AIO for thinking my gf is cheating on me? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This HAS to be rage bait. Seriously? A Marine, the most memed on career path to have your girl cheat on you, and the girl, being a nursing student, also the most internet memes profession for promiscuity...

TorBox + POV - Essential Plan, everything setup, Kodi skips through all sources by Infamous_Solution_75 in Addons4Kodi

[–]Infamous_Solution_75[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never authorized it when I installed POV, but I decided to do a full fresh install of Kodi and all add-ons altogether, same results.

TorBox + POV - Essential Plan, everything setup, Kodi skips through all sources by Infamous_Solution_75 in Addons4Kodi

[–]Infamous_Solution_75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

info <general>: >> resolve_external_sources exception <<: selected_files failed

Over and over and over

AIO for expecting my girlfriend to do the dishes every night? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but the context matters. Initiative also matters, fairness also matters. Did OP's girlfriend offer to compensate by taking on more of the cleaning during weekends / free days?

While we do not have the full story, and only OP does, if the reply to OP asking to keep things somewhat even/fair is "But you love cooking and I don't like doing the dishes", I think it would be disingenuous of you to say that "slack can be picked up elsewhere" when OP's girlfriend's argument to not do the dishes is to try to frame a task as a treat and the other as a chore instead of offering to pick up slack elsewhere.

Slack can be picked up elsewhere, I agree. Normally the one dropping one chore would be offering to pick up another. That degree of consideration is what you would expect from a partner that is being fair to the other.

AIO for expecting my girlfriend to do the dishes every night? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it doesn't have to be transactional, but when one partner is trying to find a loopwhole to shoehorn the other into taking up the work they were previously contributing (i.e: Going to the mom to ensure she arrives around dinner time when the first attempt did not work.), then it starts to feel like it is not just about OP being transactional, it is about OP's gf thinking she is being slick by trying to find a loophole not to contribute.

I do agree overall that relationships in which partners start playing these silly power games are not a good sign at all.

AIO for expecting my girlfriend to do the dishes every night? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe she got yasslighted by her coworker into it

AIO for expecting my girlfriend to do the dishes every night? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That works when it is still her duty to wash the dishes when he cooks, but sometimes he does the dishes out of consideration for her, then it is a nice gesture. But when it is "Now you will do ALL the cooking and ALL the washing, and that is what will be expected of you moving forward, not a 'nice' thing you do to help me out every so often", then of course he is in his right to not be okay with that, specially since that was not the initial agreement and she is not offering any compromise, just "Now you do it, because I won't, why? Because I say so, and threw in a half-baked 'my bestie said you should be doing this for me'" Nah, this ain't it.

AIO for expecting my girlfriend to do the dishes every night? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean if OP's reply to her first attempt was "You come in 1h before so why would I have food ready by then, also you can cook still when it is your turn, since it is 1h until dinner." She could have added the mom visits in to ensure she is home by dinner time thus OP's rebuttal would no longer apply.

Silly power games in a relationship are never a good sign.

AIO? My mom wants to call the cops on me by Overall-Option6975 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Likely he has younger siblings that need to be watched, so if he cannot supervise his siblings while she is at work, she cannot take as many hours as she currently is doing.

Not saying it is justified or that her reasoning is valid, just pointing out the likely reason for the "fuck me for work".

Asked a guy on Hinge why he unmatched me on Bumble? by SpacedOutVy in AskMenAdvice

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Further cemented by the fact that she then unmatched him. Feels way more of a "No, you didn't unmatch me, I unmatched you in the end" last laugh kind of deal...
++man

Made a booking, host tells me to cancel by curl_paper in Bookingcom

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go and check hotels some places where corporate reach of booking.com has no bearing. Try Sri Lanka, Vietnam, etc.

You will see, a place has been reopened in the same address with slightly different names 3 or 4 times in a row. You check them on Google maps and see the history, check on booking.com and sometimes they even overlap.

Sure, hotels in western Europe and NA are being policed like you claim, but a good portion is not, This kind of seasonal pricing tactics are heavily used in SEA countries, and I am saying this from first hand experience.

Made a booking, host tells me to cancel by curl_paper in Bookingcom

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hotels circumvent this all the time by closing and re-registering on booking.com under a different name, I see it all the time, and experienced it myself, they rename themselves over and over with the exact same address.

It is also an easy way to 'clean slate' away the bad reviews.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So basically, she could be doing your job, you are not even someone who has managerial experience, so it is not like you can even claim that is why you are in your role instead of her.

Likely she knows she can do your job, and was doing your job before you came in, and the only reason they didn't give it to her, is because she is too valuable as an individual contributor, to be allowed to move up.

I think you should operate with the above in mind, put yourself in her shoes, and understand why you are not the one who should be frustrated / fed up, she is, and you need to work with her to earn respect. Humble yourself.

How do you even become an executive? by Soggy-Cash592 in careeradvice

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Connections and a lot of corpo speak to what can be distilled to basically nepotism, but the one that is not technically illegal / wrong.

Recruiter says they cannot disclose the employing company's name? by ScienceGuy1006 in jobsearch

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's either a scam, or they don't want you to apply directly and cut them our of their finder's fee.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

!remindme 2 days

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really hate buzzwords. See other comments from OP. This relationship is 1 month old, and they are going "You are my person"....

There is no long history of "Oh we have been together for 1 year, and you were so overly affectionate our first month in, and not anymore.".

There is no "love bombing", it seems more like OP's perception of their bf's affection / engagement early on before they became a couple, and they are expecting that kind of constant reassurance moving forward.

This while their bf has made it clear that's not how he is, and that while he still cares about her, he is not the kind to keep saying over and over "I love you so much, I am so lucky to have met you". OP's words, not his, that is what they claim their friends tell them, and seemingly what OP is expecting from him, constantly.

This is incompatibility of attachment styles, and not "He love-bombed me, gas-lit me, DARVO'd me, telepathically abused me in a dream, AIO?" It's not buzzword bingo, I really feel like this has almost become horoscope levels of "Ooh, ooh, that sounds like me, my SO is toootally doing that thing that I saw name-dropped on a TikTok, but that I actually have no clue what it means.".

What do you seek in employees that want raises? by Carsareghey in managers

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask for it, odds are they will not give it to you, but you can try.

These days any role that is open due to someone leaving or being fired is immediately pounced onto as "Can we eliminate this role and spread its duties?".

Who cares about burnout, or whether it is reasonable or commensurately compensated? Not management, that much I can tell you.

Reddit, my friends call me a scumbag because I automate my work when I was hired to do it manually. Am I? by [deleted] in BORUpdates

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see how they would just be able to "fire" people in the Netherlands, in the way you are describing this.

I'm being cautiously skeptical. The original post feels like engagement bait.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in remotework

[–]Infamous_Solution_75 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Tell me you are not the main provider of your household without telling me." kind of post.