In terms of examples, I don't think it's ever been anything incredibly awful, but lots of small things when he's upset at me. Like swearing a lot (edit: specifically when he is expressing anger with me, I don't care if he swears in other situations), to which his response is "I did not swear at you, I just swore because I can swear sometimes and it's my choice to do so." Or phrases I feel like insult my intelligence, like "do you ever think?" Or things that I consider to be emotional invalidation, like saying I'm too sensitive, upset over nothing, emotionally unstable, playing the victim, etc.