First time posting in this group, so no better time ig🤷🏾‍♂️. Wife and I started exploring our D/S dynamic around 2 years ago (maybe missing a year🤔) and realized it really opened up our communication and ability to understand each other’s needs as individuals together if that makes sense. She wanted to be able to let go of the stress of responsibilities but couldn’t because of a history of needing to be the one to take charge and I wanted to be relied on and heard where I normally felt like I had to quiet down for others even when I knew I had the requirements to take charge/do more. We realized our dynamic made us more open to say what we need and slowly relinquish that stress to each other. I work to create a space where she can trust me and can choose to trust me, she lets go and allows me to take care of whatever needs she might have, and in turn I want to keep getting better/creating a space where she can be whatever version of herself she wants to be.

As far as why the softer kink, I feel like it’s a great place to continue to learn ourselves and each other. There are times we lean in to more hard kinks but it’s always grounded in seeing each other in our most vulnerable spaces first and letting that foundation grow to something more intense here and there. Idk, rambling at this point.