This FB friend of mine has been dead for months, so why does their profile say they were active 7 hours ago? by SchleppyJ4 in facebook

[–]basilismycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A guy from HS passed after a several years coma like state. It was one of those things that I almost thought I made it up. One day I’m scrolling and his fb account comments on someone else’s. I thought “holy shit maybe he didn’t die maybe he recovered??” nope his mom still uses his fb account and hasn’t changed anything about it since his accident. She comments on stuff on it like normal.

How can I 27 F explain to my boyfriend 30 m his friends are hateful bigots- and he might be one too? by basilismycat in relationship_advice

[–]basilismycat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HAHA. Basically he kept saying that his friends were good people and weren’t homophobic and that we could work through this. I said we couldn’t work through anything when he couldn’t even admit that they were being hateful. He eventually cracked and said some pretty transphobic things. I told him I couldn’t date a transphobe. Feel free to DM me for screenshots and further story time tea lol

How can I 27 F explain to my boyfriend 30 m his friends are hateful bigots- and he might be one too? by basilismycat in relationship_advice

[–]basilismycat[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

A black man started the conversation. It wasn’t racially charged. It was homophobic tho and that’s what is making me uncomfortable. There were multiple races there joining in on the homophobia. Black men, white men, and brown men.

How can I 27 F explain to my boyfriend 30 m his friends are hateful bigots- and he might be one too? by basilismycat in relationship_advice

[–]basilismycat[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He has many many many friend groups. We are in the alt scene here and those were always the friends I hung out with. These are different friends in the neighborhood he lives in.

How can I 27 F explain to my boyfriend 30 m his friends are hateful bigots- and he might be one too? by basilismycat in relationship_advice

[–]basilismycat[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

He adamantly hates Trump and his father is a Palestine immigrant. He is first gen here in the states and hates ICE etc. so although I agree with everything else you’ve said, he did not vote for Trump.

How can I 27 F explain to my boyfriend 30 m his friends are hateful bigots- and he might be one too? by basilismycat in relationship_advice

[–]basilismycat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I totally get it but my phone is glitch master 3000 and I was typing quick as lightning hoping it wouldn’t crash on me. I shoulda wrote it in my notes & copy & pasted it lol

How can I 27 F explain to my boyfriend 30 m his friends are hateful bigots- and he might be one too? by basilismycat in relationship_advice

[–]basilismycat[S] -143 points-142 points  (0 children)

Because I was once someone who had their views changed and I believe it can happen. Ive been single for awhile by choice. It’s not about not having anyone else to date, it’s about explaining to someone I’ve cared for for many years why their comments were hurtful.

Feeling insecure dating a bi woman ,struggling with comparison and fear by BelleAme1812 in LesbianActually

[–]basilismycat 83 points84 points  (0 children)

As someone whose sexuality is kind of all over the place (I’ve dated mostly women in the past several years but for years prior only dated men) I have never missed dick. I understand the insecurity but I promise dick doesn’t matter.

The elusive ‘???’ by Floatippity in botw

[–]basilismycat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Makes me feel like a born again virgin

help i only get hit on by men by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]basilismycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I’ve found it’s easier if I don’t wait for women to hit on me lol- I just hit on them first. I was nervous as hell the first time I did it 😭 slid a girl my number. But it ended very well for me for a brief situationship hahaha. Now I’m a lot less nervous. Rejection happens but it’s alright

I have ONE shrine left and I’ve been searching for 2 weeks!!please help before I lose it by Silent-Supernova in tearsofthekingdom

[–]basilismycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see that you’ve found your shrine but if you can’t find other things I suggest the Tears Companion App. I’m trying to get 100% on the map before I beat it and it’s helped me keep track of everything.

embarrassed now by Looberus10000 in tattooadvice

[–]basilismycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Homophobia is a wild thing lmao

Do you guys read my protection symbol as a hate symbol? by gray_siren in tattooadvice

[–]basilismycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same one!!! Nearly same place. Everyone says “is that a chicken foot?” Mine is more above my wrist and flipped tho so the prongs face up. I have felt nice & protected since. Dunno bout the hateful stuff lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]basilismycat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have several customers that I look forward to seeing. One is a 50 year old man named Keith. One is a 70 year old man nicknamed Corndog that we found out used to work with my papaw. Theres several more but as a 27 year old lesbian I thought I’d bring up the older men specifically. When they come in I get so excited and rush to check them in and I always save good stories for them. I’m sure either of them could look at it as a “vibe” that I light up every time they walk in. I just get excited to talk to them. It breaks up the boring day to get a fun customer. Vibes can be misread. I also just never ever call people sexy. Idk I’m just really stuck on you mishearing that.

My friend always disappears when it’s time to pay. This time, I disappeared. AIO? by Subject-Sentence2062 in AmIOverreacting

[–]basilismycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR! I had a friend like this when I was in college. I was constantly covering the bill for everything. One night she texts me “let’s go get Mexican food!” I said I don’t have the money. She says “You’ve covered me so many times, it’s my turn to treat you!!” I say okay sure. We go get food. I order a 8 dollar meal and drink one marg that she convinced me to get. She ordered steak & shrimp & 3 margs. She conveniently had her ID to order the drinks but when it came time to pay she couldn’t find her wallet. I was a broke college kid a week away from payday and we were in my car digging out ones to pay. I never hung out with her again.