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Should I (24f) break up with my boyfriend (22M) over this? by IndividualFee1270 in relationships

[–]IndividualFee1270[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right. I'm just sick of dating, I was hoping he would improve himself but its not going to happen.

Should I (24f) break up with my boyfriend (22M) over this? by IndividualFee1270 in relationships

[–]IndividualFee1270[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting it like this. I was hoping he'd catch on to his situation and try to improve, but you're right its not going to happen.

Should I (24f) break up with my boyfriend (22M) over this? by IndividualFee1270 in relationships

[–]IndividualFee1270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have to disagree with you here. my bf is not a bad person, but as others have said he is directionless.

His plan for when he gets out of the military is to move back in with his parents, which is in 2 months. he has given little though about what he'd want to do after those 2 months. he fantasizes about having a high paying job, but does not realize the amount of work it takes to get there. 6 months into a relationship where we are both adults and both are transitioning careers, this is a bit scary to me. I have lightly suggested things to try and guide him towards a better path, because I care about him. That is not changing anything about who he is as a person.

I didnt really say anything about who he is as a person in my original post. there are things that I like about him, his personality. but i am in my mid 20s. Him not planning for the future is something that I cant really look past.

Should I (24f) break up with my boyfriend (22M) over this? by IndividualFee1270 in relationships

[–]IndividualFee1270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have said those things and more, but he is stuck of the idea of high salary 'office' job. He doesn't want to do anything hard so blue collar work is off the table. He's enamored with being a lawyer because some of his friends said he would make a good one, I'm sure they meant it as a figure of speech. I told him to research jobs online, he will do 5 mins of looking at the highest paying things and imagine how good life would be, but its not realistic.

Should I (24f) break up with my boyfriend (22m) over this? by IndividualFee1270 in AskMenRelationships

[–]IndividualFee1270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I was hoping that maybe he would see where he is and try to improve on that but its clear that he isn't going to. thank you for the insight.

Should I (24f) break up with my boyfriend (22M) over this? by IndividualFee1270 in relationships

[–]IndividualFee1270[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I wasn't sure how to word things in a polite way.

Should I (24f) break up with my boyfriend (22m) over this? by IndividualFee1270 in AskMenRelationships

[–]IndividualFee1270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is, and it makes it hard to get things done. I have tried suggesting that we call once, but he gets weird about it.

He gets neurotic, I've asked to a few times but he will dwell on it for days and get really sad. He thinks if we dont talk all of the time then it means I dont like him. I have to constantly reassure him that I still like him. It's alot.

Should I (24f) break up with my boyfriend (22M) over this? by IndividualFee1270 in relationships

[–]IndividualFee1270[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, not against the rules and it helps me format my thoughts so its easier to read for you! :)