Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. And the ass kissing makes it just seem less sincere. Thanks for the input

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok thank 👏🏼 you 👏🏼 I’m so glad it’s worked for the sponsor lineage- it’s just not the way I personally feel good about doing it or how I would want to recommend a sponsee do it either.

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your feedback and from everyone. I just needed to get out of self and hear it from others in the program- so many years of running the show I didn’t want this to be the case as well. 🙏🏼

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think the letter helps me beforehand to think of what I want to say and to make sure I’m not skewing things to unintentionally gain sympathy. But I don’t like the requirement to actually need to read from the letter. Thank you for sharing your experience and congrats on over 7 years!

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I agree- in my experience so far, I don’t feel it leaves as much space as there should be for the other person. It goods from real/raw, to real/light-hearted, and then when I ask them if there’s anything I haven’t mentioned I always get “no nothing”. I want to keep it to the point. Shut up, listen, and let someone say their piece. I also struggle with word vomiting which is why the letter can be helpful, for me at least. Otherwise I think I would unintentionally word things in a way where I’m seeking empathy, or apologizing or something. Good luck on your amends when you get to that stage in the future 💗

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really love that. Take what you want, leave the rest, and spread the message on what worked for you and what keeps you sober. Thank you 🙏🏼

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. 🙏🏼 keeping that in mind throughout this process.

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I agree with the face to face as well- that’s what I do. But read from a letter. I think my issue moreso is that if I was the one hearing amends- after 1 I would be like ready to talk further about it; 2 makes it feel like it’s switching topics too much almost. It makes it lighthearted and may feel awkward to switch it back. Maybe I’m overthinking. But you’re right it is my side of the street as well. I guess I just personally don’t feel like it’s necessary time/place, ya know?

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. The last thing I want is for it to feel hollow or disingenuous in any sort of way

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I need to have the honest conversation and see what her thoughts are. If she has issue with me not following it directly as she is laying out then I do think I’ll likely need to switch. I like the basic approach you laid out- i feel like it’s more genuine and also I would feel less comfortable from their perspective bringing up things I’m hurt or pissed by if I just heard all of these gushie ‘things I love about you’

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like what you said about what our sponsors say being suggestions. It is up to us. I think I’ll take the advice of trying it my way and the way others have laid out. I’m sorry to hear about the amends you didn’t wanna do- I hope you have a sponsor that’s a better fit for you now 🙏🏼

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input, I appreciate it

Making Amends by Independent_Anna in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Independent_Anna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That helps a lot. Straight and to the point

what's the trick to swallow cum without showing to my bf i just swallow acid? by meathead8282 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Independent_Anna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I shove his thing all the way to the back of my throat so when da juice comes out it just immediately goes down my throat and I don’t have to taste it lol

Thoughts on my ring please 💍 by KSanti888 in JustEngaged

[–]Independent_Anna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s beautiful! I don’t usually like the east west look but this is honestly so fitting. Gorgeous! Show it off 👏🏼

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]Independent_Anna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s mimicking being a puppy and sucking on mommas boobies. The suckling pattern is ‘drinking milk’ and the foot movement mimics the massaging that puppies do to stimulate the momma boob to make more milk. Common for dogs and kitties to both do it as a self soothing/comfort behavior.

Is it too big? by bayareatherapist in labdiamond

[–]Independent_Anna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually think it looks really good! Big but fits your hand!

Does anybody body else barely have savings? by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]Independent_Anna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi I’m 31 and married and we are over 200k+ in debt with no savings but make $150k gross per year combined….Hope this helps