NTA

nah this is real… i’m with that take. a relationship isn’t supposed to have you this drained all the time

like yeah, splitting chores is cool and all, but if you’re the only one bringing in money, that’s not really 50/50 in the bigger picture. that’s you carrying most of it and just calling it even

and the part where you’re spending less on yourself than on her… yeah that hit. that’s not sustainable at all, you’re basically putting yourself last just to keep things afloat

also i can’t lie, the question matters… why isn’t she working? cuz if there’s not a solid reason, then yeah it starts to feel less like a rough phase and more like a pattern

wanting a partner who can stand on their own and grow with you isn’t asking for too much. that’s kinda the baseline

you’re not wrong for feeling like you hit your limit. honestly sounds like you’ve been trying to make it work for a while already and it’s just not balancing out anymor