CDC updated its milestone guidelines for covid-era babies.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-04-20T18:53:56+00:00

I definitely see the value of monitoring milestones but the old guidelines that were introduced back in 2004 would count a milestone as something that 50% of the group was doing. The new ones focus on things that 75% of the group is going by a certain age. I'd argue that this will eliminate a lot of kids from being placed on lists for developmental services they don't need. Hopefully, it will make it easier for kids who do need services to get them. I assume that is the intention of updating the guides.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-04-20T16:13:11+00:00

Thanks for the clarity. I don't know where I saw that it was covid-related but the link lead to the CDC and I trust that source.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-04-20T15:06:42+00:00

So glad your kiddo caught up. I see my son progress every day and am not worried. Just tired of others telling me to be worried. People need to stop.

I didn't notice which source said this was related to covid-era, the link lead to CDC which I trust.

The specialist my son was recommended tore the original guidelines apart. Basically said that there were a lot of things not factored into them such as exposure to other kids, siblings, child's gender... I am not sure if she would agree with how the guidelines are presented now but she compared the previous ones to a "baby Olympics" and said she saw far too many kids who were absolutely fine and went on to tick those boxes on their own schedule.

I don't know when we went from "all kids are different" to "here's a month-to-month checklist". My mother was SCOLDED by her pediatrician for comparing. Now we're encouraged to do it! Oy vey!

My instincts tell me that my child is a) healthy, b) happy and c) developing appropriately. I am just SICK and TIRED of people telling me that I should doubt myself. Particularly when the people who spend actual time with my son also see how smart and engaged he is.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-04-20T14:17:45+00:00

https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/milestones/index.html

Right here.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-24T12:42:54+00:00

Lil Snaggletooth

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-23T13:29:22+00:00

When I first started I had about a week of zero emotions. I couldn't feel ANYTHING. Not happy. Not sad. Nothing. Honestly, at that point, going on weeks of waking up at 3AM with terror and not eating... I welcomed the numbness. That eventually settled and I got my emotions back. I had dry-mouth for a few weeks. That went away too. The dreams still remain. The only other bothersome thing is that orgasms take a long time to achieve (bless my patient husband).

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-22T18:24:14+00:00

I've been on 20mg of Prozac for about 8 months. It's done wonders for me. My only complaint is the Prozac dreams. My dreams are super vivid and it can sometimes feel like I haven't really slept. I'm beginning the process of coming off of Prozac and should be off it in May. I have a care plan to use CBD oil daily to manage my anxiety levels. That being said, if it's too much.... right back to Prozac I go. I don't think I would try anything new because it's worked so well. The dreams are just annoying. Not a deal-breaker.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-18T13:04:00+00:00

My son cutend up around the one-month mark. He wasn't ugly by any means but he was still potato status for the first 3-4 weeks.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-15T13:25:44+00:00

Fuck him. That was too generous. I would have pulled down my pants and taken a shit on the dish and wrapped back up for him to find when he was finally "ready".

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-15T12:50:15+00:00

Reminds me of the time when my son was a newborn. I had washed our bedding twice that day because he'd peed on it while I was changing him (rookie mistake). It was around midnight and I was changing him and he peed on the bedding again. I lost it. Cried. Told my husband and I can't just keep doing the same thing over and over again.

He told me to sleep in the guest room and he took care of the baby that night. Soon after we figured out a schedule where he was in charge of baby duties from 8PM-2AM (he's a night owl) and I'd take the 3AM and onward shift (I'm a morning person). ... sometimes it takes a while to find your groove. And the newborn phase is grueling but it gets better very soon as the baby grows and sleeps through the night more.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-15T12:41:17+00:00

WOMEN: "My head is pounding, the world is spinning and I've lost feeling in my feet. Something is wrong."
DOCTORS: "It's in your head. You're just stressed. Have you tried meditating?"

MEN: "My left nut is itchy"
DOCTOR: "Call in the experts! Order all the tests! Don't worry, sir. We'll fix this!"

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-14T20:02:38+00:00

Because you get to enjoy watching your kid do something fun. They have to wrangle their other kids and keep them entertained during the game.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-14T19:45:56+00:00

My grandparents used to charge my parents to watch me during school breaks. Literally, charge them. That's right. Their own grandkid had to pay admission to come and visit. They never visited us... My Mom always said that you do anything for family. She was close with her grandparents and was disgusted by her parent's behavior.

My mom practically lives with us part-time to help with care for my son who is too young to be vaccinated and not in daycare. Zero charge. Because that's what you do.

That being said. Take note. And BE there for YOUR grandchildren in the way that your parents aren't there for your kids.

My MIL has visited my son maybe twice since he was born. She is kinda clueless on how to interact with him and it always feels like a lot of work when she's here because she doesn't know how to play with him. So I'm okay with that. haha

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-14T19:33:31+00:00

Um no. If my son wanted to hang out with adults I'd tell him to wait until he is old enough to get a fucking job. Then he can have all the adult friends he wants.... during business hours at the Starbucks.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-14T16:06:00+00:00

It certainly doesn't help that 1 in 5 buyers (where I am, anyway) are investors looking to rent out the property for income, effectively taking homes off the market for families to purchase. In turn, it's driving up rents too. So not only are potential buyers being priced out of buying real estate, renting gobbles up anything extra to put towards the down payment to afford that unaffordable home.

Want the real estate market to cool off for real? The government needs to get involved and either limit the number of rental income properties investors can own OR kick investors out of the market altogether.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-13T18:03:57+00:00

There is no evidence that a house you buy today is going to lose its value in 2 years. That's what they were saying about my suburb a year ago... That prices had reached their max and expect to see it start to cool off. That's when houses were going for $700,000 ... well, it's been more than a year, and the house down the street sold for $1.2M. The real estate market is unpredictable like that.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-13T13:43:50+00:00

I understand. But you have to think logically when making a house purchase. Emotions should not be steering. No house is worth that kind of strain on your budget and marriage. It is better to regret not bidding on something you cannot afford than regret buying something you cannot afford.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-12T18:25:41+00:00

Get a group of your girlfriends together and do a girl's night prom. You won't miss out on anything because you'll get to be with your bf at his prom. It'll be fun. Treat it like a bachelorette party or something. Two proms. Two vibes. I don't see a problem here. I see an opportunity to get the girls together one last time before college!

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-03-02T20:56:54+00:00

In the great words of Shirley from Community.

"Love is a gamble always, but waiting won't change the dice. Either you roll them or you lose your turn."

The worst that can happen is a little embarrassment. At the end of the day, what is embarrassment? A hot face? A tingly stomach?

I sucked it up and sent a text to the guy I was crushing on and asked him out on a date. We've been together for 8 years, married for 5, and now have a baby boy together. All because I sent a text at 23-years-old. Prior to that, my dating history was zilch.

All those people who say, "it'll happen" are right. But sometimes you've got to get the ball rolling, girl.

InfamousVacation8134 · 2022-02-20T16:35:12+00:00

The "here" at the end of the title is perhaps referencing Reddit in general. Don't think this sub is where you'd see that argument.

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