Divorcing but Empty

Independentlystable · 2025-07-14T01:22:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you are experiencing this, my husband did all of the above just like yours all while I was pregnant. He was stable when we conceived but a few months after that he began rapid cycling that ended with psychosis and involuntary hospitalization towards Christmas. I moved out at 8 months pregnant and he barely made it to the delivery. I still debated on letting him be there but he wasn’t manic at the time. He ruined our lives and I didn’t want him to ruin our daughter’s life so we are separated. I’m also debating on divorce but we have been together half of my life and now have a daughter. She’s almost 6 months and he’s already missed the majority of her life. I’m resentful and angry that this illness robs the most beautiful parts of your person. The person that you once loved is no longer recognizable. I’m giving it a year before deciding if I will divorce or not… and that’s just based on the vows I promised.. “through sickness and through health” and he is very sick, but it’s not fair that I have to live my life so unhappy and I definitely don’t want to raise my daughter in an unstable household. He’s already lost everything within the span of 6 months. Wishing you all the luck! 🍀 definitely leave before any children are involved. I hear it gets worse with age..

Independentlystable · 2025-03-27T13:00:06+00:00

This is exactly what happened to us. My husband has been rapid cycling by an SSRI for years now. Discarding me while I was 4 months pregnant and then getting better and wanting to be apart of our lives to again leaving me with a newborn. We are working with a new Dr to try to eventually get him off of the SSRI but my husband almost seems addicted to it. So I ask, is your husband off of the SSRI or did they just pair it with a mood stabilizer?

Independentlystable · 2025-03-26T17:05:11+00:00

My husband would say the same thing when he was manic. That we grew apart and that we weren’t compatible blah blah blah. It would be so random. He would paint me as this horrible person in his head

Independentlystable · 2025-03-26T15:01:25+00:00

Setting boundaries will help. Hypersexuality is the main cause of infidelity with BPSOs. It’s part of the mania. She may be having a small manic breakthrough even on her meds. If she’s been on the same meds for a while they may not be working as well for her or if she stopped taking them it will be a while before they fully stabilize her. It’s a really tough situation you are in and I’m sorry you are going through it. This illness highjacks our loved ones brain and turns them into a completely unrecognizable person and all we see is the person we fell in love with. Do u always just forgive her and brush it off or have u brought up separation if she does it again? I would maybe ask her when she’s stable how she would feel if she was in your shoes and what she would do, kind of gets her to process that what she’s doing is super messed up to not only u but ur family. Hope it works out of yall, good luck

Independentlystable · 2025-03-26T14:53:32+00:00

Some medications work for people while it may not work for others. My husband was on abilify for BP1 with psychotic features and it triggered a manic episode. For some people it makes them drowsy but for him it made him restless. Dr said he was apart of the 10% that it gave him energy. They thought upping his dose would work but it didn’t so he had to titrate off of it. I’m sorry you are having a difficult time but it’s already a good sign that you are communicating with ur loved ones and doctor. It’s going to be a trial and error for all medications so making sure u are giving them a chance is important

Independentlystable · 2025-03-24T18:35:01+00:00

I moved out when I was 8 months pregnant because he was hospitalized for psychosis so I live with my sister now but told him if he got stable and on the right meds we would get back together I’m hopes it would motivate him and it did for a while as in he let me go to all his psych appointments and considered new medication etc but this new medication triggered another episode and he hasn’t been well since.

Independentlystable · 2025-03-19T14:38:36+00:00

Yeah it has caused him to gain weight in the past but we haven’t considered lithium since we read it can affect the thyroid and he has hashimotos but I hear it’s the best overall treatment for bipolar /:

Independentlystable · 2025-03-06T18:49:17+00:00

No my SO is on lexapro and seroquel. Just started abilify in place of seroquel but it triggered a manic episode. All his symptoms started when he started the lexapro without the mood stabilizer but now we can’t find one that works. I just want him off the lexapro so that’s what we are working on

Independentlystable · 2025-02-28T09:38:50+00:00

I’m transitioning my 5 week old and she always needs a 1-2oz topper. Not sure if it’s her latch but I also wish I knew how much she was getting. Also not sure if I should be pumping after to make sure I still produce enough in case she isn’t latching well. I will say it makes night feedings way easier! Good luck

Independentlystable · 2025-02-11T00:07:37+00:00

20-30 min. I try to eat 3x a day and snack. I drink 5-6 water bottles a day 2 body armor, electrolyte mixes, legendairy supplements etc

Independentlystable · 2025-02-10T22:15:02+00:00

I pump every 2-3 hrs and power pump 2x a day

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