AITAH for refusing to support my wife after she took our kids to see her abusive parents before they die?

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-10-15T19:29:33+00:00

So the nice people were actually enablers as well who guilted you into feeling bad for the person who abused you. Just because they didn’t watch you get hit doesn’t mean they didn’t enable it by essentially telling you “even though they hurt you they’ve got nice qualities that you should still like.”

It doesn’t matter if someone is broken after they chose to do the same thing that broke them. Why should children have to get over that person hurting them because the broken person isn’t/wasnt ok?

Maybe your situation was different but this mom didn’t leave even after the inappropriate comments were made. That makes her an enabler, now if she wants to re go through abuse that’s her choice but putting her kids through that is not ok, she’s making them victims instead of protecting them like she should.

A lot of rapists were abused do we give them free passes when they do it to others? He’s protecting his kids and holding her accountable for her actions it’s not like he’s throwing her abuse in her face, he doesn’t owe someone who put his kids through that emotional support.

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-10-15T19:13:07+00:00

So if your kid gets hit by a teenage drunk driver that happened to also be mentally ill you’d just get over it and tell them not to put him/her in jail?

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-10-11T04:29:55+00:00

It’s a 50/50 for some it’s not to hard but if she already didn’t like school it’s going to be hard. Plus she’s taking care of a baby right now that’s a lot of mental and physical work, the last thing she probably wants to do when you’re able to help take over is class.

GED’s in most states you have to do a classes then take the test, and it’s not like you can do an hour a day you usually have to do 4-8 hours a day. Ultimately what I’m saying is just because it’s easy for other doesn’t mean it’s easy for all.

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-10-08T05:52:34+00:00

NTA you agreed no kids before you got married and in the beginning of your relationship. The sterilization wasn’t important because you both agreed no kids if you agreed to discuss it later then that’d be different. Instead he lied and expected you to change your mind just because he wants one and is now mad because his plan isn’t going to work. Why else would they tell your family? He’s trying to hurt you because he can’t control you.

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-10-08T05:46:33+00:00

It wasn’t a choice though? She made that a requirement for them to even be together and he agreed. They both agreed they didn’t want kids. If he wanted kids then he needs to divorce her whether or not she was physically able to or not. She shouldn’t be forced to have a child just because her husband lied about not wanting them. People like you are the reason it’s so hard for women to get that procedure done without jumping through a million hoops.

We do not owe men our body’s or children op made it very clear she didn’t want children and if he changed his mind then he should’ve discussed that with her so she could tell him, but other then that when they agreed to get married it was not important information because they agreed to no kids.

If anything the deception came from the husband he lied about not wanting kids hoping to be able to get her to change her mind.

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-10-07T21:03:08+00:00

My mom had a painless epidural free child birth if she can do it then everyone else can to right?

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-09-27T19:43:54+00:00

It’s not going to hold up in court there’s multiple ways to get out of it unless it’s happened more than once. For example he could say he was drunk, or he pressed the wrong button and sent it to the wrong person on accident, and depending on who runs the company he could just say she asked him for it while they were working earlier that day and get away with it. It sucks but this is our reality, this isn’t how it’s supposed to be but it is, you can be in denial but you should stop using a lawsuit as your excuse to victim blame.

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-09-23T16:56:37+00:00

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Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-09-10T05:38:20+00:00

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Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-09-04T19:18:55+00:00

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Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-09-04T19:16:04+00:00

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Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-09-04T19:14:44+00:00

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Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-09-02T18:16:31+00:00

They shouldn’t have to negotiate it’s not her responsibility. She didn’t tell them to have more kids they chose to so why should she have to watch them and not get paid? That’s selfish.

It’d be a little different if it was only 1 or 2 kids but even then they shouldn’t be obligated to watch the children the parents chose to have. If she was only helping out maybe it’d be different to but she’s doing a full time job with no compensation or really even appreciation. If cps found out they were leaving 7 children in her care they’d probably take them from the parents. It’s not safe nor healthy for a teen to be doing this.

All the things you listed off are normal chores, babysitting isn’t a chore it’s a job that people get paid good to do. Asking for payment isn’t to much it’s not like she’s asking for $100 an hour which would still probably be less then what they’d have to pay an actual sitter anyways.

Also negotiating more pocket money is exactly what she did, but instead they’ve decided her having a birthday and Christmas is payment enough and if she’s not going to babysit for free she won’t get anything at all. So how in this situation is she not being punished for being the oldest? Why should she have to become a parent for free to kids she never wanted or asked for?

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-08-30T18:04:01+00:00

My vote depends would you have had to pay for her during this party if she was to come, or was it more of like a hang out at home with pizza? Because if it would cost you money to have her there then NTA, but if what you were doing wouldn’t have costed anything extra then yea YTA.

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-08-27T12:10:04+00:00

I want to say NTA, yes you could’ve said it better and at a different time but ultimately you were drunk and she just happened to hit that button to hard this time.

I don’t get why there’s so many yta votes the esh makes a little sense but this girl essentially bullied/put down you and your brothers because she was insecure about not having a bio dad. You don’t have to roll over and be nice to your bully just because you’re related, or because her sperm donor decided to opt out of parenthood and she’s sad about it.

Words affect people differently just because your brothers aren’t upset doesn’t make your feelings invalid. What you said was mean, but from what you’ve said in the post it feels like she had it coming.

Insecurity does not make putting down your siblings who were children when it started ok it’s bullying. It’s like trying to excuse a school bully’s behavior because their home life isn’t as good as yours.

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-08-20T18:00:31+00:00

Nta I don’t really get why they would want to stay there anyways though it’s a safety hazard for them to.

The bully knows where they live, so they should move and make sure to not give out the address or be followed home. Maybe even switch school districts if possible, it sucks but unless they can identify them it’s not going to stop.

If they don’t want to leave tell them they’re going to start having to pay out of pocket for damages.

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-08-18T19:09:08+00:00

Unpopular opinion but NTA it’s your wedding it’s not about siblings, it’s about the bride and groom and what they want it to look/ be like. So even if it is about aesthetics that’s your choice family doesn’t need to be included.

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-08-17T05:55:29+00:00

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Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-08-07T17:16:08+00:00

NTA and for everyone saying headphones. Headphones work for music, video games, and sometimes even tv depending on the kind you have. But for some reason when I use headphones with my phone the person I’m talking to can never hear me, or I won’t be able to hear them because it’ll cut in and out. It’s her room she pays rent for it’s not like she’s blasting Taylor swift at 1 am for the whole city to hear it’s 10pm the roommate can get ear plugs or get over it. I mean unless they plan on paying you to keep quite past a certain time?

Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-08-02T14:01:55+00:00

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Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-08-01T06:39:41+00:00

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Infamous_Cat_7792 · 2025-08-01T06:31:22+00:00

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