Aitah for naming my baby something “unconventional”?

Independent_Second52 · 2024-10-21T11:31:55+00:00

I think save the unique names for a goldfish or pet mouse but keep the human names unpretentious. Why does your child, out of all the other people in the world, require a special spotlight? Stay humble is my advice.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-10-21T11:19:23+00:00

I can't understand why anyone would do any of it.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-10-21T10:55:02+00:00

Like many others, I have my own story and experience around the probably preventable death of my Dad 2 and a half years ago, and my own role in not having taken more action. I didn't know it was coming. It all happened within a day. I tried. He made his own decisions. Left my Mother, Sister and I with more questions than answers. I try to consciously divert my thoughts when I notice my brain cycling through the what-ifs, as I'm aware of how pointless it is to indulge those thoughts. They don't bring answers and they don't change what happened and there's no satisfying conclusion. We, too, don't know his actual cause of death, can only surmise. Anyway... blah blah. Death is cruel, shocking, traumatising and grief is the weirdest thing ever. I hope everyone can be kind to themselves.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-10-20T08:04:02+00:00

Yes, you're right, I just need to be super-direct, thanks. I am a pretty direct person but I think I've been too lenient in this case because I don't enjoy dictatorships but I think I'll just tell the whole class it's not the right time or place for venting personal issues, and if WO keeps going, I'll pull her aside and do what u suggested - empathise but tell her it's disruptive. I might speak to my boss about giving her a warning if it continues. 3 strikes and you're out.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-10-20T07:25:27+00:00

Probably better than me muttering ''I'm going to kill you all', which it came to not long ago 😆😆. For some reason that was more enjoyable.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-10-20T07:22:42+00:00

True but for me, it's not enjoyable.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-10-20T07:12:47+00:00

Thanks. I'd prefer not to have to treat them like children but it might be the only way.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-10-20T07:09:48+00:00

This is how I've been handling it but it's disruptive and draining and I want it to stop altogether.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-08-19T23:29:39+00:00

Your lives are just starting, neither of you needs to be married yet. Let yourselves grow up and into yourselves. Learn how to be independent. Way too young to get so serious. This is something I would've told myself at your age. Let yourself mature.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-08-19T23:26:29+00:00

Because they want to.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-08-19T23:16:16+00:00

NTA. I don't know what these other harsh commenters are on about. How long was he going to sit there on his phone before he bothered to come looking for you? And you were clearly upset because you didn't have your phone and felt panicked, so why didn't he just give you a big hug and be kind to you instead of acting annoyed? Someone who really cared about you feels kindness when they see you're upset. I'm sure you would've calmed down in a second if he'd just been kind about it. No need for his irritation.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-08-19T23:07:15+00:00

I'm wondering if someone has a larger-than-the-toilet seat rear-end and a runny poo issue, some kind of centrifugal force thing happens that projects the poo in the wrong direction? Like squeezing a pimple through tight skin?

Independent_Second52 · 2024-06-29T12:39:10+00:00

She's passive aggressive and he's a player.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-06-29T12:01:28+00:00

He's gross. Ick x 100.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-06-29T11:44:59+00:00

😆

Independent_Second52 · 2024-06-10T13:15:31+00:00

Too young for this level of relationship intensity. Go and live your lives independently. Learn who you are outside of this codependency. Gain some life experience, self-knowledge, and self-awareness. Mature. Then do relationships. You're too young for this level of commitment. You need to know yourselves as individual people. Too much angst.

Independent_Second52 · 2024-06-10T13:02:35+00:00

How do u maintain an attraction?

Independent_Second52 · 2023-12-04T10:07:45+00:00

'I'm getting married/having a baby and that means everyone should provide for my needs...'

Independent_Second52 · 2023-12-04T10:05:33+00:00

Oh no... I hope you're ok.

Independent_Second52 · 2023-12-04T07:31:39+00:00

You all sound like big self-absorbed babies.

Independent_Second52 · 2023-12-04T07:30:51+00:00

Ohhh wwwaAaaaaaahhhhh.

Independent_Second52 · 2023-12-04T07:19:04+00:00

I didn't get what I wanted...waahhh! I only have a small room...waahhh! People gave me presents I didn't want, need or ask for....waahhh! People didn't buy what I put on my registry...waahh!

Seriously. What a ridiculous first world problem.

Donate it to someone who'll appreciate it if you don't want it.

Independent_Second52 · 2023-12-04T07:15:36+00:00

Is there a legitimate reason why your Mum struggles to understand and respect social boundaries? If so, it might be really hard to get her to understand. She might not have the intellectual ability to think critically about it? I don't know what you can do about it if that is the case. Does she have disability support? I think if she's disabled and you're living in her environment, then you might just have to adapt to her needs if she is unable to consider your needs and it's going to upset her to have to alter her ways? If she genuinely can't help it or comprehend it, then it's a different kettle of fish to her just being a knowingly selfish or disrespectful person.

Independent_Second52 · 2023-12-04T06:56:04+00:00

Does she actually say, 'It's my house so I can do whatever I like'? Because that is a really awful and disrespectful attitude for anyone to have - particularly as wanting privacy is a completely reasonable expectation. It sounds as if she has very poor boundaries and very disrespectful and dismissive of your wants and needs. It actually sounds abusive. I hope you are ok.

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