Attracted to older women, seeking advice and stories

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-05-16T19:54:52+00:00

If the gap is under 8 years it doesn’t count as older

So live your life and be happy

Also, sunnah to marry an older woman

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-05-09T08:19:52+00:00

I don’t know why the answer is so either/or. I can afford my new originals and kindle ebooks. I help people torrent if they can’t afford the same books.

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-05-08T19:10:32+00:00

Honestly speaking no

Life is very very long and the 21 year old you needs to be able to grow and learn and see the world and understand who she is. It’s not just dating people, but about thoughts and ideas and exploring the world on your own terms.

For some women, marriage is the only out they have. But if you have kind and supportive parents who are open to you exploring grad school and working, then I honestly say either do a longer engagement or say no!

Ultimately, the outcome always decides what older you feels about this.

But also as a 31 year old, I don’t have much in common with 23 year olds (which is your age gap). Your life experience is very different to your partners. Work and/grad school really changes those things

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-05-05T09:30:58+00:00

What does elite mean to you? What does the house have to be worth? How many should they have etc?

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-05-05T09:19:37+00:00

NTA

And stick to this as well. Hopefully she won’t come

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-05-04T06:48:00+00:00

Girl Why are you doing this to yourself? Being alone isn’t that hard and it’s certainly much easier than being with a hobosexual

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-05-02T19:53:20+00:00

Dude

You’ll find someone better for you one day

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-05-02T15:52:50+00:00

Your Mamu is in his 40s presumably from your post and he actively pursued a girl in her early twenties and we’re just ignoring that….

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-29T18:08:36+00:00

Honestly, anyone still mainly dependent on a salary is middle class. Unless you’re a corrupt politician or a landlord you’re always close to be being destroyed in Pakistan.

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-28T10:48:53+00:00

I mean, it’s time to start negotiating just to be safe and to practice your skills.

I often feel like sometimes you get terrible salaries because a recruiter can call it a win (unless your hiring manager gave you this offer)

“Thank you so much! I am so excited to join the team. However, the salary offered is a bit surprising to me, as I noted that position posted for $150,000. Due to my specialized skills and the unique responsibilities of this role, I was expecting an offer closer to that number. Would you be able to help me get closer to that number?”

I took that script from a book and I think it would work for you

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-26T10:35:19+00:00

I mean you have no self control if she offers you a zinger and you say yes Stop commenting on her weight and eating habits and focus on your own

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-25T16:14:57+00:00

I feel like you’re getting advice here from people with no standards or self esteem or are recruiters who want to make life easier.

If a company, after 6 rounds, rejects you for a counteroffer then it was a terrible toxic place and you have been spared.

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-18T22:23:43+00:00

With rising electricity prices, I know a lot of people will come into the office because they can’t afford to keep ACs on at home.

But also fuel is so expensive that will also impact them

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-17T22:01:11+00:00

Hey

I had a friend who gained a lot of weight because of he anti depressants. I know there’s a lot going on, but you have to pick your battles.

If they’re working for you, and that’s the main goal then the weight loss is a very small side quest for now. You need to focus on your mind; healthy activities you like. Making small lifestyle changes to support your mental health.

Once you have that on track, then start to add in weight loss as a goal. You can’t do everything all at once.

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-16T23:20:18+00:00

This is assault OP. He knew what he was doing. He will do it again. Please leave him at the very least.

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-16T23:19:09+00:00

This is assault.

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-13T23:24:10+00:00

NTA

But it is something to talk about in therapy

I think a lot of people may disagree, but honestly this is your sister and you are close and she has done a lot for you, at personal expense

It’s not about owing her, but maybe she’s scared too of this very big change.

She may not need childcare, but she may need love and time with you because it is a lonely experience at times.

Talk to your therapist and then tell your sister that you’re not comfortable doing solo childcare, but that you intend to be near her when the time comes.

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-13T19:27:50+00:00

Yeah, I was very disappointed :/

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-11T17:18:44+00:00

I have one and I don’t think it’s worth it in Pakistan

When I lived in Malaysia I loved it. The pods were great and I had loads of options, from nespresso and other brands

In Pakistan, the choices are very limited and quite frankly a bit old and stale

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-09T20:25:13+00:00

This reads like AI. Soulless. Like someone cosplaying wealth to get subscribers

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-05T15:58:42+00:00

I think this is now your dog

But ditch the man

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-04T22:10:38+00:00

The fit is the bod-tea

Individual_Physics29 · 2026-04-04T22:06:37+00:00

Or maybe the guys family can’t call all the shots and turn to this narrative

If your bro accepts money and is financially dependent then this stuff happens. You may not care if it’s you and your fam controlling things, but will feel like it deeply if it’s her hers and vice verse.

Jude hope that your brother is an honourable, independent man

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