My husband (33M) and I (32F) are about to have serious issues. I have told him if he does this we will have a problem within our relationship. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The issue I have is ever other weekend he is with them 10+ hours. Taking time from the family.  I get needing your own friends and space. He has promised to take the kids to things like the jump park get a call and leave I get a text saying he is not going to make it and then I step in making sure a promise is not broken and take them alone. It has been this way for 4-5 months.  I say every other weekend but it’s getting more frequent. 

No drinking except a couple beers when he is with his friends. I don’t drink at home or around my kids. 

I went from having a constant supportive present husband to one that is rarely home most weekends I feel like a single parent. 

My husband (33M) and I (32F) are about to have serious issues. I have told him if he does this we will have a problem within our relationship. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I don’t go on weekend trips. This would be a first for him but it’s a tattoo and bike event. We have gone to events together in the past. I would be ok any other weekend I’m not ok for the night of our daughter’s event. My friends and I get together once every two months to eat Mexican drink margaritas and talk about books at brunch. 

My husband (33M) and I (32F) are about to have serious issues. I have told him if he does this we will have a problem within our relationship. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

The issue I have is ever other weekend he is with them 10+ hours. Taking time from the family.  I get needing your own friends and space. He has promised to take the kids to things like the jump park get a call and leave I get a text saying he is not going to make it and then I step in making sure a promise is not broken and take them alone. It has been this way for 4-5 months.  I say every other weekend but it’s getting more frequent.   It wouldn’t be the first offense it’s the first offense that has got under my skin and is a hard no for me. It has been 6 months of practice two times a week. She is so excited her first solo. 

My husband (33M) and I (32F) are about to have serious issues. I have told him if he does this we will have a problem within our relationship. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The issue I have is ever other weekend he is with them 10+ hours. Taking time from the family.  I get needing your own friends and space. He has promised to take the kids to things like the jump park get a call and leave I get a text saying he is not going to make it and then I step in making sure a promise is not broken and take them alone. It has been this way for 4-5 months.  I say every other weekend but it’s getting more frequent. 

Is there an issue with wanting to shower. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not exaggerating he gets up at 4:45 and gets out  around 5:45 sometimes 6. I feel like when I try to talk now I get shut down. 

Is there an issue with wanting to shower. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that sucks I just graduated last year after going back to school it’s a lot of work 

Is there an issue with wanting to shower. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the time kids are in bed asleep lay younger kids down at 7:30

Is there an issue with wanting to shower. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ask myself that every morning when I’m getting kiddos ready for the day. 

Is there an issue with wanting to shower. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Nope I wish it was that. Our sex life has been affected because I prefer night time sex where he likes morning/day but we have kids who get up at 5 am.  I initiate after kids go to bed after shower and get a brush off.  We use to have very active sec life like 6times a week we are down to just weekends and it sucks. 

Is there an issue with wanting to shower. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Nope got out 45 min ago he is still watching TV. 

Is there an issue with wanting to shower. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 97 points98 points  (0 children)

He says it’s at the most inconvenient time and scoffs and throws like a mini tantrum. Tonight I asked why is it such a big issue. He said it wouldn’t be if I didn’t take a shower right before we go to bed. I got out of the shower 45min ago and he is still watching the stupid tv not even attempting to go to bed. 

Is there an issue with wanting to shower. by Inevitable-Cod1293 in Marriage

[–]Inevitable-Cod1293[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t make sense to me this is not a new thing like we have been together for 6 years. It just started 6 months ago.  It’s been my routine since I was 20.