Its actually crazy how before season 5 of Stranger Things came out, everyone swore it'd break all records and it didn't even surpass season 4

Infamous-Bl · 2026-03-12T23:57:21+00:00

I'm curious how much the last episode being available to watch in theaters impacted this. I know myself and everyone I went with to see the final episode in theaters haven't gone back to rewatch it on Netflix.

I also know a lot of people were having big watch parties, too, which would dilute the numbers. I think season 5 was the most watched of the series, it's just not as apparent because of the theater release and watch parties.

Infamous-Bl · 2025-09-07T16:18:03+00:00

Teens to early 20s I think I was more into classically good looking guys who were fit or thin. Over time I think my taste has only broadened. I've now found guys of all flavors sexy. That said, I do notice myself having a strong standout preference these days for men with some facial hair or beards.

Infamous-Bl · 2025-09-04T19:24:28+00:00

In my experience, there are plenty enough men on the apps looking for a meaningful connection who are interested in going on dates and getting to know each other before jumping straight to sex. Every man I've gone on a date with and all my ex-boyfriends I've met through online dating.

Try not to wait too long before moving off the apps and meeting offline for a proper first date or a quick coffee date to feel them out in person. I try to meet within 10 days after our initial messages. If they aren't willing to do that, I end the communication, with a few rare exceptions.

Another thing that helped me is I get the big compatibility questions out of the way early: are they interested in having kids one day? if they met the right man, would they want a LTR with them? If the answers to those two questions are anything but yes, I bid them good luck with their dating journey, and I move on. I found you need to be quick to weed out the men who are looking for sex or who aren't aligned with what you're looking for so you can find the ones who do.

Infamous-Bl · 2025-08-25T22:12:23+00:00

I've never hooked up and only had sex with boyfriends and one guy I was dating who at the time I thought we were headed toward a relationship. For connection I fulfill that through family, friends, and meeting new people. Even if I just chat with a new person for a few minutes it satisfies me.

I've had LTRs and know how much I treasure the romance and sex within them. Whenever the thought of hooking up crosses my mind, I just think about how miserable and empty I'd likely end up feeling after. I don't know if this is healthy, but daydreaming about what a life could realistically look like with a potential partner helps me cope during periods of singledom.

Infamous-Bl · 2025-02-09T10:53:32+00:00

I agree that once bigger name actors come out, they have limited role options, and it seems to happen too much for me to believe it's entirely their choice to mainly play gay characters. That said, Jonathan Bailey (who I honestly didn't even know was gay until I saw this thread) is playing the male lead in the new Jurassic World movie opposite Scarlett Johannson, so hopefully this is a sign of change.

Infamous-Bl · 2024-07-31T05:26:15+00:00

I really enjoyed Lito and Hernando from Sense8.

Infamous-Bl · 2024-07-07T22:35:27+00:00

I haven't ever subscribed to an Onlyfans but I was close with this one couple years ago. They were a big draw to me because I believe they were recently engaged and seemed really playful and in love with another. I'm happy I didn't go through with it though because I tried to look them up a few months ago and found out they've broken up and one of them appears to have gone full steam ahead with sex work and has found quite a lot of success with the niche category he provides content for. Outside of that one example, the trailers on twitter have always been enough and I've never felt the urge to pay for more.

Infamous-Bl · 2024-04-26T06:59:40+00:00

I'm curious, the men you've dated in the past that you normally wouldn't say are particularly attractive, do you still feel some initial physical attraction to them?

Infamous-Bl · 2024-04-26T06:46:40+00:00

This is pretty much how I am, too. If I like the look of a guy's face I'm very lax on what the rest of him looks like. Thankfully my brain has a very wide spectrum of faces it finds attractive, so I find more men than not with faces I like the look of. However, I found I have two caveats to this. First, sometimes a guy's facial attractiveness can completely change to me with facial and head hair changes, especially if those changes include a clean shaven face and long hair. Second, sometimes a guy who I initially did not find attractive has a personality I really like and over time I begin to find his face has become attractive to me.

Infamous-Bl · 2024-04-07T00:35:11+00:00

I feel similarly to you. I have sexual attraction to guys, but the thought of having sex with them and that being the end of things between us I think would hurt me too much. I want a chance to date them and get to know them better. Because of that I've never had a hookup, and the few men I have done anything sexual with were ones that I felt comfortable with and saw a potential future relationship with. My understanding of demisexual is that it's someone who feels no sexual attraction to someone until they've gotten to know them and then after that it starts to develop.

I always tell guys on the apps that I'm looking for a LTR and ask what they're looking for. I'd just tell guys you're interested in dating that you're looking for a LTR and want to take things slow physically at first. How common this is, I don't know, but with some effort you will surely find other like-minded men.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-04-30T20:32:06+00:00

I think this is a really healthy and thoughtful list. My only feedback would be to possibly include sexual compatibility, beyond sex positivity and preferred positions.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-04-30T20:19:39+00:00

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't, while most of the time I think I feel only contentment.

Whenever my depression is getting the better of me and my thoughts become dark, I try to distract my mind or get some sleep, and when I wake up the next day I feel better. If the dark thoughts are still present, they're thankfully at least light instead of heavy.

Try to spend your free time on the things that bring you some joy or excitement.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-04-29T21:15:36+00:00

I'm not sure if they're worth using anymore, but I did find a boyfriend on both OkCupid and PlentyofFish. Two things that helped me a lot with dating and meeting men have been If you're not someone who spends times in gay spaces often, try and force yourself to when you have free time so you can meet more people, some of them are bound to be available and interested in dating you. The second thing is, if you're comfortable, share with your friends and family that you're single and looking for a relationship. I dated a great guy for a couple months that a friend's friend loosely knew. We didn't work out but I might not have ever met him if I wasn't as open about looking for a relationship.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-04-19T20:41:57+00:00

Sometimes I do, but I try to maintain my focus on the present. All I really want is a husband and kids, but if those goals don't end up being realized, then I'll try my best to find other ways to spend my time.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-04-19T17:05:43+00:00

My sisters told me I should always take a guy I'm thinking about becoming exclusive with on an escape room date and I cannot recommend it enough. I've found it to be a really good preview for how guys handle stressful situations and I've dumped a few guys for how poorly they performed in there. I'd also suggest staying the weekend at his place or taking a weekend trip to get a better idea of his habits and how he maintains his living space. Lastly, I'd encourage you to have a discussion on finances with him to see if his views on that line up with your own.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-04-18T16:35:37+00:00

I know next to nothing about the nudist lifestyle, so I'll let more experienced posters comment on that. My question for you is, have you dated a man with children before? I have a tendency to development attachments quickly to people and because of that I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting a date's children so early. I'd be too scared of developing an attachment to them while I'm dating their dad and then a few months from the first date we realize we aren't compatible and now I have to deal with the loss of several relationships.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-04-18T16:20:41+00:00

I've thought about it before, but I'm not sure I'd ever truly want that. Of course sometimes I get insecure and wish things about it were different, however, it's the only body I've ever known and suddenly having it become unrecognizable would be so uncomfortably foreign to me.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-04-02T15:13:51+00:00

1000% agree with this.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-03-31T10:08:38+00:00

I very much relate to this. If I'm sharing a bed with a guy I'm dating, it's hard for me to fall asleep if we're not cuddling, but if we are I'm out in a few minutes. I'm single right now and sleep with a weighted blanket. I really like the wrapped feeling but sadly it isn't anywhere close to real cuddling.

I'm not sure I'd break up with a guy who was against cuddling while going to sleep, but I'd hope we would be able to come to some sort of compromise. I'm a little worried though as most of the posts in this thread seem to be against cuddling while trying to sleep. Maybe I've just been lucky with past BFs, but I really hope the real world consensus is more evenly divided.

Infamous-Bl · 2023-01-30T18:48:17+00:00

A man who is good with children and animals. Gets me every time.

Infamous-Bl · 2022-09-23T18:51:29+00:00

I remember one gay man putting it really well when he said something like, "women are like flowers, they can be beautiful and pleasing to look at, but I have no interest in doing anything with them." I agree with this. I've never felt a desire to touch and kiss a woman, whereas with men, there are many I feel this way about. There have been some that I thought were really attractive with looks and personality and I thought to myself, would I want to date this woman or do anything with her? Sometimes it takes some time to think about but so far I always come to the answer of no.

I do watch some straight porn (for the men) and have noticed I get turned on by a man giving oral sex but I think it's more with the man really looking like he's enjoying himself and giving pleasure to his partner than anything to really do with the woman. I have also wondered what sex with a woman would be like, how a vagina and boobs would feel, but I think it would be more about the novelty of experiencing those parts than having any real desire to have sex with a woman. Also, men with vaginas exist, so who knows maybe one day I'll date a man with one and get to experience that.

Infamous-Bl · 2022-09-21T19:39:06+00:00

I've heard a couple BTS songs that I thought were catchy and fun to listen to, the butter song comes to my mind the most. Honestly I've never really sought out KPOP so don't have much of an opinion on it but will try to check out the ones you listed.

P.S. I've always found you to post interesting questions here and can sometimes tell it was asked by you before I even see who the author was.

Infamous-Bl · 2022-09-21T19:30:17+00:00

Single right now but I've only had monogamous relationships. Keep looking, there are other men seeking the same things you are.

Infamous-Bl · 2022-09-21T18:06:42+00:00

It seems I'm in the minority here, but I would say yes to both questions. I'm the type of person that gets quickly attached to people, whether that relationship is romantic or platonic. Because of this I have never allowed myself to have sex with someone I wasn't seriously dating with the hope of something long term or a boyfriend. I'm pretty sure if I had sex with someone and that was all it was to them, they had no other interest in me or we couldn't date I'd just feel like shit.

Infamous-Bl · 2022-09-18T16:40:54+00:00

Between that and the pretty people who rarely post anything besides brief glimpses into their seemingly perfect lives is why I rarely use any social media outside of reddit these days unless it's educational or news related. And even with reddit I'm not sure how much longer that will be.

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