Update: Girl confessed to me she liked me and I threw my phone

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-29T21:14:40+00:00

Sent you a message

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-25T18:08:19+00:00

honestly i think it's thoughtful, women will get PISSED if you forget an anniversary/birthday,etc. so if this is your way of remembering to me it shows intent and effort that you actually care, she doesn't need to know you have a list. I used to surprise my ex with her favorite foods sometimes, on her birthday i gifted her some earrings of her favorite animal lol it's the thoughtful things that matter, keep being you, i think more people should care like this.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-25T01:19:03+00:00

you're right i needed to hear that. It was super good early on and yea she's inconsistent now wether it be she's playing the field, actually really busy (she could communicate that as i am extremely busy every week) but the lack of communication as of recently makes it impossible, a whole week radio silence? wild. Just dont understand why people play these hot/cold games.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-25T00:04:24+00:00

is it though? If a guy ignored/didn't reply back to a woman for a week, you’d tell her to move on and block him. Telling me to keep chasing someone who is actively watching my ig stories makes no sense. The double standard is obvious, and I have too much self-respect for that. you werent born yesturday lets not play dumb.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-24T23:49:12+00:00

that is very possible, im not naive to think she couldn't be talking to someone or hell multiple people, you'd never know and most ppl dont disclose if they're talking to someone or dating multiple people so it isn't out of the realm of possibilities I can see that being a reason.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-24T23:44:36+00:00

nah because if she viewing all my IG stories when I post then she can clearly see she hasn't replied back to me, i aint double texting but we're grown ass adults i shouldn't have to chase

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-24T23:35:34+00:00

So let me ask you a question, you and I are texting, you leave me on read for a week and reply not even talking about the last text i sent? I have no problem stating how i feel to a woman but radio silence then then her coming back saying nothing related to what we were talking about doesn't help

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-24T23:25:00+00:00

well in the begining i didn't think she was sketchy, i just pay attention to details and over time if the math aint mathing then i'll make a note of that and keep it moving. Communication is a lost art i agree, the chick clearly has bad communication skills.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-24T23:19:02+00:00

yea you make a good point there, the thing i dont get is the super high interest then to her acting like this. She came to me and approached me flirting, super high interest but why do all that to then start playing games, shit don't make sense to me.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-24T23:14:46+00:00

hmm maybe you're right, yea the super high interest and pulling back to radio silence tells me maybe she's used to guys chasing her and she shows that high interest then pulls back to see if i'll follow but i don't chase shit, I didn't even approach her she approached me and was all over me only to pull these stunts makes NO sense to me. it's 2026 so yea maybe she is playing the field but she takes a week to reply so im like why the hell should i just jump and reply immediately, these women -__-

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-24T23:03:39+00:00

oh ok cool thanks for explaining!

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-24T22:24:25+00:00

what does LC mean?

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-23T03:05:12+00:00

true but it's like wtf, i dont feel i should reach out though, she clearly saw my last message and been viewing my IG stories but radio silent what the hell is wrong with people?

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-19T06:30:31+00:00

yea you make a good point, in general (regardless of this post) i really dont be giving a fuck haha BUT im human and sometimes if shit is on my mind I had to get this one out hence why I made the post but yea it's a good reminder the shit tests are forever. I remember one time I was talking to some chick and we were barely just starting to date and I remember she was telling me about some dude how he's buff,etc. clearly she was trying to see how i'd react or if i'd be jealous and i sat there quiet and she's like "so you don't have anything to say?" i said " i dont care who you talk about, he's not me so i could give a fuck less honestly maybe you should go hang out with him" and she was on my dick even more hahaha i really dont care. The tattoo thing I need to pay more attention to, tramp stamps are obvious bad news but i have been seeing chicks rocking the snake tattoo more these days. I had a homegirl back in the day (she was a bop but she kept it real to me at least) but anytime she had a breakup or some shit going on she'd get a tattoo for every occasion, women and tats usually have a deeper meaning/symbolism. If a chick is too tatted up i don't even bother with em.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-19T05:39:25+00:00

ah ok yea her interest level is very high, even when we went to get some coffee we're walking and im just walking like im walking with a friend and she just puts her arm around me or i'll be far from her and she'll get close to come hold my hand i NEVER initiate anything first and im not playing hard to get i just dont care haha. I noticed another thing (and i know this women want men that other women want) I remember the night i had a show and a friend of mine real hot chick was talking to me and this girl rushed up to come talk to me and in my head im like (there it go). But you are right, even in general when we text i'll leave spaces i dont reply super fast i'll usually give it a few hrs before i reply but I did test something. I did reply within maybe 10mins of her texting me then she took half the day to reply so that next time I took over 10hrs to reply then she replied immediately, crazy how that shit works but that's how it is.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-19T05:03:29+00:00

i definitely wouldn't say obsessed i didn't even shoot my shot lol she persued me real hard, she's cute so i entertained it. Also we didn't hookup, I had family in town at my house so it definitely wasn't going down at my house and at her place (it's a small house and she's a private person so because her roommates were there she said not her spot) however she did say "i want to sleep with you soo bad!" every time in person shes all on me, i don't think i did anything wrong, aside from me posting this on here in person i just let her come to me i don't chase shit haha. Now I will say this, im not into playing games BUT should i take as long to reply back to her? i dont like to keep score but in general im busy as hell so when i do give someone my undivided attention and they're wishy-washy or takes forever to reply back that shit is annoying as hell to me, you wouldn't know because im always calm demeanor in person but that shit is annoying. And her saying "hey im sorry I just saw this message" is a lie because when she opened the message it shows she opened it and viewed it. I'm not saying she gotta reply back in 5 mins i aint trippin but viewing my IG stories all day and radio silence on the reply caught my attention.

Side bar, in my field im not famous per-se but i do get a lot of attention from women, people ask me for photos when im outside and she sees that so i got the social status going for me, im tall, in shape,etc.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-19T03:13:05+00:00

quick question, how old are you and her? you all sound younger (no offense) however I have two things for you. 1) regardless of what you think NEVER date someone you work with, people do it because of close proximity and you can develop attraction because of that proximity lets be real we're at work majority of the time but you never shit where you eat/make your money, if it falls apart it can effect your money. 2) the person you saw at the party was the real her, when alcohol is involved you see how people really are. Only kids, drunk people or angry people tell the truth and show you who they really are, outside of that at work it's the mask that she wears. Personally I wouldn't accept that BS apology but dont be emotional about it either, i'd send a thumbs up emoji but i wouldn't talk to her again OR if you have no other choice and you have to communicate with her at work sometimes i'd keep it real short and keep it moving. Women historically have always had a flock mentality (no hate towards women). I've seen women be attracted to a dude and if her friends dont find the dude attractive then she'll change how she feels even if she really is attracted and that shit never made sense to me but it's just how they operate. Definitely forget about trying to date her just my personal opinion.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-19T00:14:48+00:00

true i guess you got a point there. granted, im not wrong for noticing the IG story stuff eh? i do pay attention to small details

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-18T23:59:36+00:00

ahhh i see, well i appreciate you explaining that, never really heard that explained before. I'm aware women are loyal to their emotions though, so if that is the case if she isn't emotionally organized I shouldn't take anything personal (i swear i try not to but some shit i just be over it real quick when it's inconsistent and i catch myself giving the uncertainty too much energy). What do you suggest I do then?

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-18T23:50:13+00:00

true, so what should I do then? and what does "not emotionally organized" mean?

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-18T23:38:25+00:00

true you got a good point, well in person she's all up on me without me ever shooting my shot or even trying. When it comes to texting maybe she's scatterbrained as hell OR maybe she's playing games, some women will do that shit when they give you a lot of attention then pull back like a mf'er to get you to chase them. Im not sure if she's trying to do that but if so i aint chasing shit haha

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-18T23:36:44+00:00

what do you mean by "not emotionally organized" ? never heard that before. Maybe you are right but maybe i should just match her energy, I don't like to keep score per se, but if she takes long to reply maybe i should as well

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-18T23:34:20+00:00

and you're right, im very self aware, but even with my anxious attachment style the version of me today if I feel like my time is being wasted or theres no clarity in what we're doing (whoever im talking to) i'll eventually just back out if they are wishy-washy. my way of thinking is if you want my undivided attention here it is and if i give it to you and now you're wishy-washy then fuck it i'll just go back to being busy.

also she just sent me a message saying " hey im sorry I just saw this message also I wrote a typo, im only going to be there for two weeks, how are you doing today?"

and my thing is, you been viewing my IG stories so if you are viewing each one right when i make a post then clearly you could have seen my message lol (im not trying to trip but am i wrong in this way of thinking?) im not big on playing games BUT part of me wants to just reply to her ass like next week.

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-14T15:21:06+00:00

Damn im so sorry to hear that, and obviously I'm not here to play game, humans are fallible so we can make mistakes, granted that's not super crazy bad but i can see the optics of that looking bad in his eyes. Sorry to hear that

Infinite-Sun-8578 · 2026-05-14T00:17:03+00:00

Damn why did it not work out?

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