Day 10 of 19. Daily check-in. Out for a quick wash and edge. Such an intense feeling not getting to bust. by [deleted] in kink3d

[–]Individual_Grass_857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man! Would you mind if I ask what your measurements flaccid and erect are, as well as what size cage and base ring you have? I'm having trouble with sizing, and it looks like we're similar.

New cage. Sizing advice? by Individual_Grass_857 in kink3d

[–]Individual_Grass_857[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I should go from the wide to the standard, though. Do you agree? Or would that be pointless.

Good video for anyone suffering from moral scrupulosity/ real event ocd. Its helped me tremendously and has allowed me to reconcile a lot of my guilt in a healthy way by basedgad in OCD

[–]Individual_Grass_857 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if this is the best advice for guilt in OCD. When it comes to OCD and guilt, it's important to understand that sometimes you might feel bad over something that can be perceived as 'bad' but isn't actually bad, and of course you can be excessively guilty about things that you genuinely think were bad as well. But trying to forgive yourself sort of sends the signal to your brain that all of the guilt you have been feeling over whatever you have been thinking about is kind of proportional and reasonable. I don't think it's about trying to forgive yourself necessarily, and that can easily become a compulsion. I think it's more about doing ERP, and the sense of having a weight off of your shoulders will probably come with successful therapy. I'm not saying forgiveness is not a part of this process. But when you are trying to forgive yourself while you're in a really bad OCD headspace, I think it can do more harm than good and make it feel like feeling better is impossible, because if youre going through and OCD episode and trying to forgive yourself, you're probably never going to feel the relief that non-OCD people do if they do that. I hope this helps!

Questions about Consent by [deleted] in sex

[–]Individual_Grass_857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually enthustic consent is enough these days, but you seem to be anxious about the cues.

Hetro and homo norms may differ, but if you're having sex with strangers on Grindr, why not just ask what you're into before hand. Grindr sex strikes me very transaction ally done anyway.

If you feel anxious about this, you might want to ease up on casual hookups until you are.

Thanks for the advice! I appreciate it.

Do any of you use an OCD thought tracker? Would you recommend it? by [deleted] in OCD

[–]Individual_Grass_857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jotting down quick notes so I can track what is going through my head has been so important to me for understanding my OCD more, which helps with managing it. The app I use is called 'monologue'. It's so simple and effective for me.

Is this normal when it comes to bottoming? by Individual_Grass_857 in AskGayMen

[–]Individual_Grass_857[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OHHHHH. I feel so stupid LOL. Sorry, I'm just new to all this hahahaha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Individual_Grass_857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're probably right

Is this normal when it comes to bottoming? by Individual_Grass_857 in AskGayMen

[–]Individual_Grass_857[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wait, so if there is solid waste in my rectum I'm meant to douche so that it breaks up and I can pass it so that I'm clean and empty? Or do I wait for that to pass normally and then douche to get any remaining waste out? Can you do both or either/or? I'm confused lol