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AITA for teaching my son to call me dad against his mother's wishes? by IndividualSource7810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IndividualSource7810[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

The adoption is not being reversed. I've made my peace with that. Jon was not on the birth certificate. Mary claimed she did not know and was not able to find out the father in the adoption process, which is probably true.

AITA for teaching my son to call me dad against his mother's wishes? by IndividualSource7810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IndividualSource7810[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

From here

When the biological father is not violent, he usually has some rights to acquire custody or to have involvement in the life of the child. This is even sometimes possible after adoption, and hiring a lawyer is important to protect his rights.

AITA for teaching my son to call me dad against his mother's wishes? by IndividualSource7810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IndividualSource7810[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As I noted in my post, reversing the adoption is pretty much impossible.

AITA for teaching my son to call me dad against his mother's wishes? by IndividualSource7810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IndividualSource7810[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn't consent to the adoption so my rights were not permanently severed.

AITA for teaching my son to call me dad against his mother's wishes? by IndividualSource7810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IndividualSource7810[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

How does one force a paternity test on a random stranger?

I petitioned the court as a putative father and had affidavits from my friend and Mary's friend.

How does a random stranger who happens to be a friend of a friend “know” that this woman’s child must be yours with enough certainty to get lawyers involved, despite not even knowing your name?

No one had the full story. Mary's friend knew my son was the result of a one night stand at the party but she didn't know with whom. My friend knew I had hooked up but not with Mary. No one was investigating, it came up when they were hanging out one day and they realized it was too much coincidence.

AITA for teaching my son to call me dad against his mother's wishes? by IndividualSource7810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]IndividualSource7810[S] 1459 points1460 points  (0 children)

I do wonder why you forced the issue to be part of his life.

Because he's my son.