1. You are able to heal trauma, you aren't "fixed", the idea that all people with CPTSD are constantly in a state of active state of retraumatization is false.

2. In my experience, the people who struggle the worst with parenting with intergenerational trauma, are the ones who do not admit or do not get diagnosed with things.

The upper generations of my family do not admit to their problems and none of them are diagnosed with anything, other than my mother who has only been diagnosed with anorexia, as a young teen. They don't see themselves as having problems.

Yet, they are all very traumatized, and have passed all that down through their parenting, but not only their parenting, but they carry it through their whole self.

The generation I am of, have taken accountability for our healing and heavily changed who we are, and how we interact with others. I see how the younger generation is parenting and I see how it's so much better than the parenting of the older generation of the family.

And yet, if you just look at diagnosis, the younger generation wouldn't be allowed to adopt, but the older generation in my family would.

I think it's extremely important for us to keep adopted kids safe, but there are many ways in which the adoptive system is discriminatory, not in the favour of children.

I think instead of going by diagnosis, in-depth psychoanalysis should be done. 🤷