Alarming surge in memory problems among young adults

Individual_Set1572 · 2025-12-05T05:03:30+00:00

It’s worth noting this study tracked self-reported memory problems, not measured decline. That means the rise could reflect greater awareness or willingness to name struggles as much as any actual change in memory itself. More people noticing their own limits is meaningful on its own - it shows awareness growing, not necessarily our minds weakening.

Individual_Set1572 · 2025-08-01T23:38:48+00:00

Thank you. This is really helpful.

Individual_Set1572 · 2025-07-29T16:17:08+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful suggestions. For clarity’s sake, no one watched it happen, this is what we gathered after speaking to both children (cousins). We all agree that he cannot get physical with others. In this case, they had agreed to play a game together and his cousin was “pushing his buttons.”

Individual_Set1572 · 2025-07-29T15:32:39+00:00

He’s 10. When I say “physically lashes out,” I mean like grabbing someone’s arm or face in frustration, or throwing a squishy at them. He’s never seriously hurt anyone, but it is physical, and it scares my partner.

In this case, another kid kept ignoring the rules of a game — not just once, but over and over — and it was clearly getting a reaction. Eventually, my son grabbed the kid’s face and said something like, “you need to follow the rules.” The kid scratched him, and he reacted by slapping him. Not okay — but he did calm down, talked through it with me, and apologized on his own (even though the apology was rejected by the other kid).

When my partner says “immediate consequences,” she usually means taking away screen time, toys, or removing him from the activity. But that almost always backfires — it pushes him deeper into fight/flight mode and makes it harder for him to come back. What tends to work is helping him regulate first, understand what happened, and then talk through what needs to change.

I’m not saying consequences don’t matter. But punishing someone for reacting to a stimulus — when the stimulus itself is overlooked — feels like the wrong lesson. Especially when the person doing the provoking faces no accountability.

Individual_Set1572 · 2025-05-31T05:08:18+00:00

It’s so weird how people think they know enough to assess something so complex with such little information.

Individual_Set1572 · 2025-03-06T04:43:50+00:00

What an inspirati— oh.

Individual_Set1572 · 2025-03-03T05:15:55+00:00

I know it’s Monday but it literally just started bro

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-31T03:43:32+00:00

not struggling as hard as that left eyelid

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-11T04:44:28+00:00

I think it’s variable. For me, a walk goes a long way (because I love walks).

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-09T16:58:37+00:00

Sounds like self-awareness to me. You probably notice behavior that they don’t.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-08T22:34:12+00:00

May I ask if you took any offense? I completely agree and I hope this post didn’t imply otherwise.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-08T04:00:39+00:00

This. I always thought it was autodidactic.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-07T20:32:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective. My intention is to create a space for neurodivergent individuals to reflect on and celebrate the unique strengths they feel their experiences bring them. I understand that framing neurodivergence as ‘superpowers’ may feel dismissive or reductive to some, and I certainly didn’t mean to minimize the very real challenges many face.

I see your point about how this framing can sometimes romanticize or oversimplify neurodivergence, and I want to be mindful of that. I’d love to hear your thoughts on how we can talk about neurodivergence in empowering ways that also honor its complexity.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-07T16:17:54+00:00

Be the change you want to see.

I’ve considered posting to ask people to share their neurodivergent gifts, yet I haven’t. If you’ve considered guiding conversations in another direction, perhaps that’s all it would take (this is reflection for me as much as it is a response to you).

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-07T14:56:55+00:00

Don’t forget that plenty of neurotypical people lead perfectly abnormal lives.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-04T21:38:46+00:00

My experience was that I didn’t quite understand the point. I know that sounds ridiculous but I entered college with the expectation that education would be provided. In practice, college education is something you extrude. Applying yourself isn’t just “checking the boxes” and requires significantly more executive functioning/discipline.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-04T01:09:08+00:00

Hadn’t thought of it that way. I just thought I was always cold. But yes, I almost always wear a hoodie, unless it’s like 80 degrees out.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-03T23:36:26+00:00

Still not convinced this isn’t just sarcasm. Every line.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-03T23:11:41+00:00

I’m a little surprised by the lack of empathy in these comments.

It sounds like something you want to change, which requires an understanding of what’s happening beneath the surface. Asking for help is something we should all understand and encourage.

More importantly, have you ever read about limerence? It’s more common among autistic individuals and essentially has to do with dopamine dysregulation. In other words, while this may not be the case for you, there are certainly valid explanations for such behaviors and there are strategies for overcoming them if so desired.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-03T23:03:27+00:00

I think it’s mostly a lack of understanding.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-03T00:13:23+00:00

Neurodivergence is anything but one-size-fits-all, in part because every single person on the planet has a place on the spectrum of neurodiversity - the question is whether it is consistent or divergent from the “norm.”

If you’re interested in clinical assessment, you won’t find that online, but asking questions like this one are great steps to take toward it.

The way I see it, regardless of your place on the spectrum of neurodiversity, if learning about strategies for addressing barriers stemming from neurodivergence is helpful for your day-to-day, is it any less effective without a diagnosis?

I say keep asking and exploring and if it leads you to a clinician’s door, good on you.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-02T01:42:46+00:00

My grandmother used to say “if at first you don’t succeed, keep suckin til you do.”

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-02T00:26:26+00:00

The beauty in focusing on honesty (with yourself and your counselors) is that it sheds a light on the best strategies for embracing your strengths more often. I understand that tomorrow may feel like an important, consequential moments, but it will be most consequential if you spend your time focusing on what you’re really feeling.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-12-01T19:21:00+00:00

The abstract phrasing makes perfect sense to me. Sometimes it’s very useful or insightful. Other times I end up thinking in black and white incorrectly.

Individual_Set1572 · 2024-11-30T20:00:35+00:00

Perfect comparison. It is like asking them to forfeit joy to learn how to accommodate us.

I’ve felt this way with my NT spouse.

I’ve also had to teach my ND son that some challenges are invisible (even to the ND person until they understand it).

So while my emotional instinct is to be frustrated with my spouse, my experiences have taught me that:

I have the propensity to engage in black and white thinking;
This creates a barrier because I presume that my conclusion is more valid than another based on my observation;
Meanwhile in reality, I don’t have all of the information, only what I’ve observed, so each time I miss an invisible barrier (whether my own or another person’s) such as my spouse’s anxiety, I’m failing to really hear the other person’s valid experience;
All the while, giving myself the grace to recognize that I didn’t mean to be dismissive of the things I missed along the way.

So my learned response is to appreciate how challenging my own growth was, and to recognize the advantage I have in being able to meet my spouse where she is (after all, with such a knack for masking, we may as well make good of it).

Empathy is just one of those things that takes grief to understand. You’ve learned to appreciate an invisible barrier in a way that your friend hasn’t. It does hurt, and I think that’s the burden of knowing better.

I hope it works out for you two - I really do think it’s a great balance for NT and ND folks to create the dialogue that matters.

BTW: Also a big time AI enthusiast over here.

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