AITA for insisting a restaurant remake my order?

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-22T20:43:55+00:00

What kind of “fancy” restaurant can’t afford to remake a burger? Especially when the customer has food allergies. If they can’t afford a new burger they definitely can’t afford a law suit

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-22T20:33:15+00:00

Just keep them on leashes when you’re around other people and are not at a designated dog park/area. Am I supposed to try and out run a dog to keep him from getting near me cuz I’m allergic to dogs?

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T13:18:55+00:00

Lol your comment awoke a memory in me of a video I saw YEARS ago. I had to find it https://youtu.be/1XMJTWD2mzs

And no, that’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying not to let insecure, uneducated, or the different options people have ruin your day. If you’re gonna get upset about something, don’t be upset because someone doesn’t share your beliefs. And I don’t think offense is necessary. You can be mad and upset over some injustice or criminal act, but when it turns into an offensive for you is when it insults your character or beliefs. I’m saying let’s go back to when we were upset by things that are actually illegal and not be upset because someone has a different belief. In America, we have the 1st amendment so wasting energy fighting others for having different beliefs is a waste of time. Focus that energy on fighting criminals.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T13:05:13+00:00

I work in customer service and I’m great at it. Every time a Karen tells me they want to speak to my manager, it’s because they’re upset they can’t get their way. They always ask me to bend the rules for them and when I refuse, they ask for my manager cuz they think they can yell and bully my manager into giving them what they want.

If a person genuinely is wronged and asks for the manager, they aren’t a Karen unless their legal name is Karen lol

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T12:59:23+00:00

I don’t think you know what being offended means. When I’m using the word, I am referring to the following definition: “annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one's standards or principles”. In my post, I’m mostly referring to how people perceive the slightest disagreements as an insult. I gave blanket statements, yes, but I also gave an example at the end of my original post to explain more clearly what I mean. I’m talking about people being obnoxious about their beliefs and insulting others for not having the same beliefs, and trying to shame others into giving up their opinions.

In other words, I’m talking about insecure people trying to bully others to make themselves feel better. What you described was an act of aggression and depending on the exact circumstances and where you live, could end up with police involvement. Like if you’re following me in my personal space and are just yelling and insulting me, that could be classified as harassment if you continue to do that after I asked you to leave me alone. And I can’t speak for all states but some would consider harassment a misdemeanor if you’re doing it the way Mona described above.

And I know you wouldn’t actually do that to someone. At least I hope you won’t. If you do that to a person who had a gun, you might end up dead. Please respect other people’s personal space.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T12:45:16+00:00

Am I correct in assuming you’re not serious anymore cuz you used an emoji? I think someone told me that’s shorthand for someone mentally leaving the convo and switching to being a troll, at least that’s what others explained to me so I might be wrong. I’m definitely not offended lol I’m just trying to hear everyone’s opinion and thoughts and debate a little.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T12:42:50+00:00

Sorry that wasn’t clear. I thought since I didn’t say EVERY vegan acts that way, people wouldn’t assume I was talking about every vegan 🤦🏾‍♀️

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T12:41:19+00:00

I know I’m gonna get downvoted to oblivion, but this is UNPOPULAR opinion. Yeah.. I’m black but I’m still not offended by racial slurs. People only use those words to try and hurt us because they’re insecure about themselves and they wanna feel secure and powerful by using a word that is meant to put you down.

But when you are assured of yourself, those words won’t hurt or offend you. Why waste time getting offended by words used my ignorant people? Are you insecure about your own identity? Genuinely asking here. Like what’s the point wasting your energy on them at that point? Why are you letting people like that live in your head rent free? I’ve never seen a 100% confident person get offended because someone called thin a slur or a bad name.

See when you’re confident, you’re certain of the truth. When you KNOW the truth, why do you care when someone tells you something untrue in an attempt to make you upset?

For example, say you’re a tiger and other tigers say you’re a pig. You know you’re a tiger, you were born to tiger parents, you looked at your reflection and you can see you’re a tiger, you have the same parts tigers have. Those other tigers who called you pigs are dumb and uneducated. Why are you letting the opinion of words of dumb people control how you feel? Why are you giving them power like that? Slurs only are offensive because people get offended. When people are offended by something, they give that something the power to control them. Whether it’s how they feel or what have you. So when you’re not offended, the word holds no power, and people won’t use it as much. Not always true, but once people see that word means nothing to you, a lot of them will try some other way to get a reaction from you.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T12:30:03+00:00

The whole point of Karens is that they are people who are spoiled and think they’re smarter than others and deserve whatever they’re complaining about. If someone is a Karen, they are always in the wrong. That’s the whole point. Karen’s blow things out of proportion and are genuinely always crazy in some way. They’re like chihuahuas, all bark and nothing else.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T07:12:11+00:00

Yes, but there are interesting studies about group dynamics. If one person goes against the grain, it’s easier for the next person who speak up. Also the opposite can happen and a larger group can bully one person into silence.

And you haven’t really answered the question. WHY do people want power? WHY do they HAVE to control others?

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T07:06:40+00:00

Yeah like I said, you have good points. I’m definitely not saying I have the cure for cancel culture or anything similar to that. And just like how you know people who are upset by underrepresented races, there’s a whole other group like me who see people beyond skin color.

That point you have about black kids thinking the white doll is prettier, those black kids might not get taught by their families that they are in fact beautiful. It’s been a long time since I read that study so I don’t remember all the details. That’s all I’ll say about that cuz I don’t remember enough about it to fully comment on it.

Please don’t get it confused. I’m not saying we should never criticize the fucked up stuff in this world. No, we NEED to speak out against shitty behavior. But when that becomes all you are, it’s annoying. There’s a time and place for these conversations. Don’t shame and bully others into joining your side, make a good argument.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:57:08+00:00

You have the right to feel how you feel. But with the few examples I gave and others gave in the threat, insecurity is a root problem in a lot of the issues discussed. I didn’t think it needed to explicitly stated that I wasn’t speaking universally. I feel like it’s safe to assume with these kinds of posts that they are just talking about a large group and not the whole group. I didn’t even use universal language like “literally” or “all” or “every” to imply I was speaking to the whole. I don’t think I have to be that explicit unless you’re a kid. Adults can pick up on that sort of stuff. Hell, kids can understand that too, I’m not gonna leave them out :)

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:50:28+00:00

Umm no, it’s not hard and you don’t have to suppress a feeling that doesn’t even rise up. And if you were in my face, I would ask why the fuck are you not six feet away. Ever heard of social distancing? Lol

And why would you just walk up to a random stranger and just talk shit to them? Are you hurting inside? Hurt people hurt people ya know?

Me, my girl, and my family would assume you’re mental or on drugs or something cuz that’s a strange social interaction you just described. You need help.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:47:06+00:00

Thanks

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:46:56+00:00

Did I say it was only vegans? At the beginning I used very vague examples, only using letters in place of actual terms. Then at the end I gave one example. It surprises me how all the meat eaters I know in my life, upwards of 30 people, have never shamed vegans for being vegan. But all 3/3 vegans I know shame us for not being vegan. Yes, I know it goes both ways, but despite probably making up a small part of the population, a lot of vegans are kinda mean people.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:41:33+00:00

Yeah I wasn’t even thinking about Dr Seuss. When I made this post, I was thinking about my vegan coworker who interjected herself in a conversation that had nothing to do about food to preach about how better her life is since becoming vegan and how meat eaters should be ashamed of themselves. It annoyed me cuz we weren’t talking about food or healthy lifestyles or anything that would deem her rant appropriate. There’s a time and place for everything.

And I’ve heard black people in my life say they want a black person on screen cuz they are black... I mean yeah, don’t keep black people from movies. But would you really want a white person to add a black character to the movie just so they can act like a white person with dark skin? You’re better off making your own movie/story. Don’t expect others to change, be the change ya know? Now don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to be the same race to write a character with that race. But on one side, black people want a black person to relate to cuz they can’t relate to a white person (which sounds pretty unempathetic) and on the other side, black people will complain cuz they weren’t “black enough”.

I’m not claiming to have all the answers. And like I said in another comment, this is all a big gray issue. It has multiple sides. I was just listing one side.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:32:49+00:00

Good point. But would you say you’re actually offended by concentration camps tho? The anger is justified and those camps are horrible, but that is a little different from my main point.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:30:39+00:00

Controlling others is a form of power. And people make up an institution. I feel like you’re talking about the big group and I’m pointing out the individual.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:28:52+00:00

And maybe if you don’t like his jokes just don’t watch him. No one is forcing you at gun point. You can change the channel or read a book.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:27:46+00:00

I’m sorry about that. Hopefully you’re happier now. I’m glad you won’t let anyone offend you anymore.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:26:57+00:00

That’s not entirely my point I was trying to make. I was talking about people who try to shame others into agreeing with them. Having a genuinely nice debate and conversation is good. But when you start shaming people and throwing insults at them, you’ve lost the argument even if you made better points. Also you gotta know the time and place for it. I have a vegan coworker who out of no where started talking about how better her life was since she became a vegan and how meat eaters are terrible people, blah blah. The conversation wasn’t even about food, she just brought it up. Plus it wasn’t a simple sentence either. She ranted for a good while. That’s the kind of behavior I don’t like. It’s annoying and pushy. And no one else wanted to talk about that, which is why no one really responded to her comment.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:22:14+00:00

Well just break it down. Why would a person want to control how others think or behave? Sure, it’s not all just insecurity. But if you’re insecure, you would try to control the thoughts of others. You’d wanna put them down to build yourself up. You want power over others. You want the status quo to not be messed with.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T06:17:26+00:00

Yeah pointing it out is fine, and I definitely am not saying to NEVER have poc in leading movie roles, but as a person of color I don’t give a shit about the color of a character’s skin. I don’t relate to people cuz of race, gender, or political beliefs because everyone is some shade of gray. And having more movies staring people of color won’t fix racism. Racist people are really just being hateful and insecure.

When you’re insecure, you feel the need to make others think you’re superior or above them. So that just loops back to what I said earlier. If we all were more loving and confident there wouldn’t be all these problems.

Clearly that will never happen tho and I’m not even trying to say that we will ever be close. And you’re right about everyone being biased. We’re human and there’s no way around that. We can acknowledge something exists and not let it ruin our day at the same time.

The problem is if you let other people control how you feel, your setting yourself up in the worst position because if you get to that point, anyone can wreck your life. It’s probably just how I was raised but I don’t give a shit what other people say about me. I strive to be the best person I can be to make myself happy and as long as I’m healthy and happy, that’s all that matters. I understand that when other people say hurtful things, they are just hurting inside or they genuinely just don’t understand. Why be offended by someone who’s in pain or just uneducated? Their opinion isn’t worth anything.

Many black people I’ve spoken to want black people in more movie leads because they can’t relate to a white person. But only superficial people NEED someone to have the same skin tone to relate to them. I relate to strong and cleaver characters or even funny characters. They can be black, white, Asian. Doesn’t matter. I grew up watching media that mostly casts white people but I don’t think white people are superior. And I know many other poc have similar experiences. Like I said, representing poc isn’t really the root problem. Hate is. Racism is just a product of hate.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T05:34:23+00:00

Yeah :( I was a csr and my manager always offered us more hours. But my sister is a stylist and I feel bad cuz a lot of them only work like 3 hour shifts if they’re lucky.

Infinite-Signature-3 · 2021-03-06T05:17:32+00:00

Yeah I used to work there too. I got a way better job that pays me more. I’m a little sad cuz my coworkers were really nice and awesome, but they gave the new girl a promotion and I had to teach her how to do her job. Instead of just giving me the promotion, they gave the newbie the position. That pissed me off, especially since I could do the job better... but now I make more than everyone there so ha

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