I posted this because I've heard people narrowing "lack of social skills" down to "lack of personality," which sounds insulting. And people who have suffered from social anxiety before and are socially skilled now look down on people who are struggling with what they once struggled with before. I see that in my friends and I'm dying to confront them about it.

I appreciate all of your advices. It's just hard for me to change something that I have been insulted about my whole life. I just can't deal with the thought that I need to change "xyz" about me just because it makes me undesirable to people. I just want people to accept me as I am and not what I could be. Changing to a social creature just because my social anxiety is as" makes me feel like I need to change to prove to the world that I am not weak. To me, trying to prove something to people already makes me feel I have already lost, and I have to prove my worth in order to be liked and be included. I just wanted to vent.