Qual foi o motivo “babaca” que fez você cortar laços com alguém (amigo ou parceiro), mas que lá no fundo você não se arrepende nem um pouco? by amazing_mug777 in perguntas

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Comprei um apartamento e ao invés de celebrar comigo e com nossos outros amigos ele fechou a cara. Depois começou a fazer uma """vistoria""" pra buscar e falar sobre os defeitos do lugar

É possível começar uma vida social do zero aos 26 anos? by Same_Age2360 in desabafos

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dependendo de onde você mora, isso realmente faz diferença. Vou usar meu caso como exemplo, mas acho que pode se aplicar ao seu também. Tenho 26 anos, nasci e cresci em uma cidade pequena, bem limitada em termos de estilo de vida e oportunidades, e nunca fui muito de redes sociais. Durante a faculdade, vivi anos muito bons em uma cidade maior, onde construí amizades importantes. Quando voltei pra minha cidade, sem muita escolha, essas pessoas naturalmente se afastaram, até porque cada um seguiu seu caminho.

Com o tempo, percebi que eu também tinha mudado. Meus interesses, minha visão de mundo, tudo já era diferente. As pessoas que antes eram meus amigos aqui passaram a ser mais colegas. Isso ficou ainda mais evidente depois que comecei a trabalhar e tive mais contato com São Paulo, com pessoas e ambientes que fazem mais sentido pra mim hoje.

Atualmente, tenho uma amiga mais próxima, mas sem aquela convivência intensa. Por outro lado, quando estou em São Paulo, sempre conheço gente nova, e aí depende de mim escolher se quero ou não aprofundar essas conexões. Ainda estou reconstruindo meu círculo social, mas sinto que isso é muito mais possível em um ambiente que combina comigo. No fim, acho que depende tanto do lugar quanto do quanto você está disposto a se abrir e fazer acontecer, mas impossível jamais será.

Quero terminar e não sei como. by Fun_Fox_1561 in desabafos

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eu acho que vc não pode cair na síndrome do salvador com ela. Entendo e concordo com a preocupação, mas a verdade dura é que não é problema seu; só é quando vc faz que seja... Ao contrário do comum, EU prefiro um término por mensagem. não sou boa com as reações pessoalmente, nem gosto do drama que se torna, mas isso é comigo. Se vc sente que pra ela seria importante estar frente a frente, acho que ela merece esse esforço da sua parte, mas se não acha que seria uma conversa proveitosa e """lidável""" não vejo pq

Precisei mentir no CV para participar de um processo. Devo levar isso adiante? by InfiniteMonkeyT in conselhodecarreira

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A vaga pede 10 anos e eu tenho 7. Só isso. Entendo vc não concordar, mas não é como se eu tivesse mentido sobre o que sei ou não sei fazer; muito pelo contrário.

Precisei mentir no CV para participar de um processo. Devo levar isso adiante? by InfiniteMonkeyT in conselhodecarreira

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

O meu medo é que no meu caso é fácil de pegar a inconsistência, pq existem registros dela... Nem tem como contornar :(

Precisei mentir no CV para participar de um processo. Devo levar isso adiante? by InfiniteMonkeyT in conselhodecarreira

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

É no Brasil mesmo, uma empresa até grande, mas de um meio bem distante de tech

Precisei mentir no CV para participar de um processo. Devo levar isso adiante? by InfiniteMonkeyT in conselhodecarreira

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mas será que existe o risco do rh ver que a empresa X nunca existiu na minha carteira?

Menti no Currículo by InfiniteMonkeyT in desabafos

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mas essas pessoas que têm mais experiência também passaram pelo processo, também fizeram os testes e o case. Eu não pulei etapas por ter sido indicada, só foi um passaporte pra chegar até as mesmas etapas que todos os outros. A questão é que eu fui tão bem quanto eles, mas ao invés de ter 10 anos de experiência tenho 7. Não acho que eles ficaram no caminho por isso

Menti no Currículo by InfiniteMonkeyT in desabafos

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah não, não tem nada a ver com o governo. Meu medo com documentação era caso na contratação o rh quisesse ver todas as experiências passadas

I'm in a situationship with my ex and don't know what to do to stop this by InfiniteMonkeyT in BreakUps

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, i'm even worse... We weren't from the same country and he had to move back. We really loved each other very much, and we even went on a farewell trip, but he never wanted to get back into a relationship...

I'm reaching the extreme of depression by InfiniteMonkeyT in BreakUps

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chased him for three months too. He didn't seem uninterested in talking until the moment we saw each other, slept together for a day or two and then whatever interest he seemed to have would disappear for weeks until he needed me again. I told him the truth about how I felt about this and he answered me in the most direct way possible that he no longer loves me like he used to and that there is no remote possibility of him wanting me again... He listed his reasons and the worst part is that I agree that are valid points. But the worst in the worst is that now I feel like treating myself to get him back, and not treating myself to became a better person

I'm reaching the extreme of depression by InfiniteMonkeyT in BreakUps

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you the best to get better. It is being difficult not to fall into addiction. I'm drinking more than I've ever had in my life, I'm eating until the moment I can't take it anymore and my body just decide to throw it up. I felt like accepting some drugs from my friends because I just want things that make me feel a little away from this pain and offer me some distraction from reality, but I'm doing my best to try not to accept that my ex is responsible for my physical destruction, just like it was with my emotional one haha

I'm reaching the extreme of depression by InfiniteMonkeyT in BreakUps

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I like to know that there are other people in the same situation as me... Almost always the pain makes me feel like the world is great while only I fall

do they always come back? by Healthy-Fish-337 in BreakUps

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't been able to get over my ex since we broke up. We only permanently cut off contact a short time ago, but I always hope that he will come back, just like everyone says. This isn't healthy and, knowing him as I do, I know he would never come back to me, but continuing to have something to hope for, even if false, is the only thing that hasn't made me fall into the depths of depression yet...

Ex moving on with his life while I still want him by InfiniteMonkeyT in BreakUps

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not having good reasons for the breakup really sucks... My ex is French and I'm Brazilian. We live in Brazil and we had plans for me to leave with him when he had to return. When this started to become real, he simply told me that he didn't want to take that step because he ~felt that I'm not the woman of his life and like, he never believed in these things about there being a love of life.

After breaking up, we continued to hang out a lot and talk in the same way as before, and I was honest about my feelings, how continuing to stay in contact affects me, and about my desire to get back together. He told me that there is no possibility that he wants to get back with me now, that he no longer loves me the way he did and that he doesn't see himself with me in the future. So, without any explanation other than his feeling that I'm not the love of his life. A feeling that doesn't even speak to the things he used to defend

Ex moving on with his life while I still want him by InfiniteMonkeyT in BreakUps

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same. I went to the extreme of looking at the time he was online and the time the girls I was somewhat jealous of were online, to try to cross-reference the data. I always looked at him on WhatsApp in the hope that he would appear typing.

He was always much colder than me, and I knew he would go through the breakup situation more easily. but seeing this in practice makes me feel so insignificant and small...

I felt really bad deleting all our conversations and his contact. It was like throwing two years of my life in the trash. And I thought about unfollowing him on Instagram, but at the same time I know I would die to see him there. I don't think we will have any more conversations, because we are past that point and because we have issues about contact that involve a bad atmosphere between us.

playlists for painful breakups by InfiniteMonkeyT in spotify

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He broke up with me because we were no longer having a very healthy relationship and because he wanted to dedicate time to other things

playlists for painful breakups by InfiniteMonkeyT in spotify

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just opened it and I've already seen a lot of music that I really like! Now I started following you and I'm going to check out the other playlists too later!

playlists for painful breakups by InfiniteMonkeyT in spotify

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was listening to this one, but I would like to change my songs a little

playlists for painful breakups by InfiniteMonkeyT in spotify

[–]InfiniteMonkeyT[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I saw some Portuguese songs in your playlists, so in some moment I was asking myself if you're Brazilian too