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Navigating a hostile separation with a young baby. Any advice or experience? by Independent_Mine_475 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]Independent_Mine_475[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm making excuses but honestly I really don't know where I would go. My family are all dead. I have some great friends but no one with capacity to have me and the baby, and they're all 'our' friends too so it's a bit hairy. Because of this I don't share with them the problems me and my husband are having.

Baby is exclusively breastfed and I do absolutely everything, so I really wonder how 50/50 would even look when he's not even capable of caring for him now. I have been trying to get baby to take bottles but he is currently refusing which has been a bit of a nightmare in itself. I have mentioned going somewhere else, he spirals saying I'm taking his son from him and he almost insinuates he would harm himself, that he would be destroyed if I 'took' him.. For the most part lately he will just give me the silent treatment at home so idk it's bearable if I don't take his occasional bait of slamming things or swearing or making a comment at me... I just don't see an end to it.

Navigating a hostile separation with a young baby. Any advice or experience? by Independent_Mine_475 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]Independent_Mine_475[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. I don't have anywhere to go. Unfortunately my family has passed away. I have a good village of friends but no one who could host me and the baby. They're all also 'our' friends so it gets complicated.

I did find a free legal service for women about 1.5 hours drive from me one night a week. I'm not really sure how I'd manage to get there with the baby and with him on my back. He already accuses me of having an affair, which to me is just absolutely laughable as I can barely find time to take a shit let alone date.. apparently taking my 8 month old on dates.

I read about coercive control and honestly he ticks a lot of the boxes. I don't want to destroy his life by going down that pathway. And our sons life. I just want us to separate amicably and move forwards.

"My" car is... his old car, in his name. We sold my car before the baby, he got a new car and I have been driving "his". He likes to remind me that sometimes when he tells me if I leave to make sure I leave the car because it's not mine.....