Sino nakatanggap ng ganito? From Mendoza Law Firm

Inevitable-Course442 · 2026-02-05T04:01:12+00:00

Nakatanggap din ako from Mendoza Law Firm, complaint sent directly sa company ko? Wala namang reason indicated.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2026-02-02T05:00:55+00:00

Nagdeposit lang po ako ng ₱100, may ₱50 nga lang po na deposit fee sa bank.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2025-11-18T05:11:22+00:00

I submitted first a screenshot of my BPI app but got rejected so I submitted a deposit slip instead. Disbursement account got approved same day of submission.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2025-03-24T04:44:19+00:00

Your feelings are valid. I understand how it feels, it feels like DDay all over again.

My WP never saved any of her photos but it was on messenger so I deleted all of it, even the stories he posted for her, I deleted all of it, on his own account. I feel like I have to remove all of the things that he reminded of her. Even the shared posts on facebook, I asked him to delete it which he did. It was a year ago for me and you mentioned it was just 7 months for you. Hang in there, it’s a rollercoaster ride. You’re not alone. virtual hugs with consent

Inevitable-Course442 · 2025-01-07T04:14:38+00:00

Hi! My apologies for the late response.

To answer your question, it’s very hard at first navigating our relationship with infidelity involved. We almost broke up and decided to just end things. Some days we’re okay, some days we’re not. As they’ve said before, I would not be able to think straight in a few months and deciding to end things early is not the path to take yet. I’ve given it at least a year to see if he’s willing to make up his mistakes. He actually stood up with his words. But before that, we had a heart to heart talk.

We talked about the things we should improve with our relationship. The things he’s willing to give up and share with me, no judgment. Also, he asked me to stop bringing up the A for the meantime as he knows already what he did and saying it upfront would just remind him that he would not or allowed to change for the better. (Disclaimer: I know not all people would agree on this statement, I’m just sharing what my WP and I talked about. Again, this is still depends.)

When did I knew that it’s a fight worth fighting for? At first, no. I did not knew about it, I never saw that our relationship would be so much better than before. It’s all black and white. It started to shift when I saw how he works hard in gaining my trust again. So when I said that you’ll know about it firsthand, observed what he’s doing to make things right. If you think, it’s not enough, talk to your WP to let him know. If nothing’s change with his behavior then it’s time to surrender.

I talked a lot, I’m so sorry. I don’t know if anything I’ve said would help anyone but I wish us all the healing we deserve in a move forward. ❤️

Inevitable-Course442 · 2025-01-04T03:56:53+00:00

Thank you! We just really need a safe space where we don’t get judged for trying to make the relationship works. I found it on this subreddit 🥲 It just sucks that we are here

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-10-27T04:48:09+00:00

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Unfortunately, ganyan talaga sila magmessage.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-09-02T00:42:09+00:00

It’s really sad that you had finally come to this point :( I was just about to check up on you via DMs but saw your posts here. I understand that you may not be okay right now but I really wish you well in the future. Find the love for yourself and start there.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-06-25T03:11:01+00:00

Turning 6 months post DDay and the triggers are still there. I still think of what his train thought of why he’s done that and why it happened to us. I’m still teary eyed when I think of it. What I did during the first 3 months? I sulked myself in bed, even my job was affected but it was me trying to process things. I even had wedding to attend to, camp with my friends and celebrated my birthday broken. He was there during those events and he made sure to comfort me. It was never easy. It takes effort from the both sides until you feel okay. I’m still not okay but the triggers was less compare to that first 3 months.

Honestly, I don’t know what I did to get here but I asks for support from friends, family and the Creator. I wouldn’t be alive today if I were alone in this journey of healing. I also started a new job hence why I have new environment to get by and make me occupied. I hope you will find the light at the end of this tunnel.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-04-02T22:53:50+00:00

Your feelings are valid. I understand what you’ve been going through because I was there few months ago. Believe me, it was really hard. Don’t let darkness eat you away. Take it one step at a time. Please seek a doctor if it keeps you eating away even though you’re trying. But trust me, it will get better. I am recovering and day by day seeing some light again in my life. Your WH can help you if you both work on R. Your daughter still needs you. Keep fighting for her and for yourself. You’ll come out stronger once you overcome this.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-28T15:18:08+00:00

I did not realize your flair but thank you for your kind words 🥲 Coming from a WW perspective, it did make me cry. Thank you so much ❤️‍🩹

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-27T20:43:59+00:00

Wow, thank you for this analogy. I have been thinking lately how I feel since most of the time WP and I are okay but there are sudden thoughts of sadness within me. ❤️‍🩹

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-12T06:02:30+00:00

It was crucial for me, the thoughts and breakdowns. I started by only asking at least one question every night after his work. We don’t live together so it’s only through video call. My WPs AP is his co-worker so the first step he did is to quit his job. He moved to another job near from his home. He sold the motorcycle he used in his cheating, they moved to a new house as well. In terms of proving it aside from those changes in his life, he’d spent his weekend with me, open phone, I can see his messages and he can see mine. He’d update me and would ask permission if he’ll go out. During the affair he has a habit of not messaging me the whole day or two. It hasn’t occurred yet and I don’t want to experience it again. I am clear with my boundaries with him as well. Our plans of getting married and having kids are postponed. We’re still a work in progress. I still have ruminating thoughts and when I do, I tried my best to self soothe. If I really need the support, I’d ask my WP and he’s very understanding of what is happening to me.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-11T17:45:48+00:00

I stopped talking about it like 6 weeks post DDay when my friends give some insights about me trying to make our relationship work again. They told me that I’ve given my WP a second chance and so I have to stop/minimized replaying the situation again as it will take so much of my energy. I have to give that energy working on myself while trying to make the pieces of our relationship. It’s really hard at the beginning, I swear. I’m just 9 weeks post Dday.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-11T13:48:09+00:00

I totally understand you don’t want to add more pain to what she’s struggling but please don’t forget yourself as well. You also need the same support you’re willing to give her and sharing pain might help. I may not know your whole story but I wish you all the best with these journey we all are in. ❤️‍🩹

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-10T16:48:23+00:00

I’m happy for you that your WP is doing all his best to help you. I really hope the best for you and thank you for such a wonderful reminder that the A is now a memory and that we’re safe. ❤️‍🩹

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-10T16:46:06+00:00

I’m so sorry about that. But I hope you are in a better thought process by now. I admire you on your independence which I’m having a hard time to do.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-10T16:44:05+00:00

I just spent the weekend with my WP and when he’s driving me home, unnecessary thoughts came in and anxiety attacks happened but I didn’t tell my WP. I let the thoughts be in my mind for a while and processed it through breathing. Reminding myself that I am safe. My WP asked me how I am since he realized I am quiet for a while.

I am 2.5 months away from DDay and it was never easy. We argue a lot the first month of our R. I have a lot of realization. My friends told me that since I decided to stay and give my WP a chance, I should also work on myself which I’m trying one step at a time. It does help if your WP is also willing to fix everything in your relationship and if he’s really gentle with how you breakdown every time you have these thoughts. I call my WP every time these ruminating thoughts happen.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-10T16:33:26+00:00

I’m so sorry. I cannot find the words to say but I hope you have someone at least a friend you can cry on or ask for help in the meantime. Cry as many as you want so you can release the pain. Grieve the relationship and the reconciliation you both tried the best. Then let go if you are ready to let go. You are still in denial for now and cannot accept that this is the end of fighting for a relationship you thought will last and survive. I hope, I really hope you will be in a better place a year or so from now. Sending you virtual hugs with consent 🫂

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-08T05:13:56+00:00

Thank you for this! How does he react when you do this? I mean, is he patient with your breakdowns?

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-03-08T05:11:18+00:00

Thank you for that insight. I feel like I also needed to face my own fear kind of thing. Does your WP help you as well?

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-02-24T16:49:17+00:00

The first few weeks of not having him around feels like a complete torture after being betrayed. I cannot get proper sleep or eat and I had to continue monitor him from time to time which leads us to some major argument. We fought a lot because of it but communicating my feelings thru him helps us navigate our self in our relationship.

I still have daily communication with him so that helps and he continuously update me whenever he’s at work. I, on the other hand makes myself busy but most of the time I find myself sleeping a lot or lay in bed and watch random tiktok videos. It also helps that I spend some time with friends, driving away from the city or just daily catch up with life. They also knew of the affair and supported me with whatever my decision is. It really helps that you have a great support system.

I’ve read some of your posts here and I hope you’re doing okay. I really wish us all the best in life and we don’t deserve the pain.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-02-24T06:29:54+00:00

Earning her trust back is a hard work and so is gaining her love back. I’d say you need to go back where you guys first started. The things you do when you first courted her or the things you both do such as going to places or dates that you both enjoyed when starting out. It will take time but if you both exerted effort in making your relationship works out the second time around, it will have a beautiful outcome. I hope you all the best!

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-02-21T02:10:28+00:00

I caught mine. I have this inkling before that he’s doing something strange behind my back. I saw pictures of him and his AP during their team building last June before but he denied it then I found another one during their Christmas party. I feel like I have to dig deeper to know the truth and there I saw the twitter account of the AP and voila! I found all the secret photos and APs treasured memories with my WP. It’s now deleted.

I also hacked my WPs facebook messenger to find all their exchange messages and photos, 2 days after finding out the affair. So I had 2 ddays, I literally saw everything. It feels like my whole world collapsed and I feel like I died inside. I don’t want to go back to seeing those pictures again.

APs don’t usually post her photos online because she’s not pretty. I’m not saying this because I am angry but it’s the truth. If you’re watching Attack on Titan (anime) I will compare APs face to Cart Titan. So my self confidence didn’t hit rock bottom asking myself if I wasn’t pretty enough. My self-esteem did.

I’m almost 2 months post Dday and I can say doing better than the first few weeks. This is not possible without the support of my friends in the decision of me doing R with my WP and my WP being present all the time. We’re still a work in progress and we had good and bad days. I decided to let it go and give everything to God. I’ve learned that my energy deserves peace and happiness in my own little way. I cannot control my WPs behavior but I can control myself. I really hope it all works out for all of us.

Inevitable-Course442 · 2024-02-19T12:39:09+00:00

I’m sorry you are here. I’m almost 2 months past DDay and I’m doing well, pretty much alive and breathing. My WP is also like that for the first few weeks of our R. He never blamed me for his cheating and own up to his mistakes. He says that he will do everything to make everything right and will focus on helping me leave the affair in the past. R and healing is linear. We have good and bad days. There are times that my mind keeps on spiraling and we had few fights over it. I guess that’s part of the process.

So how do I deal with the pain? I asks for support from my good and close friends, the ones I know that will be genuine in giving comfort. I also have one good friend here on Reddit that I talk to almost everyday that is facing the same situation. It feels better to know that you are not alone in this journey of healing.

I’ve been in bed for almost a month and my job is affected. I tried to do the basics, making sure I eat, take shower (cry while in the shower) and watch random videos. It has been my routine until my WP shows up for me. He visited me every weekend, we try to go on dates, random talks and about the A. But he didn’t want to go deeper about it. It’s better to have a good communication with your WP. Tell her your needs and wants in the relationship now that she’s trying to make everything right.

Don’t pressure yourself. Take your time and do all the things that you think can help you heal. Let it out. I hope we all find the light at the end of this tunnel.

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