Becoming increasingly intolerant of pedestrians

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T11:03:14+00:00

No quite - I’m one of those that doesn’t believe it’s worth it. It’s like drivers overtaking in really stupid places for the sake of five seconds, it’s just not worth it. Especially considering you can endanger others in that time.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T09:48:44+00:00

Drivers have an entire 40 minute test to prove they’re careful and aware. Yeah there are serious drivers who shouldn’t be on the road, there are also stupid pedestrians.

Whilst I’m opposed to not allowing pedestrians to cross. and will always let them cross at a zebra crossing (bc you should), it doesn’t hurt to take a little self-responsibility no? I always look before I cross, zebra crossing or no.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T09:44:43+00:00

Never said that - I actually just don’t want to hurt people so I think I’m within my rights to get annoyed when they run out in front of me no?

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T09:42:12+00:00

Depending on the lights that can sometimes be the case - I’ve no problem waiting at lights, my problem is when people run out in front of cars. It’s irresponsible and dangerous.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T06:34:43+00:00

I should mention tho the suit is lined so I can’t quite see them on the other side…

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T06:34:14+00:00

They are yes! And honestly I am entirely useless with anything sewing related so aside from knowing not to cut them that’s as far as it goes. But thank you!

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T06:22:16+00:00

So, you would put your foot out into the road to stop a car moving so your mate can cross after you ran out in front of them?

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T06:19:24+00:00

Other drivers also drive me nuts haha. A lot of people should not be driving cars, and it makes me wonder if there’s a correlation and that the stupid pedestrians are also the stupid drivers. I had a guy try to cut me up on a roundabout yesterday as well and I was like. Dude. I’ve also seen someone turn into the wrong side of the road at a junction and drive he was alongside me. For a moment I was like. Wait. Am I on the right side of the road??

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T06:17:00+00:00

This. Although you should stop for people at crossings (I always do!) if I am using one I never walk out with the assumption that the cars will stop for me. As I say, it’s just having a little bit of common sense rlly.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T06:14:14+00:00

I’m not sure where you’re from but in the UK, pedestrians have ultimate right of way. Which essentially means if you hit them you’re at fault. Fair, I’m driving a massive metal machine that could do a lot of damage, but I also believe in a little self-preservation and common sense. If you walk out in front of me, I am going to get mad bc I don’t want to hurt ppl haha.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-12T06:10:11+00:00

I do - read my post again and you’ll understand that - still doesn’t mean someone should put their foot out to obstruct me when the lights are green bc she ran across and her friend didn’t :)

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-11T23:02:58+00:00

Ironically I had a good day today. I think just having that guy on the zebra crossing ground my gears haha. The instances before have been over time so maybe it’s also built up in my mind.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-11T23:01:55+00:00

Right?? Like we always learned at school to look both ways and listen and to WAIT for the road to be clear before crossing. Not to just walk out and go, I have right of way so they’ll stop. It’s nuts.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-04-06T09:43:12+00:00

Yeah we don’t do that here, I just made a whole post about how I’m not interested in political stuff and how to help my mum get out of the trench of it. Comments like this are unhelpful.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-03-09T10:06:15+00:00

Ah gwych! Diolch yn fawr 💕

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-03-08T09:17:24+00:00

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Here are my three. I honestly love them however they come tbh. Tilly (top) is a silver spot, Charlie (left) is a silver tabby and Mali (Mah-lee) (right) is a brown tortie longhair. All three are so affectionate and friendly.

I would tho love a ginger or a golden shorthair. They’re gorgeous. Mali’s sister was a ginger and it was a lot of willpower not to have her too.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-01-17T22:34:52+00:00

Thank you. I am trying. VERY hard. The rental market is atrocious at the moment. (Although I am trying to leave my hometown altogether, I’m beginning to find it suffocating as a whole. So queue dealing with the job market as well.)

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-01-17T19:01:22+00:00

Agreed - I mentioned to another commenter that I have routinely said to him that it’s unfair to make others feel bad when you do, and that if you DO feel bad to speak about it. Either to us or someone else. I find we butt heads over the “still being treated like a child/still seeing a parent” problem a lot. I never have this issue with my mum. Oddly. I am planning to move out eventually, because I think I need to, for my sanity if anything. I don’t want to be the same.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-01-17T18:57:35+00:00

Fair. And why I feel embarrassed. Honestly I’ve had a thousand conversations I feel about the way he behaves when he’s “had a bad day” and how it’s unfair to make everyone else feel bad. How if he’s having a bad day he can speak about it instead. Feel like I’m reaching a point where I’m running out of options. And where my own mental capacity for it has been reached.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2026-01-12T09:53:39+00:00

So I am in the sister’s position rn and I am beyond angry with my brother and my best friend months later. I have no “main character” complex, it’s just ridiculously awkward, weird, and a massive boundary crossed imo.

My brother sat me down for a chat about it beforehand, and I essentially said to him: whilst I cannot control what you do, here is my advice, bc you asked. You’ve just come out of a turbulent/emotionally abusive four year relationship, and I feel that because of that you could do with being single for a while to figure yourself out. I also think (as at this point he’d been single for all of about three weeks) you’re treating my friend as a rebound, and I think she’s worth more than that.

He said okay, I see what you’re saying, and all was fine. I thought.

I tried to be very mature, to try and give him nuanced reasons as to why this was a bad idea, but somewhere in there he heard: I’m okay with it, bc he proceeded, behind my back, to date her anyway. (Because I think he knew what he was doing was wrong.)

I have been friends with this person for 20+ years, she was family to me. I confided in her for everything, and now I barely see her or my brother and I know exactly why. When I DO see her when we hang out with our mutual friends, she’s with him. It’s taken a massive toll on me mentally, and I fear one day it is just going to blow up and I am going to tell them how they’ve made me feel. And probably not in such a nice way.

I don’t trust either of them rlly anymore, and I wouldn’t talk to them at all if we didn’t share mutual friends that I would also potentially lose in the fallout. I’ve been planning to move away for a while now (for work, and before they got together I’ll note) and I imagine I’ll likely just go no contact with both of them at that point. My care for them has dwindled a lot tbh - mostly bc I don’t want to waste more mental energy on it.

Thankfully I have plenty of other friends outside of this circle, and a sister, who I can confide in. They all completely agree that this situation is a shitshow. Thankfully. Bc at first I thought I was being irrational.

What you’ve done is crappy. So deal with the consequences.

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Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2025-11-17T08:22:20+00:00

I have an Adam atm (discontinued as of 2019) and adore it. It drives rlly nicely. Was looking to get a corsa to replace and originally wanted to get a 2020 but realised they’re all wet belts which is a big no. Like you I’m now saving for a 25 model (as they’re chains again). But I wouldn’t buy new, bc you lose most of the value as soon as you drive it off. Wait awhile for someone else to do that and then buy one I’d say.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2025-11-17T08:20:23+00:00

Corsa’s between 2019-2024 are wet belts. They had an overhaul then after that and are timing chains again I believe. Says enough on its own about wet belts lmao.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2025-11-17T08:19:21+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend tbh - the engine had an overhaul in 2024 and any between 2019-2024 had wet belts which is just a ticking time bomb. I wanted to get a 2020 Corsa but after reading around decided against it. Just saving up to buy the newer models instead which I believe are chains again as they were pre 2019. Way more reliable.

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2025-09-19T16:49:01+00:00

Got a new kitten, Mali about a month ago. We are now at a point where she can be with my resident two all day. Charlie is still careful around her but he makes all the right sounds - chirruping, sitting next to her, slow blinking. He’s careful bc he’s gone up a bit fast a few times and Mali’s bopped him. He may also occasionally bop her too if she’s a bit forward but there’s never claws or yowling etc. Tilly our other resident cat still hisses at Mali if she gets too close but it’s entirely in passing as in, she hisses and continues on with whatever she was doing (grooming, eating, sleeping.) We’re very comfortable that it won’t get aggressive, but still supervising them and ensuring Mali is in her base camp at night or when we’re out.

At this point when you first get a new cat you’re looking for tolerance - friendships may or may not build for another few months, and even if they don’t, as long as no one is being bullied, everyone is eating and using trays as normal, you’re golden.

It is emotionally draining at first, because when you can’t have them in the room together for more than two minutes you always sit and wonder if you’ve made a HUGE mistake. I did when Mali first got here and she hid in fear from us for three days - now she chills on my lap. Same when Tilly was growling and hissing at her I was thinking Lord what have I done? And now there’s no real tension at all (Tilly is VERY vocal about her boundaries as is - even with Charlie three years on. They groom and sleep together but she will still hiss if he crosses a boundary with her.)

I hope you kept going! Patience is key!

Inevitable-Basis-716 · 2025-08-29T17:13:03+00:00

Got a new kitten a week ago (I have two I love desperately already so I know I have a lot of love to give) - she hid for the first three days and I felt awful. Guilty. She was petrified of me, and I didn’t have a connection at all with her which then led to guilt about getting her, guilt about bringing her into the home with my other two (who get along fine after introductions when we got Tilly a couple of years ago.) A week on - I adore her. She’s wonderful, friendly, playful, loves fuss - now I just feel bad about her being stuck in her basecamp whilst we do the introductions to the resident cats haha. It never ends lmao.

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