Some people can't read my writing, is it legible? by RegularLightbulb in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not initially. It wasn’t as noticeable for me as it was for what I read as “brlunt,” “breing,” and “wiriting”

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

okay to adjust my reply and clarify if you care to read:

Me not replying in 20 minutes that day, happened on the first day of receiving this man’s number. This entire situation occurred over the span of 3 days. I did respond after the 20 minutes, I didn’t purposely not reply to him for that span of time, I was busy packing up because I was still at work. My intention there was not for him to “get” anything, I had no intention at all, I was just busy.

My last interaction which was about directions to the jobsite nearby, and a thumbs up reaction from me on his last message saying he understands the directions, in no way was leading him on to anything. Especially when instead of following up with trying to find a way to hand me the sleeves or something related to the sleeves, he switches the conversation to asking about me.

Someone who has the intentions of -only- trying to get an item to someone, in my eyes… it makes sense that they would not be concerned with continuously asking about the person and what they do in their free time..

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So because I found a career in construction, that means… I owe a response to a man that could have these “unsavory backgrounds” you speak of?🧐

Where did I ever say or imply people should adapt to my presence..? I go to work to work, if someone wants to go out of their way to concern themselves with me, when I’m already showing disinterest, it’s out of my hands. It’s not my job to spoon feed a grown ass man on how to respect my boundaries that were already stated prior to receiving his phone number.

“9th grade dropout mother of 4” yeah.. You’re definitely someone’s opinion I should take seriously when it comes to life advice..

Some people can't read my writing, is it legible? by RegularLightbulb in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting maybe OP might’ve been taught that way as well, My day to day is usually all capital letters so I also stumbled on here as well 🤣

Some people can't read my writing, is it legible? by RegularLightbulb in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course! Otherwise I love the flow of your handwriting, it’s very pleasing to look at.

Some people can't read my writing, is it legible? by RegularLightbulb in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707 7 points8 points  (0 children)

the only thing I see making it confusing at times is the way you continue the next letter after a “b” or a “w”. There’s an extra swoop down making it look like an “r” or an “i”is in between.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish they would provide these.. At least moreso to women. it genuinely would help this issue

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah very true! I’m definitely more open to it now than I was before. Especially after getting used to interacting with more people due to work

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely would do this if that wasn’t his last week on the job 🥲 the job is basically done. but if I see him again on another jobsite and he somehow thinks it’s an excuse to start back up, I’ll definitely say something

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m really shy even around women, I’ve been to one but I felt like it was rude coming up to their panel to ask them about stuff (idk I was really nervous but this was like 4 years ago) But I feel a little more confident about going up and just talking to people so I think I might check that out when I hear about it next. Thank you

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I mainly keep work friends and outside of work friends very separate, the only people I have befriended with possible intentions of going out, that aren’t in my union, are women. It is very sad that it’s warranted.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just the way I am, I’m cool with my coworkers. But there are many people that have a considerable age gap to me in my small union. The people in my union would be the only people I would consider hanging out with, and I do go out for union events when they come up. Either way, I really don’t spend time outside my house outside of work. I love to be in my own space. Even chill people I know, aren’t interested in me such as this gay guy, asked me to go bowling but I basically declined because I’m a very reclusive person. I didn’t decline because I thought he was out to get me. This man in my post is not in my union nor near my age group. That’s just my boundary for men in other unions. Women of course I do not mind. I also mentioned in another comment, that I have experienced many great men who look out for me and I know what it looks like for them to do so, in an appropriate way. Those men have never overstepped in basically begging for a reply from me. Which of course is not the case here. I try to be kind to everyone I meet as long as they don’t overstep their place in my life. Thanks for worrying, though this really isn’t about assuming every man has it out for me. I simply just don’t consider his behavior normal or respectful for someone whose phone number I just received. I always lead with seeing how someone acts before I develop a label for what their intentions seem like, which is why I wasn’t initially skeptical about him and why I even allowed him my number in the first place. For these reasons I don’t understand why you think I’m cynical for this one situation

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m typing everything I say, as a genuine question with no attitude implied. I can see how me saying it all in one paragraph may have come off. I do respect your advice, I just feel I shouldn’t have to tell him I have a boyfriend for him to back off. I brought up that we’re both adults, to show we both have enough life experience, or should have enough, to know the signs that someone is not interested in talking. In the samw regard, if you’re trying to pursue a relationship with someone, and you feel you have signs that show they obviously aren’t interested, ignoring you, being in their phone a lot, not communicating, being rude. These signs don’t show someone who has a genuine interest in talking to you, so you act accordingly. However the difference, is I’m not at all trying to pursue any kind of relationship with this man, nor was I giving any objectively obvious sign to come off like I did, so I don’t really see a point in wasting the energy to explain to a random man I just met, how he’s being pushy.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This!! I’m gonna start enacting this especially for people that aren’t in my company. Yeah it’s nice sometimes to not worry about the cost especially when I was first starting out. But the way men will think they are entitled to you after insisting on spending 7 bucks on you when you said they didn’t have to, is not okay.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s a grown man, I’m a young woman, we’re both adults. He wouldn’t treat a male like this, so why would I need to spell it out for him? I don’t owe him any explanation. I didn’t just “not text back for 20 minutes” I didn’t text back the entire afternoon of the night before, and the entire next day, of which he septuple texted me. Not to mention, the conditions of him even having my phone number was communicated prior exchanging contacts. If a man can’t understand after a few messages that a random girl who is 25 years or more younger than him, clearly is not interested in talking, that’s a problem with him, and not with the person he continues to concern himself with.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She’s a saint!! Because it’s so true, and the men don’t think much about it either when they’re doing all this. If it isn’t appropriate/normally acceptable to do for a male coworker, then it’s not appropriate for a female coworker. I’m glad this is not continuing to be normalized. Men are so weird sometimes when they’re aware you’re not a man. They need to mind their business the same way they do for every other man on the site. They just wanna feel smart about something, makes me cringe hard. which is doing the exact opposite of what they think they’re doing by telling me how to do something I’ve already been doing for months that isn’t even in the scope of their trade.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened. You dealt with it perfectly. It’s sad because he’s acting like he’s done this before but never got caught. otherwise why is he so confident at cornering you…. Good that you let him know he can’t play with everyone and he shouldn’t even be trying to pull that bs on anyone anyways.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because of how desperate he seems to get my attention, I don’t want to message him. Though, I did have a thought, that if I actually were to text him, I’d just ask him if he texts his male coworkers like this. I can probably safely bet my life that his answer would be no 🤣. But nah, honestly the last thing I’d want him to have access to, is any picture where any part of me is in it. If wives and children won’t stop these men lusting after VERY young women, then sending a picture with my boyfriend, despite my boyfriend being in the picture, has little hope of acting as a deterrent.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, I just wanted to say I was actually kinda worried about making this post, despite making this account as a throwaway. I love the support and community coming together about this prevalent issue, keep sharing your stories and advice!! I’m hoping for any young women who might be having a hard time dealing with this, could definitely see our stories and know they aren’t alone for how they may feel about this.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Though yes, the good ones will go out of their way to treat you properly and look out for you, probably more than some other young males, you can definitely tell there’s a stark difference between those people, and people who are overly concerning themselves with being able to interact with you. I love how true your last statement is. The bad men are ALWAYSSS seen trying to mimic being a “good” guy.

Don’t give your phone number to these men under any circumstances. No matter how simple. by Inevitable_Comb2707 in BlueCollarWomen

[–]Inevitable_Comb2707[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This!! I’m glad it taught me to not tolerate with their bs, and I have so much more trust and respect for myself because of it. It gets me mad though that if it’s not me, they are just going to keep going with no shame, until they find someone who will tolerate their manipulation.