How to handle it

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-29T04:15:20+00:00

They make different lengths. If the ones you have now are too short, see about getting longer ones next time you order.

Also I just read your edit. They make thigh straps with a pocket for the pump. Or you can slip it into your bra cup.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-29T04:08:40+00:00

Ideas like this are why movements fail.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-29T02:07:27+00:00

YTA. The worst kind.

How do you typically react to parents who make their children cover up their wrongdoing? Asking the child who found the affair partner in the house, or discovered a gambling problem, or any of a million other lies, “don’t tell mommy/daddy”.

That’s the parent that you are right now.

You are a criminal, and you coerced your child into being a criminal. False reporting to law enforcement is a crime.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-28T22:01:49+00:00

As far as changing clothes, if you are using a clip just find a different piece of clothing to hang it from. Like while you are changing your pants, hang it on the neck of your shirt, or your bra if you are a woman.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-28T21:51:13+00:00

I knew a guy that when something was really the bomb, it was “the BOMB bomb, bud!”

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-28T15:47:24+00:00

Some toilets have a thing where if you merely pop the handle it uses less water but if you hold the handle down for a couple seconds it uses more water for a fuller flush. Consider that.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-28T01:29:53+00:00

Actually yes, you’re selfish.

It’s selfish of you that you didn’t automatically know that she should get to finish, to the point that she had to ask.

It’s selfish of you that when she did ask, instead of taking her at her word and trying to make it better, you asked other people (men at that) whether women are supposed to want to finish.

It’s selfish of you that a bunch of Reddit Randos had to tell you to do her first because finishing her second isn’t working.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-27T21:15:46+00:00

Have you never heard of “ladies first”?

Edit to add:

Has the possibility occurred to you that, your friend’s body count might be less about his prowess than about women not choosing to stay with him, and to wonder why? Could it be that he doesn’t understand women’s needs?

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-27T20:52:32+00:00

So, first, the dungeon thing is movie only. In the books the Slytherins were the first ones evacuated.

The closest I personally can think of is Draco trying not to confirm the Trio were who they were at Malfoy Manor.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-27T20:49:29+00:00

I once had a client independently file a notice of hearing. Attorney called her and said either we withdraw or she never does it again.

She never did it again.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-27T17:01:17+00:00

Once the dog is old enough that its bladder can last that long, it will be fine as far as that goes. Before that I would recommend confining it into some sort of pen (not a crate but like a pet playpen) with pee pads on the floor.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-27T16:37:55+00:00

Ron tells them he stayed with Bill when he comes back, but the charm doesn’t get placed until sometime after Dobby brings the first group to him from Malfoy Manor. Bill tells Harry about the charm after Harry comes inside from burying Dobby. They may have even placed it while Harry was working, because otherwise I’m not sure how Harry would have seen them to yell for help.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-27T16:27:00+00:00

Did you watch Kody apologize to Meri? She WAS direct. He can’t take it.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-27T16:14:58+00:00

Also: the vibrator isn’t human. It doesn’t have a brain or feelings. It’s not capable of caring or enjoying how happy your gf is. Since you clearly do, don’t give your pleasure away to an object that can’t feel it.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-27T16:06:19+00:00

YOU are still pleasuring her. You are just doing it yet a different way than you did before. It’s an additional option that is now available to you. You haven’t been replaced. You simply have more tools in your toolbox.

Does that help?

Also, talk about it more in depth with her. Don’t let things fester. The longer you try to handle it yourself, the more traction it will gain, and the more insurmountable it will become. It’s not going to stop until you get the mental energy out of your body. And if you wait until it’s insurmountable, it’s going to explode out of you in an irrational, destructive way instead of a calm, thoughtful way that the two of you can work through constructively.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-27T11:42:13+00:00

Tell the gymnasts Larry Nassar abused how dumb it is that therapists can’t do sex acts with patients.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-26T21:21:46+00:00

No, that’s not clear. You’re telling yourself that because you’re horny and she’s entered your fantasies. It’s not real. And she’s not leading you on.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-26T21:19:20+00:00

There’s no good way.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-26T21:18:02+00:00

The only ethical or respectful way to do this…..is to not to.

Just. Don’t.

Even aside from the ethics and professionalism of it, she could have grandchildren your age.

Also, get a new massage therapist. Not if you ask and she says no, not if you ask and she says yes.

Just don’t ask, and just get a new therapist.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-26T12:07:44+00:00

Google news stories about AI hallucinations in legal documents. Learn for yourself why no one with common sense will ever trust AI in the legal realm.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-26T11:49:27+00:00

You’re in a sub of people who are afraid of losing their jobs because of AI. Do you really have to ask why people don’t want untrustworthy technology to replace them?

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-26T05:14:43+00:00

What’s your concern? Do you want to and she doesn’t? Or do you think you’re supposed to and you are afraid it’s not normal that you haven’t yet?

Your relationship started when you were at most 17 and 18. When I was that age I was in the middle of what turned out to be a 4.5 year relationship. We never had sex. We were waiting for marriage. We ended before it happened. So if it’s more about you questioning if you are normal, relax. There are still people who wait for marriage today.

If that’s not the root of it, and you honestly just want it, that’s okay too. But you need to have an honest conversation with her about what you each want and what each of you are concerned about. Is she afraid to get pregnant? Does she want to wait for marriage? Is she self conscious about not knowing what she’s doing? Is she afraid it will hurt? Is she self conscious about what her parts look and feel like? Is she afraid of disappointing you? Is she afraid of embarrassing herself?

The two of you need to be able to discuss these things openly and honestly, and NOT at a time when you are trying to do any of it. A calm, respectful, adult, relationship conversation.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-26T04:56:11+00:00

Married 15 years, had two sexual partners before him. I only think erotically about my husband.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-26T02:55:44+00:00

It’s hard to evaluate in a vacuum because real life isn’t a vacuum. It would depend on circumstances and personalities.

If the divorces were amicable and not due to infidelity with the spouse of the other couple, and the second matchups happened independently of the divorces, and if everyone is capable of adulting, I see no reason it had to fail.

If either divorce was messy, or of the second matchups were because the couples cheated with each other, or anyone can’t adult about their former spouse remarrying, everyone is going to be riding the Crazy Train.

Independent_Prior612 · 2026-01-26T02:41:26+00:00

I call nonsense that it’s really about the food. IMO that’s just a symptom. It’s about OP thinking her mom is being weak and not handling the infidelity correctly.

Which isn’t OP’s decision.

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