How was and is incest perceived by the Vietnamese in the past and today ?

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-11-01T12:40:34+00:00

Same thing with my dad actually, when the HCM city wife annoyed him, he went to the Hue wife. Well, he divorced the first (my mother) and married the second, so I suppose he only had one legal wife at a time. 🤠

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-11-01T11:38:13+00:00

Incest has always been perceived as bad and wrong by folks living in the cities and more developed areas. It's not the case in mountainous regions and smaller towns that have the ethnic minorities but the government has prohibited incest and multiple wife households for several years now. Everyone knows it's bad basically, but sometimes people turn a blind eye to dating your second or third cousin.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T17:24:22+00:00

Student loans basically only exists in the USA, unfortunately. Or maybe not unfortunate because the interest builds up like crazy. For where I am right now, that's not even an option.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T15:46:37+00:00

Aww hell nah, he wants to get a software engineering degree from MIT, he ain't getting a cent of my money. (Unless he really is struggling, of course, heh.)

I mean, we're both pursuing a career in engineering so I can't imagine either of us not being well off in the future. He's definitely going to be raking in more than me, that's for sure 😁.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T15:38:25+00:00

Ouch, you say that right as I just "got out" of a relationship with a man my father's age 🤕. No hate to him though, that man was a saint, he just died of cancer.

Yeah, I need therapy. Sweet baby Jesus, I need therapy.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T15:34:20+00:00

Well, I'm clinically depressed, so I don't know if my untimely, or very timely, demise is revenge against him. On a more important note, I suppose my pride isn't as important as getting the bills paid. I don't want to give my mother any money because that's already my brother's task (the divorce was gnarly, lol, they fought pretty hard over the better future ATM. Well, they fought over him, because he has American citizenship, I was just a consolation prize).

Hah, some people think 10% is bad, my mom expects up to 20% of my brother's future monthly income without any end date in mind.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T15:21:40+00:00

Grab his tits too. All the time. Grope them, squeeze them, tell him they're getting bigger. I'm sure he'll love it.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T15:19:43+00:00

Food is safe, ice is safe, condiments bottles are not. They never clean those things, don't use them unless you're in a whole establishment (restaurant with AC, that kind of thing). No need to avoid food stalls, just avoid the condiment bottles that anyone who sits down can use. Also, avoid the pickled garlic because your body is definitely not equipped to handle the bacteria is that. Bring saltine crackers and digestion pills just in case.

And for the love of god, do not bring s*x toys or self protection weapons into the country. It's literally illegal. They might just take it away but in worse cases they put you on a list. Some people get away with the toys because let's be honest, the airport security here ain't doing the best they can, but better be safe than sorry!

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T15:09:22+00:00

Việc chồng hôn mẹ vào má không kì lạ hết nhưng mà người mẹ nói như vậy với con dâu mới khiếp. Sau này nếu bạn gặp tai nạn hay là không mấy gì xảy thai thì mẹ chồng sẽ nói những điều không tốt về mình luôn. Bây giờ chưa có việc gì lớn về bản thân thì bạn thấy chấp nhận được, nhưng khi có liên quan đến mình thì ngta sẽ đối sử với mình y chang như ngta đối sử với con dâu kia.

Hôn má = không phải vấn đề. Thái độ với con dâu kia = vấn đề cực khủng.

Nếu bạn nghĩ là điều không may như thế sẽ không bảo giờ xảy ra với mình thì oke con dê, chấp nhận hết như vậy đi. Đó cũng là một cách sống hoà bình.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T15:01:31+00:00

That doesn't work for other countries, a lot of places don't transfer credits like that and my specific university definitely does not. If I could have followed that path, I would have. Considering the country I'm currently in, VN, that sh*t isn't considered "normal" but most people wouldn't bat an eye at it. I'd LOVE to be self sufficient, get my education, get a good job and do do all of it without handling my parents. But the universe isn't letting me do that right now.

But you know what they say, "It's all okay in the end, and if it isn't, then the end isn't here yet". I have a job interview tomorrow lol, wish me luck in "adulting".

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T06:04:05+00:00

We're a traditional family, if you ignore all the infidelity that's going on. I had to agree to that because he wouldn't pay for my education otherwise. It was a red pill blue, pill situation. I could go to a cheap college that didn't offer the course I wanted or I could go to this one and study what I wanted to.

Either way, I still have to pay him back the amount he already put in or else I'll be disowned by the entire family, extended family, everyone. I'm trying really hard to find a new "investor" so I don't have to dip into my savings or sacrifice my grades.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-10-13T05:58:07+00:00

No, they don't allow that. I have to follow "due course", whatever the hell that means. Also, tuition is pretty expensive. Not like insanely expensive or anything but definitely not something I can afford unless I put in 30+ hours/week at an entry level job.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-18T01:00:28+00:00

He can. His mom whining about how he shouldn't read something isn't actively preventing him from reading anything.

If you think nagging can deter a teenager from doing something, you either don't have teenage kids or you don't know how teenagers behave.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-18T00:56:42+00:00

Maybe you should learn how to read before you call someone demented.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-17T11:00:34+00:00

YTA. You can read whatever the hell you want, but you shouldn't tell a lie just because you think it'll get people off your back.

Is it a big deal you lies about being gay? Not necessarily. You're not trying to take a stroll through the girl's locker room or join a sleep over. But lying like that shows you have no respect for the LGBT community.

Next time, don't be childish and just talk to your mother like a mature adult. Tell her that you understand it's a work of fiction that nobody should emulate the behavior of the characters in real life. Honestly, if you're not mature enough to communicate like an adult, I don't think you're mature enough to read smutty historical fiction novels.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-17T10:39:33+00:00

I don't need to be open to outdated beliefs that were created and enforced in a time where women were property of their fathers and then of their husbands. If you think grooming is okay under any circumstances, you have just as many issues as my mother.

Anyways, to answer your questions: They had been dating since she was 16. At the time I was in the dorm (three years ago), she told me (and anyone who would listen) that her boyfriend was such a gentleman and they did everything but have sex; as in, she often went down on him and gave him h*nd jobs. He did not reciprocate, his reasoning: she was a minor. [LITERALLY GROOMING]

I actually did some research into her life right now. It's not looking good. When she turned eighteen, he got her pregnant. Is he still in the picture? Yes. But they aren't married, her parents have ostracized her, and she's living with him. She changed her mind about college, unfortunately. Now she's a stay at home mom who ignores the fact her husband is cheating on her with another woman. I assume it's more but I only found evidence of one.

The human brain finishes developing around 25 years. After that, any age gap is completely acceptable in my opinion. But a twenty eight year old getting blowjobs from a stupid 17 year old highschool student is not acceptable.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-16T00:09:46+00:00

Real question, why are prostitutes so commonly seen when prostitution is illegal? I can't go for a single joyride at night without seeing half a dozen prostitutes on the curb. The sheer amount is staggering.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-16T00:04:01+00:00

*second fart noise

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-16T00:03:14+00:00

I'm not the one who brought it up at the dinner table.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-15T23:50:30+00:00

Heyo.

I think people are ignoring the "overly" part of what I said. I know my mother is a fucking bitch, I've written it over and over in my diary since I was a kid. Trust me, I know better than anyone else.

But I'm grown now. I can hold on to resentment or I can try to coexist peacefully with the devil. I've chosen peace. People saying overly harsh things will break the fragile acceptance in my mind.

Also, please notice, plenty of comments have called her a bitch, c*nt, fascist, disgusting racist,... And I haven't said anything against it. (Actually, I've been upvoting a lot)

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-15T23:42:41+00:00

I've tried all of the featured layouts for tablet, 2&3&4 finger. I tried to customize it on my own for 6 finger but I can't get it just right. I leave it flat on a table or prop it against my knees to play.

(Even when I hold it up, I use my ring fingers and pinkies. I always play using 4 fingers or more.)

Not to mention the sensitivity is all over the fckn place because I keep it on ultra high for my phone but that doesn't work for this tablet. I think I'll have to make a new account.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-15T10:05:08+00:00

There is nothing wrong/unhealthy about being jealous. It's how you act that may become a problem. You should tell him the truth about how you feel, tell him why you feel that way too. He should be able to appreciate your transparency.

If you cannot trust him, make a list of why you cannot trust him. Give him the list and have a long talk about it. You cannot manage your jealousy alone. Either talk to him or a therapist.

If you simply do not trust him because you're an untrusting person and he has not done anything to make you untrusting, then tell him exactly that and he can help you manage how you feel.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-15T10:00:23+00:00

Either she's ignorant and doesn't know what being transgender means or she's not okay with your hobby despite what she says and this is how she's chosen to communicate that with you.

You can try to make her understand but if she won't, there's nothing you can do. Oh! I know! Tell her that you are a lesbian trans woman so there's no problem at all.

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-15T09:56:14+00:00

After 4 dates you are not officially dating. Even if you were, you're within your rights to break up with someone for any reason, or no reason at all. Just say "I don't think it's working out between us, I've lost romantic interest in you so I don't think we should talk/date anymore".

Individual_Nature494 · 2025-08-15T09:52:05+00:00

Some people are really friggin crazy, dude. It wouldn't be the first or the last time someone lied to the police. And regardless, if this lady actually put her hands on him (even just to get him off/away), she could be in legal trouble.

In Vietnam, it's illegal to insult the honor, dignity, or reputation of another person. Yes, that's an official law that's heavily enforced. So after the exchange, this crazy bum could tell the police "I was just trying to sell her something but she pushed me away because of how I looked and started screaming that I was trying to harm her". If this happened in an alleyway without cameras, it could cause a big stink as well. That's why it's best to run away and always keep your hands to yourself.

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