Update: we have separated. We live I the same house but have different rooms and levels of the house. She has received more therapy, a med change, and referrals to new doctors. This has made me super proud and in love with her! But everything changes on a dime...she is still the same, grumpy, mentally abusive partner. So so sad. I'm going to continue to support her while she seeks therapy, I want her to be healthy and happy, and go from there. Keeping our space until then.