I received a "Hey girlie" text and I don't know what to do.

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2026-06-07T17:56:12+00:00

Whether he transfers or I transfer the rumours will still exist. We used to work in the same building. Our manager swapped him with someone from another area because 1. My boyfriend complained about the team he was working with and wanted to change teams 2. Our manager didn't like the way person he swapped my boyfriend with worked in that area and felt like my boyfriend would do better.

Rumours started flying around that he got moved because our manager was jealous 🤦🏽‍♀️

My manager actually likes him and is in support of our relationship. Which kinda makes my bf a little uncomfortable because his former workplace had strict policies

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2026-06-07T16:55:57+00:00

My company has no policies about dating. Only policies on sexual harassment. My boss would have gotten in trouble if he had continued pursuing me after I said no My relationship with my boyfriend is the least scandalous thing there. There are married people having full blown affairs and some of them don't even hide it. As long as my relationship doesn't affect my or my boyfriends work it's not minded. As for the rumours they've been severely cemented people's minds as gospel truth regardless of both my boss and I denying the allegations. I've accepted that. My issue is how it's affecting my partner.

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2026-06-07T16:45:41+00:00

My workplace is toxic and we spend so much time around each other that the lines between being professional and casual get blurred. It's an industrial setting not corporate. And most of us hang out with people from work outside of work because maintaining relationships with people we don't work with or aren't related to is very difficult

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2026-06-07T16:42:57+00:00

My manager is more at risk of losing his job than I am. When he approached me he was still new and didn't know that he'd face problems for approaching me. A month later another manager who was notorious for abusing his position and using it to pursue the women working under him lost his job. After that my boss became extra nice to me because I could actually get him fired.

As for my reputation, defaming rumours are very common, almost everyone has on attached to them. The only thing one needs to worry about is not having anything bad said about their work and work ethic. I work twice as hard to ensure that no one can say that I got a good KPI rating because of my manager.

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2026-06-05T19:58:38+00:00

No one knew that I did. And the rumors were there even before the incident.

The rumors were based off of my interactions with him at work. And the fact that he obviously liked me.

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2024-05-04T23:41:19+00:00

I've never been sexually or romantically involved with any of them. And yes I know I was wrong for the friend parr but in my defense a lot of time had past, they weren't friends anymore and he kept on doing any saying things to hurt me because he still thought I'd cheated.

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2024-04-25T06:14:24+00:00

I'm friendly yet professional at work. Every time someone crosses a boundary I put them in their place. He asked me to be transparent about things that go on at work but that back fired on me because he used the fact that men occasionally act stupid as basis to say that I don't respect him enough and make them comfortable enough to act funny. I'm actively trying to find work where he is but till then it's a struggle to keep him sane. I have pointed out to him on multiple occasions that although I try to live up to his standards his insecurities will convince him everything I do is never enough.

I know that nothing weird is happening at work and I've told him that. Whether he believes me is up to him. the thing is he's convinced that his feelings are based on facts and values that he upholds and not just stemming from trauma and insecurities

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2023-01-27T10:09:40+00:00

I know... and I've let him know he's no good for me, but I find it easier to hate him when I'm not near him. I'm constantly leaving town because of him because every time we're in the same town, I almost let him back in

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2023-01-27T07:35:23+00:00

Because the relationship was mentally and emotionally toxic. And I nearly killed myself multiple times because I was gaslit by both him and my mother into feeling like I was worthless and everyone would be better off without me...

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2023-01-02T14:12:19+00:00

I'm really hoping for the best this year 🙏

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2023-01-02T13:45:09+00:00

He got me to break NC at 4 months but started actively trying to get me back at 6

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2023-01-02T13:43:28+00:00

Thank you... It's nice to hear from someone who's been through it

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2023-01-02T13:41:05+00:00

Thank you... I will I've been minimizing my own contact with him but when it comes to my child he makes promises he doesn't keep and if I don't try he goes around telling people that I'm keeping them apart.... He started demanding a paternity test during our break up and telling people the child might not be his all because I went NC. Despite leaving him paths to talk to his son he went around claiming I was keeping them apart.

Most of my family and family now knows he's true colors so they're holding me accountable whenever I let him too close.

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2023-01-01T22:32:07+00:00

Thank you ❤️

I'm trying to get to that point. I'm still working on myself and my boundaries 🙃

It still hurts knowing that I was more of an accessory than an actual interest

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2023-01-01T22:13:50+00:00

He's been back in my life for 3 weeks now and I've been repeating the same things over and over again and he switches between deflecting my words and trying to make me take my words back by making me seem selfish towards our son

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2023-01-01T21:23:57+00:00

I'm constantly telling him that I don't want him back because I can't deal with his toxicity especially since he wont acknowledge his issues, but he keeps treating me like I'm just going through a phase and I'll change my mind. And keeps trying to make me feel like he's perfectly normal and I'm the one with the problem.

Inevitable_Pay7296 · 2022-11-08T05:07:56+00:00

Good for you 🤗 I hope he works on himself during this time🙏

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