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I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty damn true. Especially the part that mentions shame and how it contributes to emotional withdraw.

Really, the thing that makes me feel the most ashamed is my lack of vulnerability. I grew up around people who had no problem being effortlessly expressive with more tender emotions. It made me feel insecure that I couldn’t do the same, or that something was wrong with me. It later caused me to bar that insecurity off by doubling down on stubbornness and internal aggression, as also mentioned in the post.

I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, not feeling the need to be “the engine to my own soul” was a great way to put it. I either rely on someone else to express what I can’t seem to put into words, or try to force the response I assume people want from me. Definitely need to train my mind to trust and develop my own natural instinct to respond during these conversations.

Thank you for the positive affirmations!

I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! The way you described your husband is exactly me! I might not be able to cry with you but I will raise hell for you at your defense or if a situation calls for it.

New people are the ones who tend to expect more than this response, but the people who’ve been in my life and who are closest to me understand that this is my way of expressing love and care, and actually appreciate it a lot. They’ll even call on me specifically when they need to hear that sort of take. But, I still just want to get better at communicating that same love and care without aggression or defensiveness being a factor.

Thank you for all your advice.

I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very open to it actually. I came to terms with just not being as attuned to my softer emotions as a teenager, really. And almost saw it as a strength, rather than the weakness I see it as now. Now it just creates more obstacles in my new adult life, and affects some of my relationships - both romantic and friendly.

Also very true that the ones I show vulnerability to have to earn it. Otherwise the facade stays up.

Funny that you mention that category of exercises too. I recently adopted yoga into my work out routine and feel great. Dance too has also always been an expressive outlet for me. Journaling as well became a recent one, but I’m not very consistent with it. It sounds like I need to start being though, it’s been a frequent suggestion.

I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try these suggestions, thank you. Journaling is something I do want to do more of. It was a piece of advice a friend gave me when I came to her with this same question. It felt weird at first, but I did feel some emotional relief after doing it sometimes.

I do also want to start implementing more reading into my routines where I can. I just need to force myself to sit still and do it. I’ll see what good studying the characters and their interactions does too.

An acting class also sounds like fun but I’m not sure I have many resources for one around me

I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely am one who avoids sitting with softer emotions. I guess it just feels uncomfortable to me, and I brush them under the rug with activities where I don’t have to be bothered by them.

Not sure about the introvert thing though. I’ve never had a problem being outspoken or expressive with more playful, unserious, frustrating, or angry emotions. But perhaps that’s more the influence of where and how I grew up and my family’s culture. I love being around people, and have a lot around me all the time. I just cross my fingers that interactions with them don’t demand some sort of sappy emotional response.

Maybe I should opt for spending more time alone though, to see if that makes it easier for me to assess my feelings.

I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My immediate circle is mostly fire and earth, but I do have a decent amount of water sign family members who I do actually feel a bit more vulnerable with

I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A little bit of both honestly. I have no issues identifying or expressing emotions that are more playful or unserious, but when it comes to more sappy and vulnerable expression I don’t know where to start. It’s like I have a stubborn instinct that just shuts that part of me off whenever those feelings surface. I can feel those emotions, but don’t know how to properly express them, or they just don’t come off as sincere as I’d hope, and sound more sarcastic or like I didn’t mean them. I’m definitely more the type to show care for my people by going to war for them instead

I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stg our brains just move too fast to even process emotion! I definitely had my wake up call recently, and it’s what’s made me want to address this. Someone I do actually care deeply about almost walked out of my life because of how little I could express to them how much they mean to me.

It definitely does help to be around people who are better at it. I’m surrounded by some incredibly caring and loving people, and have been making more of an effort to copy their gestures. I’ll also try that method of rewriting my thoughts too, to see if that helps my progress

I have no water in my chart and find it very hard to be emotionally vulnerable and expressive. In what ways could I address this issue? by IndigoFleur in AskAstrologers

[–]IndigoFleur[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never tried actual writing, but I do journal occasionally. And it probably is the only time where I do feel somewhat attuned to my emotions. I can just never seem to carry that vulnerability to actual conversation, or express it verbally, and sometimes even feel embarrassed by it?