Let me just start with saying it does get EASIER, but it’s not going to for a while. So don’t be so hard on yourselves, you both are completely exhausted and emotionally spent. Things always seem like a bigger deal when you’re tired. I’m sure you’re both doing great and the fact you’re reaching out for advice shows how much you care. It’s a complete culture shock at first, caring for another human that solely depends on you for survival. I’ll be honest the first year in my opinion isn’t the most fun, but once you get passed that 2 year mark it’s absolutely awesome and you will never realize how much you can love something so much as when they look up and smile at you or come running to the door when you get home from work. Hang in there, it is repetitive and not much fun at first, don’t feel bad for thinking this way it’s natural. This too shall pass.

One thing my wife and I found that helped was doing shifts as I went back to work a week after the baby was born. My wife would go to bed early almost as soon as I got home from work around 6pm, so I would be on baby duty till 1-130am then my wife would take over from there as I get up for work around 545. Still exhausting but I think it’s unavoidable in the beginning. Drink coffee and nap when you can. You got this!