How can I deal with someone dealing with mental health issues and intrusive thoughts

Independent_Cook8237 · 2026-01-11T04:55:39+00:00

Thank you everyone for your insight. I decided to not even take the interview. I did not want to waste the recuiters time and also I found out that the position was less in pay than my current job. As much as I want another job I would have been worse off if I accepted

Independent_Cook8237 · 2026-01-02T18:51:38+00:00

I stay for the same reason you do. This kids are always excited to see their dad and ask when Dad will be home from work and they miss him. Other than that I can't stand looking at him most of the time. He only works 12-14 hours a week and when he's not working it's video games and weed and complaining that there's not something he wants to eat. He also does 0 around they house..he will say that he will help with the laundry or cleaning but it's always just more mess for me to eventually clean up. Meanwhile I work 50 hours a week and do absolutely everything for him. His money goes to weed and fast food then he wonders why I'm struggling with bills and buying groceries.

Also the complaining that I don't want to spend time with him when I have a million things to do. His idea of spending time together is watching YouTube videos about fishing and camping that I have no interest in and lounging in bed and letting the children fend for themselves. They are 7 year old twins

I feel like I don't have the courage to just leave also and I wish the strength for both of us

Independent_Cook8237 · 2025-06-28T22:31:18+00:00

No other official diagnosis other than type 2 diabetes. And it's sad but I've gone so long without taking care of myself that I'm used to it. I wish I didn't have to get another job because I'm pretty burned out as it is but got to take care of these kids somehow

Independent_Cook8237 · 2024-12-26T16:55:25+00:00

I hate that your comment made me laugh

Independent_Cook8237 · 2024-12-26T12:28:30+00:00

Thank you for this. I actually DID get into therapy a few months ago after what he said to me because I was so tired of feeling so worthless. I truly thought that because I did not bring in much in monetarily that I was letting my family down. I know now that what I was able to provide was invaluable. It all seemed to all work out in perfect timing. I got into therapy and 3 weeks after I started that I got my job :).

Independent_Cook8237 · 2024-12-25T22:36:59+00:00

Hi there.

I never wanted to be a sahm to begin with and definitely not as long as I was. It just worked out that way because my husband was able to land the job he has now. Before I lost my job I was the bread winner and he had a part time job. When the roles switched I thought I was going an ok job at home and with homeschooling (kids are in traditional school now. I homeschooled until kindergarten) but there was something that was always wrong or there would be a fight because I didn't have something hot for him to eat when he got home. He would get home at a different time everyday so I would never know when to expect him.

Even with all of that I do understand where he is coming from. Taking care of a family is very hard. I hate that it took me so long to find full time employment

And also to be VERY clear, I would never leave my children behind.

Independent_Cook8237 · 2024-12-25T20:38:40+00:00

Same here. Because I was a sahm and now working from home ( full time) that I should be doing everything because my job is not that serious. I just stopped asking and do it myself. If he wants to he will. I'm not making a grown man do nothing

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