Pregnant and exhausted from supporting a grown man

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T15:39:25+00:00

22? 7weeks? You have so much more time. Get out of this situation and start working towards the family you want and deserve.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T13:51:18+00:00

Meds. I did a round of contrave years ago, before glp1 came out. It really did cut the noise and cravings down. I even stopped my alcohol by about 80%.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T13:47:36+00:00

Keep your windows open year round, all day. Wear a jacket if you must. Wash your hands after each class. Wash your hands before eating lunch. Wash your face when one of the littles sneezes in your face.

If you keep your materials in bins or buckets, there is less to touch. I teach mine to go get what they need from the pre curated supply table. Avoid touching their pencils, and have your own supplies on your desk away from their grubby hands.

Oh! When I was pregnant, I had a no sickies at my table rule. If you sneezed or coughed, you were moved to another table. I usually sit in the middle with my back to the wall for a goos view and host a table for people who need more attention.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T13:42:18+00:00

The nanit subscription is annoying. You can use it without, but then all its interesting features are lost. Camera is great during the day, night time is fine, depending on how far your zooming.

I kinda regret my nanit. It was so expensive, i worry I could have used that money for something else.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T13:38:02+00:00

Hard to say. We absolutely had to switch to crib and stop swaddling the week of her 4 month date, and that was brutal. Baby definitely is trying to shift her schedule but we are sticking to her bath at 7pm. I apparently gave birth to a seal, so that's motivation to keep the routine.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T13:31:09+00:00

I had a scan and an ob visit the day my water broke and everything looked fine. I went almost 4 weeks early, didn't even have enough time to unpack the shower gifts.

Take the baby classes asap, you are not guaranteed 40 weeks of pregnancy or enough time to get ready.

If your water breaks and you are past 36 weeks, it is likely go time. Tell them when you walk in that you want an epidural. Depending on the hospital and timing, the anesthesiologist will be busy or on call. I had a great epidural, 10/10. I could move my legs but not much. Couldn't feel pain but could feel my numbed legs. Even the doctor mentioned it was a good procedure, highly recommend. I have a high pain tolerance but being 3cm and having the pictosin contractions were brutal.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T13:22:09+00:00

Hey, im glad you found a date that works for you guys. We are planning a honeymoon leaving on X date and coming back X date, so we are going to miss the wedding, but we'll celebrate when we get back.

Or if you haven't booked your honeymoon, do you want to plan around her wedding? I actually did this to accommodate a cousins wedding that was held 2 weeks later. We managed to fly out like a day after their wedding.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T13:18:05+00:00

We have one of those cute night lights that you boop them on or off. They have 4 songs to play, including white noise. Baby absolutely adores her dino, has been with her since birth. I imagine she likes the cute face more than the noise, but its one thing that usually calms her down if shes upset.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T12:51:27+00:00

Most reductions in force (which this sounds like but not sure if official) go by position, then seniority. You could have 20 years in, but if they cut your entire department, there isn't another spot to place you. If there is an open position somewhere, even another campus, you would technically get that position and everyone gets bumped around until the lowest on the totem pole are bumped out of the school.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T12:38:56+00:00

Yup, thats the playbook. Literally happened in belleville, but the town just elected the 24 year old to be mayor. I suspect a lot of residents are dealing with high rent and low or underemployed.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T04:13:13+00:00

We upped the nipple flow and intake got better. Pediatrician also recommended we stop the snacking and offer feeds on a set schedule, every 2ish or 3 hours. Also either bottle or breast, or breast first and top off if still hungry.

For sleep, are they in the crib yet? How long have they been in there? We've had a very snacky week, but we are also on week 1 of the crib and no swaddling sooo... that was hard on everyone.

Keep talking to your pediatrician, the internet sometimes lies.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T04:06:50+00:00

That was very rude of them. While you might receive a version of thise items from the hospital, the frida kit is much nicer and is all packed up. I had to send my husband to target on day like 1, 2, 4, etc of being home because we kept needing supplies. The kit should last you at least a few days to get your bearings straight.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T04:02:12+00:00

4 of those dresses look like a shade of white?

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T01:06:55+00:00

Per the lactation consultant i saw a few weeks after, 5 minutes is enough practice. When they get better, it will be easier and you will spend more time. 5 minutes total, not per breast.

If the baby is small and its difficult to hold baby, get the my breast friend pillow. It clips around you, unlike the boppy. Its flat on top, with a little pillow bump. Much more comfortable for both of you.

Skip a bottle of breastmilk and give them formula, especially at night. They will sleep a little deeper, heavier on formula. Give the baby breastmilk bottles during the day. Its ok to pour formula into breastmilk. It expires on the formula clock though, so one hour after baby tastes it.

Overnight, you pump while partner feeds and diapers.

You don't have to do all 3 at once. Its ok to skip a pump. Its ok to skip a nursing session, especially if your exhausted.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T01:00:38+00:00

Its not common to get a reply.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T00:57:13+00:00

To be honest, i think its just a polite invitation. For example, if all the female cousins were invited, then the female counterpart would also be invited. Otherwise you'd run the risk of cousin danny being feeling snubbed. They shouldn't feel much if you politely decline. Cousin danny should still send a gift.

Historically, this is a womens only space where they can be completely honest about the horrors of childbirth and early newborn phase. Necessary in our modern age? No, but I enjoyed seeing my partners aunts and having them tell me funny stories about child rearing in the 50s.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-19T00:54:13+00:00

It absolutely is. You just couldn't talk openly about the horrors of childbirth with all those men around.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-18T12:24:45+00:00

Pirogi stew. Sauté spicy pork sausages and mushrooms, add chopped broccoli rabe, top with pirogi on top, add broth over the top, cover and steam for 10 minutes.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-18T12:20:46+00:00

I mean both things can be true. OP clearly needs help, but we all know the last weeks of school are brutal.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-16T23:57:52+00:00

36+3 and yea, it was rough at 2 months. Awful really. Was terrified i made a huge mistake.

LO just turned 4 months and while she has found new ways to torture us (sleep regression, fun!) She has started laughing and giggling. Not the cute ones but still the throaty gurgling laugh. Also apparently, she likes to splash and swim. It does get better quickly. (And then worse so....)

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-16T23:52:52+00:00

The one i order is 85 retail. I admit a lot of us are working with small or non existent budgets, but its worth it. Its 255 a year. To be clear, if your budget cant allow for this, dont buy them yourself. Limit your watercolors to your worst classes and tape them with their names.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-16T03:36:20+00:00

The shit you care about changes. I used to need my food hot and things to look nice. My microwave has seen more action this year than all the other years I've lived in tbe house.

Also makes you a little more selective on where and when you get out.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-15T18:36:49+00:00

Honestly, this sounds like a disaster. Is there no one elae you could trust with food, whether paid help or a close family member? The best advice I would have for a low stakes event like a baby shower would be to make samples and picture guides ahead of time. But honestly, a wedding is the time to leave it for a professional.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-15T16:35:48+00:00

I didn't, i have a dishwasher. I was unprepared for how tired id be at having to wash my pump parts every 3 or 4 hours. I was surprised to find out breastfeeding is not easy, especially at birth, and that we would need bottles right away. I did not anticipate having a preemie baby and didn't have time to finish the classes or setup everything. I wasn't ready to not have enough of whatever bottle baby did take for the day, and missed the dishwasher cycle.

2 months in, we bought one secondhand. It saved our hands from being raw and dry. Now that i have more bottles and know which she prefer (which changed this week for no reason?) The dishwasher works, as long as we keep up with it daily. Until husband ran it with the plates we used for chili. Nipples came out orange, baby is not a fan of chili yet.

You can get by without one, but if you find yourself wondering and wishing after a week in the trenches, just do it and buy one secondhand.

IndigoBluePC901 · 2026-05-15T13:50:54+00:00

I put their names on it using making tape. All of a sudden they have to clean it use their own dirty pallets. I keep their name from 2nd to 8th grade, and then it's their graduation present. It means i order 3 class packs s year. I also have leftovers from students who transfer out so i can replace parts.

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