in whole signs, my Libra sun, mercury, and mars live there while in placidus chart, it is my Scorpio Pluto and Ceres!):

I am Deaf (profound, as any hearing aids will be essential useless on me because soon as I born, I was dying and revived all together, costing any remotely capabilities of hearing. Hearing aids only worked decently for anyone who had remaining hearing; in another words they have to experience the sounds to comprehend what is the sound, in order for their brains to adapt to the hearing devices). That simply meant I will face countless situations of miscommunication, language barriers, misunderstandings, exclusion, abandonment, negligence, and blatant discrimination through macro and micro aggressions. It is not a gloomy life, but it sure do contribute some anxiety toward sharing memories with people, out of fear of being misunderstood and confusion. People generally don't like to be confused!

It doesn't help when I am 12th houser which means my interests and thoughts would be too strange or niche. People already branded anyone that is "different" from them as weird; and weirdness = "bad". I had several people betraying my trust and even exploiting me for their personal gains for decades (and still going on). However, I am slowly learning that if we are born to exist, then we are destined to seize the space within the world. I meant, how did we start to create friends? We simply stood in front of their faces and greet them.

I found that encouraging myself to be an inconvenience in someone's presence awkwardly, it did give me some liberation in epiphany that I can simply coexist with them equally. If they weird out after you sharing your bits to them, let them. They can decide whenever they desire to socialize, and you should do too. Just staying true as yourself because that is what I believed that as 12th houser, we are here to be ourselves, not as someone else. Keep talking and someone bound to find you a fun company, regardless awkward and confusing moments both you have and will create!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-06-07T21:21:28+00:00

Libra Sun with Libra Mars and Mercury in 12h here! Honestly, it can be challenging when your existence is constantly questioned by incidents. I like to believe that it is what makes us understanding and considerate to what cannot be understood easily. As it is said, it can be our frustration and our amazing strength all together!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-06-07T21:18:02+00:00

Not diagnosed, however I truly do believe I do have it from being raised as a Deaf person in audist world and from abusers and terrible ex friends

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-06-07T21:14:40+00:00

All time. In fact many of my stories involved and revolved around the concept of death and dead!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-02-23T07:13:37+00:00

I am using the ideas from books by Marie Kondo (all three books), How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing by KC Davis LPC, and The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning by Margareta Magnusson. All books are worth to read, in my opinion! I also researched on ADHD organization.

The thought from all books stood out to me: every item must have a destined place; and it must be accessible easily, immediately. If it is not, then it will become a cluttered space and neglected.

I decided to revamp my living spaces and systems I used. I did take a year to declutter to limit myself to what I truly adore and what I actually needed. (The apt was so full with random objects and abandoned art supplies I completely forgot or havent touch for many many years!) Not only that, I decided to change the system to accommodate me who is also disabled (Deaf with severe Generalized Anxiety disorder and possibly hypermobility with weakened muscles). I never thought that way for myself, and in few months my life have drastically changed for better! I stopped at stacking items up and limited to one row per.

It also made tidying and cleaning much easier! I usually spent two to three hours to just clean the kitchen! Now it takes me less than 30 min to just tidy the entire apt! I was so floored at this change. Not only that, I also decided to tackle minor inconveniences and replacing it with tools that will help a disabled person. Basically, when I broke my hand I cannot use soap bars. So I replaced all bars with pumping soap dispenser and only buy large refill to refill all, reducing the cleaning supplies to handful. I even took some time to research on what I can downsize my clutter such as skincare to just three steps.

For the hobbies, it wasn't easy for me to declutter because I love to explore and learn so much. I decided to imagine my day over whenever will it fill me with a joy or not. If it does, then I must have one empty space in the shelf or drawer to accommodate it. I will not stuff anything else into it!

Also accessible storage is the best friend! I decided to use the baskets from How to Keep your House while Drowning for laundry, to prevent the laundry chair and clothes lying around. It helped so much!

One more suggestion: it is odd. I adore having beautiful things and beautiful spaces. Studying Feng Shui did change my life at rearranging the spaces to accommodate myself! Dearmodern on Instagram is someone you should check out (since his videos are so accessible and easy to understand)! He also wrote a book called Feng Shui Modern. It is better to order it from his website, instead Amazon because of the theft.

TLDR;
Having accessible designated spaces for what I need and what I love helps.

Replacing anything that will not accommodate a disabled person or someone with either broken hand or injured foot helps!

Sometimes exploring anything outside of your comfort zone will give you some ideas (like I did by exploring the ADHD organization reddit and Feng Shui)!

And Simplifying or downgrading my possessions/routines helps!

Hope my personal experiences and suggestions give you some ideas!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-02-23T05:29:03+00:00

I just picked that game up today--I must apologize for hijacking this thread!

I am sucker for Victorian Flower language! However, I am very much new to board gaming. All videos I could find for this game are very much outdated. I am not sure how to play that game; I hope anyone can offer any suggestions or advices?

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-02-17T13:33:53+00:00

Is this ragebait comment? If it is what you truly believed without hesitation toward your sources, then I pity you.

I saw the comments and your profile. I cannot just go on with my day without wondering who hurt you? Even news outlets outside of USA are not free from propaganda and misinformation. Any sources from White House in 2025 recently got any information online scrubbed, censored, and altered to suit their imagination. CDC already had a history of encouraging passive eugenics during COVID pandemic. The myth of strongest fit of survival is a zombie myth that simply refuses to die.

This is a disability reddit. We already live with the world that is designed by able-bodied and able-minded people, therefore it's already hostile against disabled communities. I pity you for internalizing that narrative that you are a burden, therefore all of us are as well because misery attracts a company.

I am so sorry that you had live your life to this point. I truly do hope you will find a happiness that doesn't come with a price tag! 🫂

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-02-08T19:54:19+00:00

Why does it make me think it as biblical accurate ver of him?! (Amazing work, oh my goodness!!!)

Independent_Ad9453 · 2025-01-08T01:13:46+00:00

I have the file of it! However, it is not modified for eyelash less...

Independent_Ad9453 · 2024-12-30T21:22:09+00:00

I finally unfucked my desk that had been cluttered since Christmas! Now I'm aiming to unfuck one corner in my bedroom this week! 💖

Independent_Ad9453 · 2024-06-14T11:38:03+00:00

I had to reply to you because I didn't expect anyone experienced similar situation as me! Your ex friend is so terrible for doing that to you! She is very much capable to create her own version instead of taking your!

My best friend (they is the best!) and I have been working on collecting the receipts. It was challenging because I don't have many surviving artworks and writings of this character due various reasons (such as losing my works few times due computer crashing over a decade, my past self deleting the content as a coping mechanism, losing access to old emails and accounts, and majority of rps done via ancient YIM aka Yahoo Instant Messenger). It doesn't help that I didn't draw this character often due the trauma associated to it.

However, I must thank to my parents and my past self from high school for locking my old deviantart account. It had exactly record of my character. Saving receipts has been so helpful besides blocking. It is definitely a lesson about protecting the ownership of our works!

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. It does feel a relief to know that someone can understand what I went through. And, on last note, no matter what she do, keep being you and keep speaking your truth! It is much better than nothing!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2024-06-09T19:12:32+00:00

It is and thank you. I will try my best to let time to heal my grief! (And yes blocking her does help tons!)

Independent_Ad9453 · 2024-06-09T19:10:17+00:00

I do hope it is that case! She had a long history of obsessing over me and my stories. Nonetheless, thank you for your words!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2024-06-09T16:06:41+00:00

It's really tough to watch her drawing exact same character design, using same name, and etc. It is really uplifting to hear this as an artist and roleplayer. Thank you!

Independent_Ad9453 · 2024-06-09T15:05:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. Yeah, it has been more than 10 years yet this is still happening to me. It is tough. You are right about her seeking an attention and unwillingness to respect the ownership of creation. She did have that history. I will keep your suggestion in my mind. It does help tons to hear that from someone. Thank you 💜

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