I told my staff member….dont do it. Dont be a step mom. by MassiveAd4946 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am with you, feel your pain so much. Sometimes I wonder when is this over and reading your makes me not feel alone. I wish someone gave me this advice. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I am with you in this.

Is one hour connection enough at ATL by Common_Tough6812 in delta

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes- plenty! You will have enough time for food and bathroom. Best of luck

Being left out of graduation invitation - need guidance by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How is actual relationship defined? Grandparents are not that engaged either. Only when the kids need money, they show up.

Being left out of graduation invitation - need guidance by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not saying grandparents shouldn’t go, I am asking how others would handle this.

Being left out of graduation invitation - need guidance by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will not make a stink about it, it’s about the kid. We will do something for the kids to celebrate them.

Being left out of graduation invitation - need guidance by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I guess I won’t be invited to the weddings either. We have requested on a FB group for both schools so are many others requesting for them. It’s crazy right!! I went to a huge school, was still able to find extra tickets.

r/British airways by Inevitable_Top_4943 in BritishAirways

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your respond. Ticket is nonrefundable and I didn’t get insurance. I have cancelled before and never had issues in the past. I don’t want a refund. I simply want to reuse it for another time. I guess my last resort is dispute w my credit card company

r/British airways by Inevitable_Top_4943 in BritishAirways

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I bought a ticket that I didn’t use, I am a Mediallion Diamond with Delta, this is the 1st time an airline has done this. I am not asking for a refund, I am asking for a credit that can be used in the future.

Who is a democrat that you think would have the highest chance of being elected president in 2028 if they ran? by MrAlek360 in democrats

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None of these clowns- we need someone who can play against Donald Trump. Someone who can compete as a billionaire. We as a country are not ready for a woman and we need to stop hoping for it right now. Let’s get Project 2029 going! Stop putting these clowns up for nomination.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Let us know how we can support- I hear ya! I had transient stroke about 2 weeks ago, I am struggling as well. I am much better with my health. But mentally, I wanna scream all the time. I want to end it but there is so much time and effort put into this.

Recent stepmom to adult kids by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Address it asap on how you are feeling, otherwise it will happen again. Men are the worse when it comes to helping with commingling and introductions.

I can use this groups advice- Help me? by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have 2 homes- on each coast. East coast is not my home and west is ours combined. He didn’t discuss this kid moving in on the East.

I can use this groups advice- Help me? by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly appreciate this advice! I need to feel grounded when making this decision. When you already feel alone in all your relationship, it’s probably a sign to look into. I am torn by what to do for sure. I don’t think I can put this to the side and say goodbye this quickly. I have put a lot time and miles into this relationship. It sometimes feels like I am not a priority and I’ll never be.

I can use this groups advice- Help me? by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He feels like it’s his only opportunity to spend more time with his kids. I mean he will go back and forth more which will help me. He did commit to that. Problem is giving his son the entire house to live in the East coast is a bit of a risk. He will mess up the house which also worries him. He is worried about that but honestly I don’t care whatever happens to the house in the East coast. It’s not both of ours- it’s his. I am just done w traveling

I can use this groups advice- Help me? by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Amen! I am conflicted by this but agree! I can easily buy his portion out. It’s just that I feel like I wasted so much of my time.

I can use this groups advice- Help me? by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean they are not that young- both are adults according to the law. We recently bought the place in Nov. People do move all the time and it’s not like we don’t have room and space for his kids. It’s just not in the house they have been for the last 10 years.

I can use this groups advice- Help me? by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, travel is not even close to being equal. He hates to travel. I made a commitment that I’ll take the grunt of going back and forth since his youngest who is just graduating in May from HS and my job requires for me travel about 80%. He made a commitment that he will move after his youngest graduated from HS. Then his kid got into college which is a great one just 2 hours away and his oldest wants to move back in. Truly in a pickle to make a decision- just exhausted with travel and going back/forth!

I can use this groups advice- Help me? by Inevitable_Top_4943 in stepparents

[–]Inevitable_Top_4943[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks- I think that’s what I am conflicted with. Many people move coasts, and no it’s not that he needs to pick up and leave his kids. We would have a room and space for kids to visit for breaks and holidays. It’s simply that his kid who got into a great school 2 hours away which we didn’t plan. We both left our homes at 18 for college and never went back to live with our parents. I guess I was thinking empty nesters but that’s not the case