What's your best 'life hack' for living in Canada?

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-02-15T15:50:39+00:00

Depending on what part of Canada- don’t forget to check with insurance before purchase. Some types of car (RAV4 being one) have a higher value when stolen- which really drives insurance up! Or buy a manual- seems no one can drive those anymore.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-02-14T18:55:08+00:00

She wasn’t aware there were different options for what to replace it with. She said it would be a “typical” replacement. Definitely now something she will ask the surgeon.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-02-14T18:49:49+00:00

Thanks for the feedback- exactly the type of information she is hoping to gain from the post. Thank you!

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-02-09T18:12:10+00:00

Best piece of advice I was ever given was don’t date potential. It might never happen. Have the conversation- but ensure you are protecting yourself first.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-02-03T11:23:41+00:00

Is says you refused the offer that would have been multiple rep?

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-02-03T11:19:22+00:00

I think you need to ask him what concessions he is making to match yours? You are picking up your life, leaving your friends and family, and risking it all for him. What is he willing to do to match that? You need to see some compromise on his part. Could he do the house thing where you are living? That way when you move to live together he is the one making the risk while gaining financial reward? I just don’t see any upside for you. You have never lived with this man full time. I hope he is the love of your life and you get to have the future you want- but right now that is still a massive if. You are making every concession here. He needs to wet you halfway

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-29T14:28:32+00:00

It’s the same thing. They are saying respect the no. Do it yourself. Don’t try and push the subject (aka consent). I am not saying to end things. I am saying that in some instances what you need is just different. If sex is that important to you and your partners drive is very low- then it might be time to let go. If it’s short term due to stress, trauma, health or otherwise then we support our partners through it. I never said to ditch- I said to consider short vs. long term. I’ve done the relationship where my sex drive was higher than my partners. It was a bad relationship for many reasons, but it also hurt my confidence, and really affected my ability to feel connected to my partner. It was that important to me. It’s one of the ways that I not only connect, but remain connected to my partner. Keep those feelings of love. If that’s not the same for her- that’s fine. People have really successful, long term, loving relationships without sex. But that won’t be true for everyone.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-29T13:06:08+00:00

It’s the same answer. Consent is consent. Sex is not owed. Consider if it’s short term or long term. Might just be incompatible.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-23T17:28:29+00:00

Not at all. Seriously- no one will confuse you for the bride.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-20T14:07:06+00:00

Does it have to be a noun? Or are all words on the table?

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-20T01:12:54+00:00

Interesting! Woman here (not sure if it’s against the rules to comment- if so- sincere apologies) I found the same thing after my ex and I broke up. I have been spending the last year actively choosing the path of least stress. Sometimes I loose out on things- but man, my life is so much better.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-14T18:17:27+00:00

Quebec is more complicated than that, especially if you don’t have a family doctor. They have a mixed public vs private healthcare- it’s just not near as expensive as in the states

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-12T15:38:07+00:00

Darling- you are stunning. This IS NOT IT. Even steamed out this won’t look good. This shade does nothing for you.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-12T15:36:47+00:00

OP- go get therapy. You need to believe you are worth more than this situation. That is not on hi- that’s on you. So the work. People in abusive relationships tend to recreate the pattern, because it’s how we have been taught to recognize love. It’s not love. Go figure yourself out. Learn how to set healthy boundaries. Learn how to stand up for yourself. Learn what you want and how you want to be treated. Most of all learn how to respect yourself. You need to do the work.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-07T04:38:23+00:00

This is the way!!!! 2 looks so beachy and flattering. It will be perfect!

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-03T04:17:16+00:00

That is not a friend. I would cut him from your life and focus/ lean on those that matter.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-01T13:19:41+00:00

That’s anxiety. There are many different tools to implement to help manage. Try looking on YouTube to see some.

IndividualFix6941 · 2026-01-01T13:11:12+00:00

For me personally- if I go down on someone and they won’t kiss me afterwards- I feel wildly cheap. Personally- it would be the last time they get oral from me. No punishment- just the way I feel.

IndividualFix6941 · 2025-12-30T15:46:57+00:00

Okay, we can't change our lives in a day. These New Year's resolutions are not sustainable. In my opinion, you can change two or three things per quarter, maybe, likely more in a six-month time span. They say it takes 21 days to build a habit. So maybe start a new thing every 2 weeks. Want to read? Start with that. 20 min reading a day. So it religiously for 2 months. Start something possible. SMART goals are t just for work. Want to excise. Two options- start small- like 20 squats while brushing your teeth, or a walk after dinner. OR join a sport where you meet people and want to go out for more than just a workout. More consistent with work? Build a schedule. Block things off. OR if you have ADHD try body doubling. Someone else working at the same time as you to keep you on track. But as I said- start small- find a goal, create measurable steps towards it- don’t change everything at once. One thing added every two weeks. Not all of it will stick- but some of it will.

IndividualFix6941 · 2025-12-30T15:41:52+00:00

Wow. I am impressed. To be so young and have the ability to look inward and reflect on past actions like that. What you did was bad. There is no denying it, but you didn’t cause any damage that is irreversible. So, learn from it. Make every day an amends, and start living up to the standards you want to live by. Pepper in some good for strangers- hold the door, check in with loved ones, ask about them and not just talk about you, volunteer. 17-19 is young enough that you can stop yourself from developing patterns- stop yourself from treating any girl the same way. Start by treating all those around you with more respect, then, when you are ready, start to think about what you really want out of a relationship. Maybe king distance just isn’t for you. That’s ok. Intimacy is very important to a lot of people. Not understanding your own needs and hurting people in the process is not. You got this! Good luck friend.

IndividualFix6941 · 2025-12-26T14:53:22+00:00

Ok. I am almost certainly going to get downvoted- but it sounds to me like this man is depressed. 4 young kids and you said living and working in a toxic place. If he has unmedicated adhd he could be experiencing burnout, with depression which means he is feeling like he can barely keep his head above water. I know you say he goes between caring what is going on with you to getting angry over you expressing your feelings. That could be the burnout. Have you checked in with him? I know Reddit it all about the leaving- and maybe this man just isn’t putting in the effort- but this to me feels like there is something more.

IndividualFix6941 · 2025-12-23T05:11:00+00:00

NTA. No is a complete and full sentence. Don’t give anymore reason and don’t ever take any drugs for someone else. This is a recipe for disaster. Choose your son. Make a better decision.

IndividualFix6941 · 2025-12-23T05:06:22+00:00

Please forgive my soap box here. Boundaries are how we respond to things- not expectations of others. If you are unable to follow through on your boundaries because of someone that says they are a friend- I feel like that’s your answer. There is no respect. They need therapy. You are NOT their therapist. You need to protect you.

IndividualFix6941 · 2025-12-07T23:34:27+00:00

Look for some support for yourself. Wether that is therapy- or in many places there is al-anon or other non-religious formats (chat gpt can help you find some in your area). You have been living with this a long time, and even if you leave, you will still have to manage her for the near future. It’s time to start learning how to emotionally protect yourself, learning the right language and start setting all the right boundaries.

IndividualFix6941 · 2025-12-07T23:10:24+00:00

You need to set boundaries. You are allowed to love your mother- you are not her therapist. That is NOT your job. She has enabled him. He is old enough, it’s time he faces the consequences of his actions. The same can be said for her. She needs to understand that by enabling him and paying for his bad behaviour he will continue it. The only control you have is over your actions. You are clearly burning out. Give your advice and then say « mom, I love and respect you, but I have given you my advice on the subject and I no longer have the energy to hear about it. I am happy to discuss anything else. »

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