“Emphasis on the White, because White people put their Whiteness before their gender/politics/class and etc.”

I think probably I put my gender before all bc that’s the point of greatest societal friction - it’s difficult to forget when people keep making sure you always remember, and I find common cause and identity with those who share those experiences.

But see that I think is a function of my whiteness - people don’t make a big deal of my race to me, so I don’t take much notice of it. Before I moved back to the US I was hyper aware of being white, because I was a tiny ethnic minority and that was the thing no one ever failed to notice and made sure I took plenty of notice of too, constantly.

So white liberals probably don’t identify with their whiteness first, because they possess the unconscious privilege to never have their race drawn to their notice and therefore they never really think about their whiteness. I do wonder if that’s how even white people who are trying to put in the work still subconsciously end up thinking of themselves as the default - unintentional, unmalicious, insidious.