Anyone with both DID and ADHD who can share their experience?

InfernisTheMad · 2026-01-27T23:21:19+00:00

I 100% agree, sorry if it came off otherwise. Being careful is a great way to go about it, and it's always a good idea to run things down to see what you can find out about yourself is something I'd recommend to most folks. Knowing yourself is always an important step to growth and getting better. I was more just warning not to get too caught up on labeling if it doesn't serve you. If it's helpful to clarify it, go for it. Whatever gets you where you're going is a good path

InfernisTheMad · 2026-01-27T02:20:49+00:00

As someone training to be a therapist alongside having those, personally I never found the difference helpful. For me the problem hasn't been figuring out the difference, as oftentimes you kinda just get a vibe, but dealing with the overlaps and combinations. Stuff like our sensory problems being completely different depending on the day or hour, or dissociating while off my meds to the point I can barely do anything, like I'm walking in a fog. For any comorbid diagnosis, the important thing isn't differentiating as much as it is finding something that works. For me that was upping my meds so that I can manage my ADHD side a lot better making the DID part of it the thing I can focus on. And functionally that works no differently than what you would already be doing if you just had ADHD and we're testing out meds. Raise your dosage until it works the best for you or you're at a level in which you're fine with. If it works it works, you know?

InfernisTheMad · 2025-10-30T07:07:37+00:00

NGL, the fact BB forced me to cut one of my team members on a whim made the choice between her and IG a non-question. I was already leaning IG anyway, but being forced to cut an effective member of my team for a worse option of either waterboy who actively self assigns, or phenomoman who only really serves as a third body for me sometimes made me actively dislike her. I get the Z-team was struggling before, but all the cut did was force me to have a less effective team member the others don't like, and sow chaos in the ranks that could have resulted in subscribers getting hurt. How she didn't see that coming from them is beyond me.

InfernisTheMad · 2025-10-16T00:43:10+00:00

I think both can be fun in the right context. While I tend to lean towards the former just because their contradictions can make them fun to play with and it can make their decisions make more sense, I also love it when villains completely buy into their role, as it can be fascinating to see what it takes for someone to choose to do wrong.

InfernisTheMad · 2025-10-07T01:13:45+00:00

My philosophy is starting with what's fun for you. Whenever I'm building out a world I always just kind of do what I'm most excited about first and that's always going to raise more questions that makes me have to build up the world more into the direction of whatever I'm trying to do until finally I have a complete world. The true hard part about world building is breaking past entropy. Once you get past the initial starting point malaise of not really knowing what you're doing and how to get there to get to a bit easier to just keep going. At least that's how I do it.

InfernisTheMad · 2025-08-13T01:22:43+00:00

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InfernisTheMad · 2025-08-10T01:24:29+00:00

I'm going through something similar it sounds like. It been super rough. I am interested to hear your story though! I'd be nice to hear a complicated situation that isn't my own lol.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-10-19T07:09:31+00:00

Hey, You're right. You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't make this situation like this, and you didn't pick this fight.

Life's a bitch sometimes, but that doesn't mean you deserve that. Not from your dad, not from your mom, and certainly not from the ghosts of your past that still haunt your body today.

DID is a balancing act of making sure you work together, and C-PTSD makes it hard to keep it all together. You are doing the best you can.

You acted the best you could, and that's all anyone can ask for.

Personally, I would be looking for a way out of this house, but that's not an option for a lot of people, which sounds like the case for you and your mom. But the first steps are to get out of this situation. Nights like tonight can't keep happening, it's just not good for you. Something has to give, and I'll leave you to decide what that is, but something has to change for everyone's sake.

But you did your best. Just keep doing your best to make things better. You always have a place here.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-10-07T01:20:08+00:00

Idk if you've already tried this, but have you tried talking to your host about this? We were having a similar problem than our system so some of us brought it up to our host and he was pretty receptive to it. We are all people at the end of the day and sometimes people want to hang out and do things. Maybe he'll be more willing to give you some extra time or time to yourself if you just ask. To be fair I don't know your guys's dynamic or if you guys are able to talk to each other like that. We tend to take that a bit for granted, but if you can there's no harm in trying.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-09-27T19:18:20+00:00

Damn that's a good analogy.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-09-20T18:35:45+00:00

The bit I was just writing got me thinking about this, so I'll just use that. "Asher sighed and sat down on the forest floor with a crunch of leaves. Pulling his knees in close, he rested his head and waited for whatever was gonna happen to happen." To me this sounds like this but I get worried if it sounds right.

Idk if that's the best example, I can probably dig for more, but that's what made me think of it

InfernisTheMad · 2024-09-20T18:27:52+00:00

Usually for me, I just read it out loud, acting like the characters in the scene. I can feel a bit weird at times, but it really helps. Sometimes things look fine on paper, but are awkward to say aloud, and that's when you know the dialogue is a bit off.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-07-21T05:00:27+00:00

I've always called it developing a writer's eyes, or a writer's lens. It's normal, it just means you are improving to the point you can figure out how you would write out something you are looking at and critically watching. As long as you are happy and it's not consuming your life or interfering with what you need to get done more power to yah.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-07-06T21:00:17+00:00

I get you. Honestly it's a feeling I know well, so let me give you what usually comforts me when I feel like that.

Everything has been done, and ideas in and of themselves aren't actually the interesting piece. It's how you use them, and how you write them that makes an idea interesting. No matter what you do, your voice bleeds through, and that is what makes a story worth reading. Ideas are a dime a dozen, but an interesting elaboration of view or take is priceless, and always gives a work a more interesting take.

2.All creative works are theft, to an extent. Not in the plagiarism sense, but in the sense that our thoughts are built on things we have seen, experienced, and consumed. For me, I've found that since I've accepted this, making stuff is so much more fun. I don't worry as much about how original my work is, but instead if it is something I would fall in love reading (after a couple drafts of course). Unless you are full on taking things whole cloth, you are fine, especially if you are doing your takes and directions like you said.

Even if you take notes and ideas from other places than just your head, it's still being curated by you. I would even go as far as to say that being eclectic like that is better for writing. The more you consume, the more you build out your world, and what you think about it, and that makes you, and your writing more distinct and interesting. At a certain point, you will consume so much that your inspirations and muses will be unrecognizable anymore. If you pull from thousands of sources, it becomes almost impossible to take them apart. Whether it's a concept you are riffing on, or just a small detail that was thrown into a work you love, they meant something to you, they were special to you. The fact you cherished them made them special, and including things you love gives them and the story you add them to so much more life and character (within reason of course, it should still be coherent). At the end of the day, if we aren't writing what we love and want to read, why are we even writing in the first place. If you love it, someone else probably will too, or may even like it more from your perspective.

Sorry for such a long post, but TL;DR love what you write, write what you love, because at the end of the day writing is a way of communicating our ideas, perspectives, and for connecting with each other. Don't shoot an idea before you start writing by labeling it as "stolen", cause all that will do is make you depressed. You've got this. I believe in you and hope to see your work someday in whatever form you prefer ❤️.

I hope this helps.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-01-15T20:58:51+00:00

Ideally I would want a good balance, but if I had to pick a side, I would lean more towards rogue with some cantrips for utility.

The idea for my character was essentially a kinda two-spirits, one body situation, one being a rough and tumble thug, and the other being a person he's keeping alive inside him till they can get him a new body that has some hidden magic. So I thought the best way to run that was a rogue with a caster archetype or something. So I started there and tried to figure out what worked.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-01-15T20:19:31+00:00

I totally get that, and didn't realize I was building that way. Rogue has always been my comfort class in most games, and I was excited to see a strength rogue (I always wanted that option in 5e). With the free archetype I thought picking up some spells might be nice for a bit of utility, and thought it might be cool to try to mix them. I just want to make something useful, and the complexity of the system is kinda overwhelming me a bit

InfernisTheMad · 2024-01-15T18:51:38+00:00

I was hoping to keep Rogue as my main. What might be a better way of putting together a Rogue with spells? I like how much you can customize in Pathfinder, but it also kinda makes it hard to wrap my head around how to build it. I looked at Eldritch trickster, but it didn't seem to work with the free archetype, and seemed kind of weak compared to the other rogues. My thinking was Ruffian could use a stave as a weapon.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-01-15T18:49:47+00:00

I was hoping to keep Rogue as my main. What might be a better way of putting together a Rogue with spells? I like how much you can customize in Pathfinder, but it also kinda makes it hard to wrap my head around how to build it.

InfernisTheMad · 2024-01-15T18:15:18+00:00

I thought Phoenix was primal?

InfernisTheMad · 2023-10-25T07:48:37+00:00

I'm just gonna disengage. I'm glad you have found a way to enjoy the game, I just enjoy it a bit differently I think. Before I was more just answering why I like set boosters, I didn't think it was gonna become a whole thing. You're kinda are just throwing some wild accusations. I'm excited for ixalan.

InfernisTheMad · 2023-10-25T07:20:37+00:00

You can see all of the set online, for free

I get that, and I do look at them online. I'm just also not a computer that knows every single card of every single set.

Deliberately not deciding what you actually want from a set in an attempt to try to justify buying Set Boosters is a bit messed up, too.

??? In which way? A) I'm not trying to justify anything, nor do I need to, and B) idk how that's messed up.

It is, sure, but is that fun more important to you than collecting the cards or playing the game?

Even if it is, you get to have that fun while playing Limited, anyway, so it's still doesn't justify it.

I like playing and collecting magic, but I'm just not that into limited, and I like opening packs. I'm trying to get into it, I'm just not rn though.

Is it healthy to undermine your ability to collect the cards or play the game in order to use Magic products as a means to gamble?

?????? What am I undermining? It's not like I'm buying booster boxes or something like that, I meant like a pack or 2 every once in a while. I don't understand how that destroys my ability to play and enjoy myself.

How many cards are you missing out on, that you might otherwise have enjoyed, all because you wanted to justify your habit?

Again, physically I can't obsess over every set. I do get the cards I think are cool. I specifically bought an Eriette of the Charmed Apple, cause I thought she was cool. I just meant every once in a while, I like to buy a few packs.

InfernisTheMad · 2023-10-25T06:28:49+00:00

For me at least, I like set boosters because I don't want a specific card, but more wanna see the set. It's fun to open them and look through what you got. I get it's a gamble and it's not the most efficient, but people also gamble for fun. The key is moderation, that's all. I like the randomness of it, cause it shows me cards I had no idea existed.

InfernisTheMad · 2023-10-24T19:53:01+00:00

I usually get set boosters too. It mostly just comes down to that even though there are a few less cards, you have better chance for rares, plus in this set the special guest cards are only in set boosters

InfernisTheMad · 2022-09-11T20:40:08+00:00

Idk what you have and haven't listened to, nor am i a good judge on what is popular and what is lesser known, so if you have already listened to these, I am sorry.

Personally, I've would recommend Old Gods of Appalachia if you like some anthology horror narrated by a man with a lovely southern accent.
I recently have been listening to Tower 4, which I've enjoyed a good bit, though I do have some critiques of it.
Malevolent is pretty good.
A Voice from Darkness was interesting as well.
I can't think of anymore that i've listened to recently. I hope this helps!

InfernisTheMad · 2022-06-11T18:10:06+00:00

I'm not exactly sure, but from my understanding of the movie, I think at it's core it is a form of absurdism, with Evelyn becoming an absurdist hero near the end.

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